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Question that's been on my mind for some time?
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so i was adopted 30 years ago from south america. so anyway, my birthday is monday (october 20) . i am just wondering if you think that my birth mother still thinks about me?? like, i know she didn't forget right?? i mean i had my son 5 years ago and i know i will never forget having him. i just think about that everytime my birthday comes around.
now i hope you guys get what i mean and i really hope nobody gets offended because i know how sensitive people can get on here.
please, for the record, know that i love my parents so much and knew from when i was very young that i was adopted. i love my life its just a question that has been on my mind.
so please any mother that gave her baby up for adoption, i want you r input.
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its okay. anyone can answer. =)
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I would bet money that your mother more than just thinks about you. She's probably waiting for you to return to find her.
If your adoption was completely legit...your mother believes that you were adopted by a very wealthy family that provided you with all the materialism she viewed on TV. Unfortunately, 30 yrs ago in Latin America it was the norm to think only the very affluent adopted foreign children. Some people still believe it.
I've spent a lot of time in central and south america and can personally tell you that the families in general are extremely close and very protective. Neighbors help out neighbors. Their manners are impeccable and they are very gracious to foreigners they feel they can trust.
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PhilM
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When I found her after 30-some years, my mom told me that she always thought of me on my birthday. Several other first moms that I know personally have also said that. While I cannot know for sure, I suspect there's a very good chance that she is thinking of you. |
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Mom to Foster Children
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I bet she thinks about you more than on just this one day!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY |
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Annabelle
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I'm sure she is thinking about you on those same days and many more. No parent forgets about their child! |
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tab
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Yes I do believe she does. I was adopted also at a young age. My real mother and father wanted to have an abortion, but someone talked them out of it and went ahead and gave me up for adoption. I am 24 years old and now they want to meet me. Right now I don't want to, there are some reasons behind that. So I guess they have been thinking about me for them to want to meet me for all these years. I have a little girl myself and I cannot imagine ever forgetting about her or giving her up for that matter. |
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~~∞§arah T∞©~~
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My oldest sister gave her son up for adoption 26 years ago and I have no doubt in my mind she thinks of him DAILY.
I am a adoptive mother to a child and I have met her birthmother and again I have no doubt that she thinks of this child daily.
Your mother thinks of you daily. |
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snowwillow20
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I think about her everyday and I thank God I found her. |
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sillypenelope
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Not only on your birthday does she think about you. She thinks about you everyday. Especially on your birthday. I placed my child for adoption when I was 17 and not a day goes by where I don't think about her and wonder about her and pray that she's happy, loved, and safe. |
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LisaHW
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Most mothers who give up their child always, always, think about that baby. There are whole organizations and sites that deal with the "broken bond" of giving up a child for adoption.
Birth mothers often have real disadvantages in life (either didn't have a good mother themselves, don't have a way to care for a child, maybe were even attacked, etc.); but most say they always think of the child. |
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Shelly P. Tofu, E.M.T.
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I haven't given up a child for adoption, but I can say for certain that your mother has never forgotten about you. I am sure she thinks of you all the time, especially at your birthday.
If she's still alive, I'm sure knowing how you are, how your life was, how it all turned out.. would be a wonderful thing for her. Can you imagine your son dissappearing and never knowing what happened to him.. if he was happy, taken care of?
If there's any way you could find her, I'm sure she'd be happy to know how you did/are doing... and that you've thought about her, too. |
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marinebandwife
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I'm sure she does. Perhaps you should try and get into touch! This might hurt your parents... so go about it gently. I'm sure she wonders what you look like, and what kind of life you have. But, I'm sure she knows that your in America and are living a life she could have never given you. |
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