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Cognito above has some great places for you to start.
Definately put your name out EVERYWHERE that you are the father of this child - and you wish to parent.
She is not allowed to put the child up for adoption without your permission - if she's tries to - she will be breaking the law.
Beware though of adoption agencies trying to get past the laws to get the baby for adoption. (they make big bucks of getting babies - many will stop at nothing to get their way)
Definately also get yourself a lawyer. You have legal rights - make sure all t's are crossed and i's are dotted.
I wish you all the very best. |
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cricket
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See a lawyer...If the baby is yours and you want it you have precedent over a stranger. |
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Adopted Jane
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Please follow the ladies above advice Please see a Lawyer ASAP and please get your parents the babies grandparents also involved as to the testimony that they will help raise the baby with you, that will help a lot as well
I wish you the very best :) |
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blondie
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sounds like you need to get a lawyer! or simply go down to your local court house and see how they can help...most have plenty of free services to offer to get you headed in the right direction. |
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FIRST you need to sign up on EVERY punitive father registery in EVERY state, if you don't she can get shipped to another state to give birth and the list is usually state wide only.
Also print some thing up off of the internet realting to criminal action taken for people involved in corrupt adoption activities. Let agencies in your area know you do not intend to place your child and you will fight any attempts to do so.
I can't give you any advice about how to handle the family, but just know that if things don't feel right, then they probably aren't. |
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sam22254
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This is for real. NO LAWYER CAN DO THIS FOR YOU. You need to file with the state for claim of paternity. Also take her money in form of check. Pay for clothes and what ever she needs. If non of this is done you have lost your child also get a lawyer. This has happened to my son so I should know. At least you know your having a baby , his moved in with another man and hid the pregnancy
I thought i would write more and e-mail me and I will explain more. Please understand this ex-girlfriend is scared and if any way you could be there for her, will help both her and your child. Ask for DNA first even if you know the child is yours, you will need this in court(you need to pay for this) Look what happens when you don't know about your child and it's hid from you. Really at all cost DO NOT LET HER GO THROUGH ALONE. |
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Ghost Writer Rides Again
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Sign up for every punitive father registry in all 50 states! Obtain a lawyer! Notify your local court about the situation and find out about your rights and how to obtain custody. Adoption agencies will cook up every trick in the book to make money off of your baby. If you sign the punitive father registries in only one state, they can ship her to another state (and they will) where you will have no right to your child. Don't let her or her parents bully you or convince you to relinquish your baby. This is your baby too! This is not her choice alone! Fight for your child! |
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Anastasia Beaverhousen
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She CAN NOT put the baby up for adoption as long as you are protesting it! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE fight for your right to be that baby's daddy! But be careful, if you do stop her from adopting, you'll have to fight for custody. Also, if she does decide to keep it, it sounds like she's the kinda girl that would want child support. GET A LAWYER ASAP!!!
Good for you for wanting to be a part of your baby's life!
I hope this helps. |
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queeny
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You need government help! There are lawyers that can help and if you find the right person then you could get help for free.
~On a different note- you are an amazing man and we need more like you!~ There are so many women who WISH thier baby's daddy was around and here you are TRYING to be a dad and now she wont let you? I HATE women like that! |
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Kayti C
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As the father you have a right to know, or take in the baby. It's not just the mother's choice. Go to the municipal court in your city and talk to a lawyer about it, then (this might be hard but it needs to be done) confront her parents with whatever law the lawyer is going to hand you. If you want to keep that baby you have full rights to be it's guardian. |
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sweet_sativa2000
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I applaude you, thats something you dont hear everyday.. I would call up a legal advise line and definately talk to someone about your options, she may not want to be in the baby's life but that doesn't mean you shouldn't be.. You have rights to. I really hope you find the answers your looking for and that things work out for you.. Good Luck..
I agree with Queeny... |
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Tina L
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Being a mother she is so heartless! Fight for your baby, go get a lawyer! You are the dad, you have full rights as her |
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MuM-2-3
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as far as i know a baby cant be adopted out without both parents consent, talk to a lawyer as soon as you can. They will set you in the right direction and hopefully you'll be able to gain custody of the baby after birth. |
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cupcakes_and_love
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You can actually file for custody of the child even if it hasnt been born yet. If you are short on cash you can also file a fee waiver because it's pretty pricey to file, anyone over the age of 18 that is not you can serve your girlfriend the court documents. Also, if a lawyer is needed and money is an issue lawyers are REQUIRED to take on a certain percent of pro bono you can email this place http://www.probonoproject.org/ and they will help you. I hope this helps! |
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Voice
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You need to get a lawyer because if she does go to an adoption agency, she could lie and say she had a one night stand and doesn't know who the father is and they wouldn't have a clue! if you put up a big stink, then you can have the law on your side and get a DNA test and fight for your child! |
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said in jest
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You most certianly can stop it, it is half yours! Get a lawyer and stay on top of it.... You are a good person.
