Question about adopted children out there?

rachael

i have always known. so there was no discovery for me.

i cant answer if it changed my life or not, i dont know any different. its just the way it is.

i thought of my bparents all the time. i found my bmom 9 years ago and bdad a year and a half ago.
i never hated them. i was angry for a couple years, but i was also 13-15...not a good time for anyone. its hard being a teen as it is, my adoption just made me feel more of an outsider. my only sorrow is that i didnt find them sooner.

my first encounter with my bmom was very heated....i surprised her with a phone call. she had no warning. so we were talking each others ears off! i believe it was 4 hours we talked.
with my bdad it was much more surreal. HE surprised ME. (actually-3 way call w/bmom) so after i stopped swearing and stammering over myself, we had a good talk. much more toned down. when i got off the phone....i had a hard time believing it actually happened.

PhilM

I knew I was adopted as far back as I can remember, so it wasn't a "new" state. I've always been adopted and always known it.

I always had a sense of being on the outside looking in, as though I didn't quite fit anywhere. I was always an observer in my own life. Not because I wasn't loved. Just because I didn't quite belong.

I don't think I ever felt anger or hate towards my original family. Sorrow, yes. I often missed them, wondered about them. Wondered why they gave me up. Wondered whether they ever thought about me.

I did want to see them. And I have met my mother. She and I have had a good relationship for nearly two years now. We've talked about nearly everything I can think of. My father, on the other hand, has never responded to any of my attempts to contact him. His loss, I suppose. But I do want to talk to him, to get to know him a little, to tell him a bit about myself. Maybe one day...

Kate

I was adopted. I found out when I was 15. My foster parents have been trying to hide it for me, but when my doctor suggested a blood test, my "mom" freaked out. Right now I don't really know what I feel. But I do know there is definitely some hate involved. Of course I want to meet my real parents, if they are even out there. What I want to know even more is why they would do this to me, my foster mom, was my biological mothers friend. Why would they want this for me. They were probably selfish fools, who got pregnant on accident. I would never ever ever do this to a kid, even if it seemed like I was helping them. Wait, now I know what I feel, it's my fault. I had to be born, it's all my fault. If there was no me, then I wouldn't have to have any problems. I could be in peace, not even existing. Anyway, I hate myself. Maybe not as much as I hate my biological parents though.

bananarama

I knew almost all my life I was adopted my adoptive parents didnt want me to think they would lie to me. Over the years I have felt all those emotions plus more. I go through phases where I thik about my natural family alot then ill go for a while not thinking about them. It really depends whats going on with my life. I have already talked with my natural mother just found her a few months ago. I would love to meet her some day.

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