People who have been adopted to you wish you had a open adoption or closed?

Heather B

No human should grow up not knowing who they are or where they came from

MidnightRyder

I"M 44 yrs old when i was a 7 month old baby i was adopted by an air force family..when i was 11 yrs old my dad sat me down and told me..and as i got older they told me more...when i was 18 i found my birth mother..I'm glad that i found her cause i always wonder who she was and why she couldn't keep me(she was poor)..the folks that raised me are my mom and dad...if u adopt u should tell the child cause it is the right thing to do...open adoption is a wonderful route to take..it leaves the birth mother at ease that her child is growing well and isn't dead...not a nice thing to say but if u think about it..it's true..and if the child grows up and wants to find the birth mother and father be there to support him or her..cause it's the right thing to do...your child will never turn to there birth parents and leave u in the dust...u will always and forever be mom and dad...trust me...this woman gave u her child to raise as your own...let her see the results..before she takes her last breath

hippie

my birth mom died when i was one. she was 15 and died when she was 16 from ovrdose of heroin. but in my opinion i erealy would want to have contact. i lovemy mom know but it would be great to see and now the person i came out of. I hope you choose open i think ur new kid would so appreciate as it got older. + by the way my mom toold me when i was a baby and kept telling me as a i got older till i new like that!
+ even though i dont know u i am proud of adopters they really help. thanx. if my mom hadn't adopted me i d probably be a foster kid. <3

Randy B

Mine was closed and I've personally never had any contact with my bio mother and I've never really cared to have any. The info may be available somewhere but for me if I want to look for it or petition to get it but for me, my parents are the man and woman who raised me. I'm thankful that my bio mother/father chose to place me for adoption vice the other alternatives however 45 years ago things were a bit different and the alternatives were not as prevalent as they are now.

I've always known, from as young as I can remember, that I was adopted. It's never come as a surprise to me but at the same time I've never been beaten over the head with the issue either. It's just part of who I am.

Kelly M

i don't remember being told. i hate adoption, and i have already contacted her.

Carnie C

i had a closed adoption which i'm fine with.

My bparents found me . . . i was not fine with that. It took a long time to come around to the idea of reunion since i felt my records were sealed and i couldn't be found.

Once I came around to reunion, it was ok for awhile, then it got bad and we went through many years of no contact with my bmom (i did speak with my bdad though). Now, since the birth of my granddaughter, we are on speaking terms again but it is guarded.

I've always known i was adopted; my parents had the OBC; it was okay and no big deal. Just didn't matter. I still ran around and played like any other kid my age did.

and, as adult, with the exception of Y!A, i do the same.

jbuckley690

Open adoption. I'm 18 years old I've known I was adopted ever since I can remember, and my sister is adopted too. I consider my parents my real parents, no doubt about it. they are my real family. i have no interest in meeting my birth parents, i don't really care, they're no part of my life. even if i were to meet my birth parents and like them, they would never replace my real parents who raised me. and i think it's great you're adopting and that you care enough to give a child a life they wouldn't normally have.

dolcefiorebabiii

I hate my birth mother, for a logical reason, she gave my two sisters and i up when i was two years old. && then a few years ago, my sister katalena, found her, met her, & katalena was in her way to colege, my mom influenced her to drpo out, and move with her to AC(atlantic city) my sister is now on her third child, un married & not working, because she cant, her fiance works, && during this she found out my mom was taking care of her girlfriends children, while we went from house to house! I was adopted, my olders sister werent, but my mom never told me i couldnt have contact with them. I told my birth mom i wanted nothing to do with her! I am bi-polar, I have depression & I just feel so unwanted & like a burden, because of the first 7 years of my life. I think the worst thing is to find your parents.

my real family are my mom and dad, the people who raised me!!
&& you know I feel fine about it because most people dont get adopted, they get kicked out at 18 with a little bit of money in their pockets.

I was adopted at 7, so i knew all about it, my mom never hid anything from me. the only donw side is i dont know my dads side of the familys health!! because my birth mom was too high and intoxicated to remember., i was born addicted.

I try to look up now though, and not live in the past, but its a huge part of my life, thats still affecting me today.

an all italian family adopted me, it was tough when i started going to school at first, being that I'm bahmian & Chinese, so I just throw in the italian, becuase at the end of the day, its too mcuh to explain to people all of this.

sorry if i seem like rude, but it hurts.

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