♥. |
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Kym M
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Well your girlfriend is being totally unreasonable. It is your right as the baby's father and no one including her and her family have that right. Even though she is the one pregnant she must still inform you. It is silly for her and her family to want to adopt the baby out if you and your family are willing to raise it. I suggest seeking counselling for you both so she can truly see how much you want this child. And if she is still being unreasonable then seek legal aid and go from there. I am sorry to say that when we get pregnant we can be a little unreasonable and unbearable. Try to work things out with her and tell her your feelings. You have rights too so use them. Good luck and god bless. :) |
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forgin
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In most states there is something called a Putative Father Registry. If you oppose her adoption plan, you will need to place your name on the Putative Father Registry. If you do this, then legally the adoption can't occur. Agencies/attorneys are required to check this registry. |
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lollypop4sure****
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if the child is your u have as much right as the mother's baby what u have to is go t ur gf and tell her how u feel about this matter, if she doesn't understand go to a lawyer to open a case,if things turns out fine u could be given the baby after she/he has born thats if the baby's mother doesn't want her
u have nothing to be afraid of , is she doesn't want tha baby raise the baby one day she will realise who stupid she has been |
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Orion
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You need to find an attorney who deals with adoptions. Let him know of your desire to care for your child and your girlfriends desire to place for adoption. The adoption agency is legally obligated to contact anyone who may be the father and determine paternity. This is something the attorney can do. They may even seek to get a paternity test now to show you have legal right to your child. You do have rights but if you don't stand up and prove paternity the child could be put up for adoption without your knowledge. Best of luck |
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cowboy_fan
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Your baby can't be put up for adoption without your permission. Get a lawyer. |
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sherri
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The first thing you need to do is go see a lawyer.
I have a one year old child and i have told the father about my child and he wants nothing to do with it. i am hoping in the future that my boyfriend can adopt him when we get married. By law my son cannot be adopted without his fathers permission.... so it should be illegal for her to put your baby up for adoption without your permission. I am not sure what country you live in but it may be good to read up on adoption laws. You may have to go through court to prove you are the father. It may be worth while trying to get full custody of the child when it is born if she doesn't want to raise it.
Hope this helps |
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Mimi
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Um..I think you should get a lawyer but I'm not really sure. But yeah, I think a lawyer can help you to fight the adoption or something because your the dad so you have a right to raise your child as well as the mom. If she wants to adopt out the baby why can't she just let you raise the baby. Plus then later on she might want to see the baby too. So yeah, good luck and talk to a lawyer. |
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angelfire
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I gave a child up for adoption and I will tell you this the agency is required to try and make contact with the father to have you sign termination papers or to contest against it. You need to get a layer and if she dosnt want the baby and you do you Can get custody. The adoption acency cannot BY LAW let her adopt the baby out if you object to it, dna testing will have to be done of course, definantly get a layer! If you are uncertain about anything call an adoption agency and ask their policy's. |
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Nora
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I'm so proud of you. but if you want the child , but how the mother , i would suggest you both get married. then settle down at your family side since yours are supportive.
once you wife family sees how caring , good side of yours eventually they will learnt to accept you.
good luck |
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LC
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What state are you in? Some states allow, which I feel is absolutely absurd (an aspect of adoption that I am against), the birth mother to forfeit the rights of the birth father. However, you should contact an adoption attorney. If possible, contact the same one that the birth mother is using. If you make a claim to the baby, I believe that prevents her from forfeiting your rights. |
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Santa's Lil' Helper
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I can not stress enough the importance of obtaining an attorney as soon as possible. Good Luck!
Child Welfare Information Gateway
Children's Bureau/ACYF
1250 Maryland Avenue, SW
Eighth Floor
Washington, DC 20024
703.385.7565 or 800.394.3366
Email: info@childwelfare.gov
This is a website that is a good place to check for a putative father's registry in your state. It also has information on adoption law.
http://www.childwelfare.gov/systemwide/laws_policies/state/ |
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Master and Commander
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Find an adoption agency in the state you live. They can provide you with the best info. I admire your willingness to be a father, but are you prepared financially? Do you realize your path will now be set. If you raise this child, it does not matter what YOU want anymore. Your life will be to serve the well-being of that child. Think about it.
Also-adoptions are the closed secret they once were. Adoptions can be very open. It is possible to be a presence in your child's life after they've been adopted. |
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opedial
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Well first thing stop calling your child an it that might help! |
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