My husband and I are thinking of adopting a Korean girl.?

tashalares

thats nice, but i think it have so many children in your own country that needs a home why would you wanna go to another country and adopt

Zuko

I just wanted to say that if you intend on adopting a child from Korea, PLEASE do everything you can to learn about her culture and where she comes from... and incorporate that into her every day life. Save ALL the papers so if she chooses to find her birth parents, she CAN. And, regardless of how wonderful your home is, don't ever make her feel guilty about wanting to find her Korean family. It's not a slight against you.

And be prepared for the wonderful world of "Yeah, well you're not my REAL mom anyway!" (A very hurtful statement that I used on my mom just about every time we got into an argument when I was a kid.)

Patience and understanding. I have to ask... do you have any other children that are either a) adopted domestically or b) are your biological children?

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Well actually, that makes me feel a LOT better... At least if you adopt a Korean child, she'll still be in touch with her culture via your husband.

By the way, I wasn't trying to be offensive, thumbs downers. I was just trying to make a point about the REALITY of adoption. And if you're aparents, you can bite me. Because you DON'T know what it's like from our end.

Gaia Raain

http://www.adoptedthemovie.com/
http://onthefaultline.com/

There are a couple good places to start. Here's another:

http://adoptionthreads.com/forum/index.php

There's no better place to get your information than from those who have lived it! Talk to lots of international adoptees, read blogs written by international adoptees, and transracial adoptees, stick around here and ask questions. Best of luck to you!

Jennifer L

South Korea has one of the most restrictive adoption programs out there. There are only a very few agencies that are able to facilitate adoptions out of South Korea and even then, there are rules about how far away the adoptive parents can live from the actual physical agency.

Please do your research, not only on the adoption process, but on parenting adopted children, cultural needs of an international adoptee and how to choose an ethical agency.

Best of luck to you.

Preston M

Just got done watching Nightline with that Jim Ler...? The adoption process for Korea and the United States (Reciprocity) has not been renewed yet and the current international agreements between these two countries is still pending. If for some reason the minor outstanding issues cannot be resolved by August of this year (2008), there might be a freeze on Korean adoptions. The advocate did not believe this would happen, but you might want to get a hold of the U.S. adoption contact for Korea and learn about any timelines, or pending new rules for adoption soon.

smiller61405

From what I have learned and read about adoption, (we're adopting too), it takes quite a long time, you should start ASAP with the paper work. It takes about two years to complete the paperwork and finally have a baby to hold in your arms.
I googled and found this link, there may be some info on this site, not sure.

babygirl911

my moms friend adopted a little girl from korea and she said that it did take a while, but she also said since you are out of the state adopting then it would take a while anyways but you will be able to adopt her,, and also i am adopted so i know what you are talking about!

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