Questions on adoption?

Hi. My husband and I have been ttc for 2 and half years. We been threw hundreds of Dr appts. I feel like the Dr is not doing nothing because I am only 21 and he is 23. Anyways, we have been looking into adoption. My mother in law is a foster mom and when she gets the foster children she has the first option to adopt them. She has apotped 5 children and she didnt have to pay for the court process or anything. She lives In NYC. My husband and I live in Upstate Ny. So my first question is would is be the same process as her or would it be a different process and would we have to get a lawyer and all of that. Which is fine. Second question, how long does the process of adopting take? Third, what do they look for in familes? We both have good careers, our own house, fincianlly stable etc. We dont care about race or anything. Were even open to adopting a child with special needs.Thanks for the help =]

Marie C

First, I want to say to you that you and your husband would be WONDERFUL parents. You want to adopt for the right reasons.....to be a Mom and Dad, not to track down the "perfect" trophy baby! I hope you are blessed with a wonderful child very soon!

Second, your process would be just the same as your mother-in-laws. She can probably put you in touch with all the right people to get everything started. It should not take long....there are many children in foster care who need parents, and a child would very likely be placed with you in a short period of time, once you're approved.

Best of luck to you!

momof3boys

The process is the same. You go through classes and home visits, finger print checks and criminal background checks and fill out paperwork and prove stability. You can choose either foster, foster-to-adopt or adopt. I choose foster-to-adopt because that way if you have the child in your home and they come up for adoption you get to have the first chance you are right about that and you already have the paperwork in and approved for adoption. You can adopt up to how many ever they approve in regards to living space really. No it doesn't cost you anything, they just want loving homes for these kids so everything is handled through your county agency. I wish you lots of good luck, there needs to be more adoptive familes because there are way to many kids needing a good home.

dimples (loves llcoolj)

wow you guys are really young(good to see that) stay married.
,my mother adpoted my lil brother and we love him so much, we had him since he was 22 days old. you have to go throught the same process like every body else dear.and you don't have to have a outstanding career. you just have to have the means of supprting and taking career a child, you have to have and income (public asstience) anything. as long as you guys can take care of this person. it may takes 6 weeks or lest, you might have to take classes, because of the whole child abuse situation. they look for kind hearted, nice ppl, to care 4 a child. you are doing a great deed. they going to ask you a lot of question, not only about yourself but your fam, and your husband. you have to go through, a lot. good success. i hope you get a lil baby. :) *sigh* lol :) awwwwwwww so cute!you might have to take classes to. finger prints, criminal background also.

amber81981

I really don't know the answer to your question other than to say that regulations are set by state so it should be the same also God bless you for being willing to take in any child that is such a rare find these days

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