Mothers - what did you think when you have just given birth to your child and held him/her?
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Mothers - what did you think when you have just given birth to your child and held him/her?
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It's for a speech I'm doing on adoption :)
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grapesgum
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For both of my children, I felt a deep, primal, everlasting bond that could never be broken. Even though I was tired after long labors, I felt like I could have fought off an army to protect them.
I had the privilege of being the labor coach for a young woman who was ambivalent about being a mother. It was the most incredible experience I have ever had to be a third party witness to the primal mother-child bonding. The moment she laid eyes on her son, she started sobbing and saying over and over again - "they were right, I love him, I do love him." The baby turned to her voice and stared into her eyes. Goose-bumps!! She became a wonderful mother. |
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Sippy
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Honestly I was so tired and out of it that I thought he was amazing but I just wanted to rest. It was a couple days later that I just sat and stared at him in amazement. |
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Joy M
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I was so happy. |
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Sania D
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it feels like u r holding heaven in ur arms and cant wait to see it grow bigger .... it is a beautiful feeling to be a mother.... |
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blondie
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There are no words that can explain the immediate love and joy you feel when you first get to hold your baby! It like your heart just skips a beat and you want to cry because you are so happy and everything feels so perfect! After 9 months you finally get to see that perfect little miracle you created and it is breathtaking! So much flashes in your mind and you never want to let go. You feel like you are standing on top of the world because you know you are that child's everything and that child is your everything... |
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Deshawn & Keshawn's mom
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When i had my boys i just cried i was never the first to hold them...i was tired from the epidural on my last baby |
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april s
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All I could think of was, How in the world am I going to care for this tiny baby. I was so scared. But with help from the nurses and friends everything seemed to fall into place. Mother instinct kicked in. |
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Miss Coffee
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I was overwhelmed with love of course, but my oldest had a hard time in the birth canal and her face was very red and smashed, I was afraid of how red it was it looked like she was hurt. But she was fine in a day or 2, and I loved all her hair.
And my youngest the cord was around her neck 3 times so I was scared at how purple she was, they had to rub her a lot to irritate her into crying and get the blood flow back where it should be, then I loved the fact that she had my moms nose! |
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clcalifornia
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I used to work in OB.
The mothers giving up the babys have a variety of feelings . Some are in denial....I mean big time denial. One patient told me that she didn't deliver a baby. Some are very emotional.
Some just shut down emotionally.
Others like the birth mother of my daughter was full of love. The biggest love on the planet. She loved her child but had no way of supporting herself let alone a child. |
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joostine
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i said "Oh my God, he is here"! |
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Heather
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when my daughter was born she was 3 lbs, she went to the nicu when i saw her i remember thinking how little she was and how perfect it was the most overwhelming thing i ever felt |
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Barbara E
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I felt overwhelmed because he was so utterly dependent upon me/. And, because of that very dependence, I knew I was falling so deeply in love with him that I could never let him go. So, realizing that every child must leave his/her parent's home sometime in the future I became so depressed I cried all night.
I think it was the hormones and I did adjust but I had never ever loved anyone in this world with that kind of love before. |
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