Nadya Suleman - do you think adoption is the answer...?

Flying Monkey #073177

Must be nice to have 14 kids and be able to afford such a swank web page. *snort* She should be putting shoes on feet and food in bellies, not paying for a website designed only to rake in sympathy cash from the unsuspecting.

I won't give her a dime. All I see with families like this are people looking to exploit their offspring. Makes me think of the Dionne Quintuplets and the zoo they lived in. Effing sick.

BlairWB

I think it's rich that she made a big deal about how she would neer recieve welfare, but expects people to donate to them on a website.
I honestly feel sorry for her mother, her father and all her children.
There is something not quite right about that woman.

Heather Leigh

Augggghh... This woman makes me flippen nuts. She is a nutcase that is already exploiting her children. But, I don't think they should be removed and placed for adoption. At least not now, she hasn't done anything abusive or neglectful that I have seen.

I also have concerns that if they are removed, no sane person would be able to keep the family together.

ETA: I have seen the website and think it is disgusting, but I haven't left a comment.

BPD Wife

I struggle with this one. For as much as I do not believe the kids are being abused, I do wonder about their living conditions and how safe they truly are. I would not advocate removing the children from the home simply because there are 14 of them, however, if the kids are in any danger because of the situation, then I would support CPS getting involved to review the case. Some of the photos that were shown of the house she is living in - prior to the birth of the new babies - would leave me concerned enough that I would support CPS doing regular reviews just to insure the children are safe and being taken care of appropriately.

Just a Mom

She should not have her rights taken away anymore than the rest of us with large families. I won't give her money because my money goes to raising our own 7. I have no opinion on if she should have had all these children or not because all I know is what the media presents.

Jackie B

No, adoption is not the answer for those babies unless it can be proven that the children are abused and neglected. I think she needs to have quite a few visits from the state when the babies come home. I saw her website and it made me sick. On one hand, I think she is selfish and asking the public to donate to take care of her children is ridiculous. On the other hand, it is and should always be about the children and I hope they are well taken care of. I'm not too worried though, soon enough she will be selling her story and the money will come rolling in, if it hasn't already. What is sad is that these poor babies are already being exploited by their mother,the media and society like some kind of freak show.

Rad-Tech

I think that these children need to stay together if she is willing to raise them. Some adopted children go through life not knowng who they are. Imagine when they would find out that they had so many brothers and sisters out there! Yes, I know many adopted children who are happy with their situation, but not all. I think its best to keep families together if its possible. As for support, I think we should help out. These children did NOT choose to be born into this situation, and regardless of their mothers irresponsibility these children have a right to be fed and clothed just like any other child.

Freckle Face

I think there is something mentally off with her. I hope she gets help. I understand wanting a large family. I don't understand having children to fill a void within yourself. I think its wrong.

I was never a very big fan of infertility treatments. I think there is a very fine line you walk morally and ethically and this case just confirms that for me.

I have no problem helping out families who fall on hard times but i will not go out of my way to help people who intentionally throw themselves and their children under the bus.

These children do need an advocate to make sure their individual needs are being met. Someone has to look out for the welfare of those kids since i do not believe it is possible that one parent no matter how loving can efficiently provide for 14 children 7 yrs old and younger. I think this situation is a perfect set up for neglect but since that has not yet occurred, I do not think adoption is the answer.

She sounds like a selfish, irresponsible and immature person. Poor kids.

Daisey Duck

No they shouldn't take the kids away. No I haven't left a comment or given money to her. There are a couple of family's where I live that I help out by getting things for the kids that they need, and by taking the kids places, the zoo, bowling, to the movies things they otherwise wouldn't be able to do.
Last night on one of the news channels the were talking about the fact that she had already been offered a tv show of some kind.

I don't think she should have her children taken away simply because she is a single mom of 14. However, I do hope that she is working with CPS to ensure that these children are getting there needs met.

I have not left any comments (don't plan too) nor will I give her money. I'm not in the habit of enabling people who knowingly put themselves in a tough situation.
I will and do help those families that have fallen on hard times and just need a helping hand, not a hand out.

DevonChaos

I don't think that having that many children is reason enough. They would have to do a serious study into her lifestyle and habits and the way she raises the children. I would think that a single woman, even if she had the help of her parents, would have a hell of a time raising 14 children. Especially 8 babies at once. If they have the ability to hire help or have a volunteer, maybe it would help a bit. I would hate to see the family broken up just because of the number of children.
That being said, I think this woman is one of THE most irresponsible, immature people to have been in the media recently. There is no reason for her to be continually producing children without a means to care for them. I understand that there are no laws against it, but people need to understand their limitations. I think she does actually understand them, but doesn't care, though.

I won't donate money to her. She put herself in this predicament, and I'm sure that she'll make plenty off her book/movie/tv show deals. I have my own children to take care of.

HappyMomAnna

I believe the idiot doctor who allowed this should support all of the children she has--for the rest of his life. Just like any other man who makes a baby.

