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(1) Talk to a lawyer immediately.
(2) DO NOT talk to the adoption agency or anyone else involved in this adoption. They will give you false information and will try to prevent you from exercising your parental rights.
(3) Ignore those who try to tell you that it will be hard on the new "family" to give this baby back to you, or that you should give them a "gift" of a baby.
They are not this baby's family! Too bad for them - it is YOUR child and YOUR family.
A baby is not a gift to be given to people desperate for a baby. |
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tish_part deux
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if the revocation period hasn't ended, then yes.
but...this is why many are against young couples making adoption plans, just because of break ups...
good luck. |
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Carol c
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Talk to an adoption lawyer immediately!! |
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badgirl_2586
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Depends on how long ago you gave her up. Most adoptions have a 6 month (or so) grace period for you to change your mind and cancel the process and so yes you could get your daughter back.
GOOD LUCK!!! |
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Daisey Duck
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You don't say how long ago this was. If the adoption is finalized and the grace period is over than no you can't. If it isn't final yet and grace period hasn't run out then you can try. The only thing that bothers me is the fact that you seem to be saying you want the child back because you and the mother are maybe getting back together. It makes me wonder why the two of you couldn't have been parents to the child even though you split up. Raising a child isn't for just when it's convenient for the parents it's a lifelong commitment. |
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Heather B
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Yes, the baby is your baby until the adoption is finalized.
Get a lawyer and act immediately |
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Gershom
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welcome to the industry you and ur ex / current gf and your child will now be a part of it forever. It was designed to make it very very hard for you to get ur child back.
good luck.
Your only chances are the revoke period what state was the surrender in?Revoke laws are different in every state. |
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Crucio
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I don’t really see what you all being together or not being together has to do with placing a baby for adoption. What happens if you guys split up again? Will the child have to again be placed for adoption?
If your reclaim period has not ended you can get her back, however if it has ended you are just out of luck. Perhaps you all will think next time before making such a big decision based on such a tiny factor: We are no longer together so we have to place the baby for adoption. Oops we just got back together so we want the baby back now.
Your first task is to find out what the reclaim period was/is and go from there. Some are as short as a few days , others can be several months. |
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Heather Leigh
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One good thing about Michigan (if this is where the baby was adopted) is that they are very Pro-father's rights. If you did not sign anything you may have a good chance.
You need to speak with a lawyer preferably in the state the adoption took place. Most lawyer's will give you a free consultation.
Whatever you do ACT NOW....Don't wait or it may be too late. Good luck!
ETA: I have to add to what some others have said. This is YOUR child and you are not responsible to provide a child to another family. They will be hurt, but they can adopt another baby. You can not replace this child though. |
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Surly there is a way, contact the adoption agency and find out how to go about it. After you put your child up for adoption there is a short period of time to " change your mind " but I don't know how long it is. I am sure things will work out for you if you get on the ball now. Good luck to you and my thoughts and prayers go out to you both. |
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Timothy B
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I am an adoptee. You place the child in a good home. Most likely a better/stable home than you could provide. Not once did you mention what you thought what was best for the child, only what is best for you. Are you truly prepared to drag a child away from the only parents she has know just so you will feel better.
You are a selfish perhaps even evil to even think about this. If you love your child let her go. Think about it you are not doing what is best for the child you are doing what is best for YOU. |
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Bailey
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I am pretty sure there is a 6 month grace period. The real question is if the two of you get your baby back and things are less than perfect and you guys break up.. who is going to care for this baby?? will the both of you decide to parent this child regardless of your own relationship problems?? You have to remember even if this child is young things like this (shuffling back and forth between you and adoptive parents) can have an affect. You and your partner have a limited time to act but dont do this unless you are absolutely sure you want the lifelong commitment your baby needs. |
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cats3to2
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You need to hire an attorney pronto. And make sure you tell them you relinquished your rights BEFORE the baby was born. That's illegal in some states. And you will now face the obstacle of proving you are fit parents. Do it right away. |
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Dark_Fire_Angel
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If you both terminated your rights then yeah there most likely no way on getting her back. I'm glad you are back together but the fact remains that you both choose adoption for whatever reasons and if you don't get your little girl back then i'm sorry. I know its not what you wanna hear but the reality of the situation is time and if you terminated your rights and your grace period is over then there no way to ever get them back. A birth mother of mine fought for 5 years on getting her baby back but by that time her child didn't know her and despite her being tricked by these ppl her baby knew those ppl as mom and dad so she felt in her heart to wait for when her son contacts her and that a possibility you both might have to face. Good luck |
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DannyBoo
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NO!!! |
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flaind
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I say leave the situation as it is. You gave up a child because you broke up with your ex. You're hardly ready for children. The people who adopted the baby have been planning and preparing for this for months, like you SHOULD have been. I know you miss the child but what is really best for the baby? A loving family, or you? |
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smiles
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Sorry you regret you decision but you need to think of the baby 1st before your feelings and this family that just got all of their prayers answered you should feel so proud that you gave someone the gift of life. You would devistate this babys new family if you did that. This baby deserves the best of everything this world has to offer and it sounds like you know that and thats why you gave this baby to a loving family stick by your decision dont ruin someone elses life because you want to be back with the mother. Sounds like you two were not ready and your still not ready to be parents. If you do get back together do it right this next time get good jobs buy a home and then think about starting a family. Sounds like you did the right thing dont doubt yourselfs now. |
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