Mothers are holidays hard on you?
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Mothers are holidays hard on you?
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Is it especially hard to deal with the holidays missing your child lost to adoption?
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Sofiakat
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I know this is a question for mom's missing kids, but I felt compelled to answer it about my son:
My son's pain grows double EVERY holiday. He thinks about his mom alot at Christmas. We make an ornament every year for her (and one for my mom too who died a few years back). We put the ornament on our tree to remember them. I told him that someday he could put them all in a nice box and wrap it up really pretty with bows and he will be able to give it to her.
Trust me when I say, your kids are thinking about you and love you even if you are not there. |
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snowwillow20
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It used to be but reunion makes life so much better. We don't spend the holidays together but it's still wonderful. |
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magic pointe shoes
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No. It is especially hard to deal with missing my child lost to adoption, regardless of holidays. And unlike suggested in another answer that the thought of the selfless act of giving him to another family should make those feelings of loss better, it doesn't. |
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Christine B
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No because I am really pretty distracted by the busy-ness of the holidays. I miss my son most just out of the blue.For the most part I have had peace and no regrets about my decision. But once in a while, for no particular reason, I think about it and feel sad. So I just literally force myself to stop it and concentrate on how grateful I am that he was born and that a loving family had a place for him. I have two other children and I try to focus that extra love on them. I did the right thing. Sad feelings are very normal and they always pass. |
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Lilac (6 weeks to go!)
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My mom walked out on our family a long time ago and I don't think that she thinks about us ever. |
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*mother of 3 girls*
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its hard for me because i just adopted my 9mon old sister and its her first christmas without her biological mother and i can imagine what her mother is going through at this time. i went through what my daughter/sister is going through even though she doesn't know whats going on just yet. |
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Michael B
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I don't understand the questions? I am a single father and the holidays are hard on me. How do you think a child is "lost" to adoption as you put it. If you gave your child up for adoption he/she wasn't lost, you probably did a very good thing for the sake of your child. I can understand the loss you might feel, but you should also take pride in the fact that you made a very selfless decision to provide a better life for your child. Have a very happy holiday! |
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chonnie
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it must. depending on the person |
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whose (married to an able bodied man)???
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I Live in Ireland and i never heard of anyone with a disability adopt like i think once the baby is cared and loved and wanted ... |
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| How do i find my birth parents? |
| i am 22 and i have no idea of where to begin to find my birth parents cause my real parents don't realy want me to find them!!!... |
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