Raising my younger sister...help?

Melissa

sit her down and explain it to her

Randy B

Its a tough spot to be in but I don't think you are able to balance it in the way you may want to. I think you have an obligation to be the parent in this case and that sometimes involves making tough decisions. I think by trying to be both you are just confusing the situation and perhaps causing more problems then you may realize. It sends confusing messages. She needs to realize that while you may biologically be a sister, by necessity you need to be a parent and that while you love her like a sister you also love her like a parent and need to take that responsibility into account when decisions are made.

bestie96

WOW a lot of responsiblity! :O
But that is so cool of you!
you shud really tell her "you love her" and now that her mom is out of the picture you still gotta do the basics go to school, do your homework and tell her "on the weekend" we will do something fun togther!

GoodBye&GoodLuck,
-bestie96

Brandi

I think its totally possible to be the guardian AND friend as well. Let her know you want to be BOTH but you wont jeopardize her schooling or anything else that is important for her development. Of course she's going to get mad but stand firm..

Kaelis

Your in a difficult situation. Waiting till she gets older and she will understand is a crock. I agree with Melissa on this. Sit her down and explain to her. You have to let her know that jeopardizing her education is not an option. So cutting school is not a good thing. Stay firm on this issue. When she does right reward her with dinner out, or staying up a little later on Friday or Saturday to watch some TV with you. When she hits the point when drugs and alcohol become a factor you have reached step 3 in raising a child. For now just talk to her as a sister and explained to her why she cannot do certain things. Make sure she understands that too before she starts pouting. You may find that she won't pout as much if she understands what you are telling her. GOOD LUCK. YOU'LL NEED IT. Is your father not around?

slick

YOU GUYS SHOULD DO MORE STUFF TOGETHER AND HAVE FUN AND TALK TO HER

Amy S

u r now the mom, she may be mad at u now but when shes older and has kids she'll understand. u have to be kinda hard on her and set the rules because u r not really the sister anymore.

The Lauren

Thats a tough situation. Sit down and talk to her. Tell you can and will always be her cool older sister but since you are responsible for her, you have to play mom too. Tell her that as her legal gaurdian you can get in trouble for her actions if she breaks the law, ect. Unless shes just an unruly brat, shell understand.

kateiskate

I know you want to seem cool and want her to be happy and be happy with you, but it's really more important for you to set boundaries with her and parent her than it is for you to be her friend.

If she gets mad at you for setting boundaries and enforcing the rules, don't be surprised! Be solid in your decisions and don't back down. If kids sense you are weak and can get something past you, they will! Kids respect boundaries.

cute sexy mexican chicka

well, my way of looking at what your saying is i agree she Will take advantage of it if you let her skip school. But let her skip school once in a great while and call her in sick, i mean be a cool big sister/mom clearly her real mom is a b(i)tch so you have to take care of her. i know what i am saying is wrong but if she walks all over you tell her she'll go to jail if she walks all over people.
good luck

Jamie W

well you could always reward her like a mom or sister.
She'll understand later though that you did that because you raised her, and you couldnt be the normal sister to her, because you have to teach her everything.

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