The fact is that 3-of the older children are special needs and no telling how the little ones will do. I have 2 special needs children and she really needs much more then money to support her children.

The problem with Fertility Clinics is that they Will Make a Baby for anyone willing to PAY for it and able to... No Questions Asked and No Home Study... Having been behind the doors of the doctor office myself--the only standard that matters is How Much is willing to be paid...

I actually find the fertility business to be every bit as unethical as the adoption Business ---can--- be except that at least with adoption there is some efforts made to protect the child enough to do a home study.

These little children are going to have a very tough road ahead and personally, I HOPE SHE can get millions and millions of dollars because she Needs It and so do the children and tax payers of California....

I myself Have Contributed to the fund to help support these babies because I would MUCH rather they remain together--OUT of Foster Care and hope that Mom can find quality and supportive assistance.

I'm not sure why NOT Helping her would Teach her a Lessons--It's Too Late for Lessons to Serve any Value Here!

***p.s.--the website doesn't bug me as I know websites are one of the few things that people can Make Something out of Nothing for as little as $10.99 a year.

QWERTY

I left a comment and would not give her money. The children are the victims here but I think the woman is a mental case. Why should she EXPECT us to pay for her greed and need for attention? If we don't the State of California will and the taxpayers should be outraged. She has put everyone in a horrible situation and she should not be rewarded for that.

If she gets what she wants (money, handouts and fame) from this I just wonder how many copy cats there will be.

Rowan

No, that is not a good enough reason to take her kids from her. If the government did that, where would it stop?

i think so counseling is called for though.

Hermione

There is obviously something seriously wrong with her and she should be evaluated for this - she is irresponsible and stupid. If she can care for the children then fine but what are the chances that a woman who acts as she does can actually raise a one or two kids let alone her brood. Whether the kids stay with her or not they are doomed. Decisions for adoption should not be based on financial reasons though. It is a sad fact that she managed to get IVF treatment so many times - how did she pay for that?

Only a fool would give her money on a website, she shouldn't be allowed to make money out of her children thats exploitation, and you have no way of knowing what she is going to spend it on - maybe more IVF treatment?

Natalie S

I too have i asked a question about this woman, she is very irresponsible to have had these children but it's done now! she needs help and the company who carried out the IVF need their license revoked

Kute_N_Pretti

I'm kind of on the fence with this one....i dont think CPS should step in and take the kids because no neglect or physical abuse is going on....yeah neglect because she had kids knowing she couldnt take care of them....but 99% of children that are born people arent financially ready....so i dont think that is enough to take them....she should required to get some counseling because obvious she has some issues.....unfortunately for her she will be monitored closely from CPS for a while....first wrong move she's hit....she's stupid if u ask me....i love kids...hell i got 2 of my own...single parent...BUT...i work and i'm not on welfare.....so i just dunno.....

tish_part deux

not sure about adoption...but psychotherapy would be nice. and why we're at it, why not get some for the duggars and john and kate, et al.

hyperbreeding for attention is indicative of a mental disorder, IMO.

i decided against leaving a comment. because my words would be been very offensive.

emmas*mommy

i dont care.

Nolan and Evelyn Mommy

YES YES YES YES!!!!!! i don't wat to pay for all of her Babies i have two of my own to worry about!!

FlutterMeBy

As long as all the children are being cared for and not neglected, there is really no need for CPS to take the children from their home. Our foster care system are already swamped with millions of children- children that didn't have a roof, food etc. Why add to that if its not needed? Maybe they can keep an eye on them and if she takes a wrong step, then sure.

I do think it was irresponsible of her to have the in vitro fertilzations when she already had 6 children. Most of all, it was totally irresponsible of her to have more children when she's living with her folks and is unemployed.

The 8th baby was a suprise, they were only expecting 7 babies. The doctor that done the treatments shouldn't have. When you fill the forms out and such, it does ask for previous pregnancies and such. I would think that a woman with 6 children...should have been a warning bell. Having that many babies at once can be dangerous for babies and mother.

The first live 8 babies that was born in the states like 10 years ago, one of the babies died a week after being born. The others are fine though.

Her case is totally different from John and Kate+8 and the Duggar family. Those families were fiancially stable enough to support the babies, the tv show and all that was just an added bonus.

I'vent left comments and nor will I leave donations. I don't feel sorry for the woman. She got herself in this mess. This is no way to bring up children, especially in todays economy. It's hard enough for working parents to support 1-4 children but now that the woman has 14 children and the taxpayers are basically supporting hers.

Snickette

Lets face it, the woman's a crackpot. She's mentally unstable at best. She can't support herself, financially, emotionally or physically, let alone the children. Her parents are headed for a nervous breakdown and where will she be then?

It's time for some serious intervention, at the very least.

Ouida B

Yes, I think it would be the best option for the octuplets. They will need much more than she can provide.

zaza

Yes, because she lives with her parents and she has no job. I think the best decision for her is to put them into foster care and get a job and get a home and get money, then when she has the money, a home, and a job, I think she can take the kids back. But it is not my decision, it's hers.

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