My husband and just found out...?

AdoreHim

I maybe a bit one sided here, but I am adopted and have 2 adopted children, and there is nothing wrong with adoption. As a matter of fact, it is wonderful. If I thought it was not a good idea, because I was adopted, do you think for one moment, I would have adopted myself? No. I cannot see why people take such a negative approach when it comes to adoption today. If I put all the negative comments about adoption and abortion together, there would be far more negatives about adoption- which both saddens and sickens me. Do not listen to others, if it is in your heart to adopt do it!!!

Randy B

I guess the first question you need to ask yourselves is to YOU (both) want children? Never mind grandparents, inlaws, neighbors..... What do you want.

Once you decide, and if that decision is that you want children then you have to take a look at the alternatives. Adoption is one of them. Being a foster parent is another. If you choose adoption then explore the alternatives such as agency adoption, private adoption, foster care adoption or international adoption among others. Educate yourself on these options and what is the best fit for you and your husband. If it's a good fit for you then you need to consider if it's a good fit for any child you wish to adopt.

Once you do that then you will know which way to proceed. You are not the first couple who has been there and done that. You just have to make sure it's what you want.

Sophie

FOLLOW YOUR HEART. If you want to be parents then go for it. Research all you can on the available options and go with what you feel is right for you and your husband (not your family).

Suzie M

i think that if you and your hubby want to have kids then yes by all means, adopt. i personally think that there is a reason that some people are not able to procreate, and its because there are so many children in this world that need loving parents and they were not lucky enough to have been born to those kind of parents. kids who are adopted are lucky because when they do get a home its because they are wanted and needed. i think alot of people who adopt. if i was not able to bear children i would adopt

Half My Love Is In Iraq

I think adoption would be a great solution for you and your husband. If you are really sure that you're ready to be parents, there are plenty of children in the world who are looking for parents. It would be wonderful for you to turn to adoption. Just remember that it is a process. Good luck.

Daisey Duck

You have to do what is right for you. You will always find those who have negative things to say. You and your husband need to sit down and discuss this as it is your decision and your decision only. Talk to social services and see what all is involved. It can help you see if it is the right road for you to take. You can also check into foster care to see if this would be right for you. Don't let anyone talk you out of it just because of their negative feelings. Many including myself are glad we were adopted. This is your life and your decision only the two of you can decide what is right for you

Shauna

I think if you have the desire in your heart for children and you and your husband are good people who would treat a child well with all the love in the world. Then why not adopt. I know there are people out there with negative adoption stories, but there are also people out there with positive stories. You also need to think there are people out there that had birthed their own child and have had negative experiences. Life isn't perfect no matter how hard we try. Do a lot of research and do what is best for you and your husband.

Just someone

If you guys really want children and since you guys can't, then see what it's going to take to adopt. Or you can try foster care.

Jenn M

do whats in your guys heart if you want a child and cant have one adopt a few that need a loving home dont go thur life alone just the two of you

Emanon

You and your husband need to decide for yourselves if you wish to stay childless. I don't quite understand why people are so negative about adoption as adopting a child is such a wonderful gift. I am adopted and am extremely grateful for my family.

mom to be

You and your husband are the only ones who can decide this. If you want children than you should look into adopting. Do not let what other people say interfere with you decision. If you ask enough people you will find someone who is against just about anything.

Jennifer L

You have to decide what's right for you. Being an adoptive parent isn't for everyone and I'm sure you've already been told that adoption doesn't cure infertility.

My best advice is to take the time to really grasp and grieve for this loss. Things may look differently in six months or a year. Give yourself time.

USAF wife # 2 due in june

thats all up to you. Do you want kids? if you do then yes adopt. if you dont then no dont adopt. Its all about what you and your husband want. Dont try and make other people happy do what you feel is best for the both of you.

Nichola H

its all about what is in your hart . i was adopted when i was only a baby and im so glad i was .i think adoption is the most wounder full thing in the World as there is so meany children out there that is looking for a loving home . im 25 and me and my hubby are thinking about adoption .feell free to e mail me if you want to chat

jcurrieii

First...Are you sure you're sterile? Are you sure your hubby is sterile? (It only takes one of you to be sterile.)
Or, is it just that something about your Uterus?

Talk to your OB/GYN about a referral to a Fertility Specialist. It could just be that your Uterus won't allow you to carry a child to term. If this is true, you can have the Specialist harvest a few of your eggs, and your husband can "stimulate" production of his own gametes into a cup. The Doctor can "mix" and pop the batter in some-one else's oven to bake it for you (it's called surrogacy).

Second, have you had a SECOND OPINION? I have heard of any number of "infertile" couples that then had a child...because the Doctor didn't know what (s)he was talking about, or read something incorrectly on a blood test.

Good Luck!

EDIT: Adoption...adoption is the greatest gift a person can give an otherwise unwanted or unloved child that someone else can not, or will not, raise.

Darghon

Adopt one. And as the time goes by, their minds will change. But once u have decide on it, u must not waver a bit.

tish_part deux

foster care... or door number 2.

there are MANY ways that you can include children into your life, without parenting.

good luck.

xoxloveletter323

Are you positive you can't have kids? no fertlity drugs or anything?

Anyways I think adoption is good..my cousin is adopted and she is wonderful.

Eilidh C

yes u cant not hae kids
kids are a gift

have u thought of surogacy then the baby is urs and it may help u bond with it

adoption

if u are not sure try fostering first

x sorry to here the news good luck on finding a baby x

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