Need help to find my son that I put up for adoption.?

Samone

As an adult adoptee, I'd like to tell you that every day of my childhood, I dreamt of my birthmother comming to find me. I always wondered who do I look like? Where does my personality come from? what's she like? Why did she give me up?

Look for him.

A good place to start would be either with the agency, or lawyer or if thats not availible try your local social services department.

Start by asking for non identifying information. Depending on the state that you live in you may even be able to get identifying information.

Register register register! There's plenty of web sites out there that will allow you to register for free another poster has listed a couple for you. But get your name out there. List any details you know. His date of birth, the state, city he was born in. Make it easy for him, that if he's searching for you too, he'll be able to find you with ease. Don't forget to list your name with mutual registry sites too, meaning if he registeres & you do... you'll be put in touch with each other.

Try placing an ad on his birthday in the paper of the city he was adopted in, or even born in. Everything is worth a shot. My bmom did this while we were both searching for one another.

There's nothing wrong with a birth mother trying to find her son, don't listen to anyone who tries to tell you differently.

Freckle Face

Annelle,

Ignore ignorant people like Miss B.!

Good luck with your search!:)

OMG, seriously do not listen to these people! Please search and follow your heart. I'm hoping someone will come and give you a decent answer soon.

Here is one site you can search regarding laws in the state you live in.
http://adopteerights.net/nulliusfilius/?page_id=39

try registering here at thesre free sites:
http://www.isrr.net/
http://registry.adoption.com/

try this site for support:
http://www.adultadoptees.org/

That's all i can find right now. If i've missed something, hopefully someone can add to my answer. All the best:)

Gwynneth

For those of you calling her dumb and making unbelievably rude comments you need to find something better to do! People can be such losers!
Being 14 is tough, throwing the scary experience of being pregnant, well I couldn't imagine! What she did was very admirable! She did the best thing for this child. There are so many ignorant people who would have gotten an abortion aqnd forgot about it.
I think that you did a wonderful thing by giving your child a chance at life and also by giving what ever family he may have gone to a wonderful chance at being parents!
Are you able to ask your parents? You may need to go to the court house and talk to someone about looking it up on file. You should have every right to look. Also you may even contact a talk show...Maury, Oprah..May sound silly, but they may actually help you. Good luck to you. And don't be discouraged, don't think about your son being angry with you. He may even be looking for you this very moment. I'm sure he understands, if he knows the situation. And he may have his questions, but thats part of the reason you may want to find him, to explain to him...Good luck and God bless

â˜… Kelly â˜…

ask your local lawyers to dig through their records!
you may get lucky, as i doubt your parents would go miles to a lawyer when there's one close! (or go back to where you lived at 14 and ask! if you've moved that is!)
if your parents won't tell you anything, you could ask other family members if they where told anything! good luck!

K B

look for the adoption agency you used they will know who adopted your son good luck

h@pP1Y 1n l0v3 :]

Research and visit the adoption agencies in the area
Fallow your hart and GOOD LUCK

Amber E

there's companies that will help you find him. google it. beware of fraudulent companies though

~*Jane*~

wow. maybe try the court system for some help.

gnomus12

Research and visit the adoption agencies in the area....that's a start.

"here goes"

Let him come to you. I was adopted and I could really tell you alot of things, but the number one thing you could for him is to not mess up his life by trying to bring yourself into his life so fast. When it comes to this, I know how the adopted kid feels, and what they want to know. But to jump into his life full blast is not doing him right. Do it slow, take your time - time for him, time for you. you want to make sure he has been told he was adopted, because his parents may not have told him,that might make him resent you. There are lots of ways of finding people, but there are alot of issues you should cover before even thinking about trying to find somebody you gave up for adoption. Go to adoption agencies websites and browse through them to get ideas on how to begin your search, but also get a feel of what the parents and children feel as well. There are steps involved in reuniting with a child you gave up for adoption, and if you love that child then you will want to make sure you do everything right, otherwise you might freak him out. We all want to know the story and why, but it is equally important to take it slow.
Best of luck to you; it must have been hard to have a child at 14 years old, and then watch it leave. My biologicial mother was 16 when she give birth to me. I have since located her and the only thing I remember the most about our conversation is that she said: "she did get the chance to hold me one time, before they took me away and she never saw me again"- and she always thought of me, but she made sure that she would be easy to locate when and if I got ready to find her and then she cried. She however has more drama in her life than I want to deal with, so it is limited the volume of time I put into it. This is just my story of events as an adopted child, I do hope others will respond so you can gather lots of ideas and they will all help you achieve your goal.

LaLa

look for him if u want him but he might be mad at u

missbitch10393

umm u had a kid at 14 idk what to tell you cuz im 14 boutta be 15 y the hell would u put it up or adoption in the first place are u dumb

j_e_n_t86

You should have thought about this before you got pregnant...
it is probably better if you don't find him, he may not even know that he was put up for adoption, also you could end up disappointed... he could be in a bad place in his life right now... or he could be doing great... but you would be extremly hurt if he was not doing so good and there was nothing you could do about it...

Give up, its for the better

If he was 14, he probably holds a lot of resentment that you gave him away ....rethink this decision ...it may be harder to deal with than what you're going through now.

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Look 4 one than pray.

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