My baby brother isnt comming, Adoption?
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My baby brother isnt comming, Adoption?
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iam 15 and my parents are trying to adopt a child, its been 2 years i want to help in any way wee can, everyday we say "we will be picking him up in about 3 weeks" but then ... they have to fill out more junk. i feel like he is getting closer but i think he is actually getting farther and farther away, i havent really told anyone that i really want him to come soooo much, i dont talk about it to my friends and i keep a straight face, i need him here and i want him to come
any ways to help?
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CP
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I'm sure you're very anxious and excited to have a new baby brother, but you are going to have to try and be patient, as hard as that may be.
What about writing letters to him about how excited you are to meet him and can't wait for him to be a part of your family? Even if he can't read them right now, some day when he's older, I'm sure he will appreciate them. |
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solitudesheep
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Why are you people being so insensitive?
I know it's hard but just try and relax. It will all work out and soon he'll be there!!! |
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plump.bunny
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Don't attack this girl, she's in a difficult position as it is.
She's being torn by many different emotions that you probably don't understand. It can be incredibly difficult for the family waiting for a baby, emotionally draining and what not.
Yes, it is about the baby... but the baby is part of the family as a whole. |
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RPMR
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Sorry! Here you will find a lot of people insensitive to your anxiety. It is about the child, but I do understand you wanting your baby brother already! Relax... Have patience. There is nothing you can do now but to be supportive to your parents! Go on living your life. You are 15 yo. When you least expect he will be home! Best of luck to you, your parents, and ur little brother (whoever he may be). May God bless you all! |
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yeahright
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It is hard waiting! I can tell you are going to be a great big sister.
Create a scrap book, interview other family members for the book, decorate a family book with pictures explaining who you are and what it means to you. Perhaps creating a special book of letters or a diary about this experience will help you through the wait.
It sounds like a child has been identified. If not, sometimes the wait can take years. Please keep on living and don't "focus" on this so much at the expense of the rest of your day to day life. The reality is, sometimes adoptions are disrupted, or take longer, if at all. What you want the most will come at the most unexpected time.
You are 15 and old enough to share this experience with your family. I am GLAD your parents are including you in this process--it is the right thing to do no matter what anyone here says. |
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Serenity71
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I know everyone says to be patient but I figure you must be feeling like its taking forever Right...
Adoption isn't the same as your mom giving birth to a baby, there's no set time frame. (I agree its about the child, but people come on, but since the child isn't here yet its also about her and how she's feeling.) Your parents need to do all that paperwork and interviews its just another part of the process. Have asked them much about the home study? I'm sure you must have been included at one point in an interview. In the mean time why not buy some books and learn about adoption from your future brothers POV, and on doing things like life books.
I'm sure your going to make a great sister one day because you are excited and you've already accepted a child coming into your home through adoption. This is about your family too, and you're allowed to be excited, and a bit impatient. After all other people are allowed to feel as they do about things happening in their life, why not you.
(Independant. Give her a break, this is about her too, after all she's PART of the family and its great her parents are including her.) |
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red elephants
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The waiting can be awful can't it? Its great that you are so excited about being an older sister! There really isn't much you can do but hold tight. It can take a lot of paperwork for things to advance and you just have to wait it out.
The suggestion of writing him letters/notes is great. My aunt started a journal for each of her kids while she was pregnant. She just wrote silly things about what she was getting them, when they first kicked and she felt it, how excited she was for them to arrive, etc. I think it helped her pass the time and then when her kids are older its something for them to have and know how much she waited for them and how excited she was.
Maybe start a scrapbook/journal for him. Something you can write notes in and keep put photos of your family right now, little mementos, etc. |
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Fluffy Hamster
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Forget the people that says that its about the child not you! The questions is about you, right!?
Really, when it comes to adoption, thes thing take alot of time, making this time a very arduous point in your life! But dont worry, your brother will come soon, and eventually the paper work will stop, and you will have a new addition to your loving family!
Good lucks with your new brother! Much luv, and have fun!!! |
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Rowan
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this isnt about you , its about the child. Chill out and be patient |
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Anha S
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I second Rowan. Its about the child, not you and your parents. |
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Independ"ant"
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I would recommend staying in reality.
He's not your baby anything until the ink is dry.
Your parents need to stop dragging you into their personal problems.....its not good for your emotional health.
Where are you left emotionally if your parents are never be able to adopt. |
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