Mothers of adopted children ONLY, just curious?

aloha.girl59

Good questions!
1) When I first started coming here, I just wanted to help others who had questions about foster-adoption. I didn't expect to gain anything, but I have. So much.
2) My story is that I adopted my son from foster care when he was 2-1/2. That was more than four years ago. Do you want more detail or did you just want to know why I come on this forum? :)
3) After reading posts from people like Gershom, Andraya, Heather H, A Healing Adoptee, and Sunny, I am interested in finding out more about adoption reform. I had no idea that birth mothers are sometimes coerced into placing their babies for adoption and I think that's awful. I had a bad experience when my (now ex-) husband and I started our adoption process with a private agency and that's why we ended up going through the county and foster-adopt. I don't think foster-adopt is perfect by ANY stretch of the imagination and could use some reform as well.
4) I pretty much answered this as part of question 3.

Aloha :)

Marsha R

Wow these aren't easy questions!! I'll do my best.

1. what is it you want to get from this sight?

I'd like to share my experiences and knowledge with others about ethical adoptions and being an adoptee to help aparents make more informed decisions regarding their adoptions and children. I want to be a source of support to fellow adoptive parents without being all sunshine and flowers about it. I want to share my experience with adopting an older child and a toddler from an orphanage also.

2. what is your adoption story?

I am an adoptee-lite (adopted by my paternal grandparents) and the mother of 5 including 3 bio kids and 2 internationally adopted children. My daughter was adopted summer of 06 at the age of 2 1/2 and my son was adopted this past august at the age of 8 1/2. Both are from China and both are special needs.

3. what are information are you trying to acquire?

How to better help the adopted children of today and the future, what we can do to help orphans, how to reduce the number of unnecessary adoptions, and how to be a better parent to my children

4. what have you learned?

That though there are aparents out there who would rather attack and dismiss rather than listen and learn, there are some really great aparents and PAPs out there who do have their kids best interests at heart. I've learned alot of what I said in the answer to #3 from them, and the adult adoptees also!

Erin L

1. What is it you want to get from this sight?

I want to learn from others and share my experience and hope others can learn from me as well

2. What is your adoption story?

We adopted our daughter from Taiwan in September, 2006. She'll be 2 in a couple of weeks! Wow, when I think back to when we first started the adoption process. How much I've leaned!

3. What are information are you trying to acquire?

I don't know that I'm trying to acquire specific information, just continue to learn from others experiences.

4. What have you learned?

I've learned a lot about the complex and varied experiences of adoptees and first parents.

BPD Wife

1) A better understanding so that I can answer my son's questions as he gets older as well as the opportunity to share my experiences with others who might be able to benefit from the information.
2) We adopted a wonderful son 4 years ago from his biological grandparents. I could go into so much more detail, but I think all of my past answers to questions probably cover it. : )
3) Knowledge so that I will better understand my son's needs as he gets older.
4) I've learned that people are a lot less tolerant than I expected them to be of other's opinions, but in the same respect, there are some wonderful people on here who are able to express themselves in a constructive and respective way.

in COGNITO *

1. Insite. There are things we have gone through that was never discusses it our classes. It's nice that there are other that feel like I do. It's also to get some validation for the things I am doing right and encouragement when things are rough and ability to lend support to someone facing tough times.

Although I am an adoptive mom, I feel that there are many unneeded adoptions. I feel women need to be better informed and supported, BUT I DO think PAP's truely want to just give a needy baby some love and AGENCIES BANK ON THAT.

2. While working I ran into someone I knew years ago, I told her about how I had a molar pregnancy, miscarriage, and almost died when giving birth to me daughter. I told her I would like to adopt someday, but wasn't starting the process for a few years. a week later she told me that her daughter was VERY pregnant and considering a late-term abortion. She said that she'd like to meet us if we were up for it. We met and he was born 2 months later. I wasn't expecting to be SOOOOO incredibly sad for her lose. I was physicaly ill for weeks. I had to make sure that it was truely what she wanted before we moved forward (a total of 18 months). He was very sick and drug exposed and likey would have been placed in foster care otherwise. He is now healthier.

3.Justs what ever I can to make me a better mom.

4. There are people from all spectrums of the adoption realm. there are extremist on both sides. There are ones who thinks adoption is the worst thing that can EVER happen to a child even worse than abuse and abotrion and if a person says that are happy, they must be lying.

There are some who think that adoption is always happy and should be a service provided to people looking to be parents not a service to children in need of a home.

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