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Mei-Ling

"Yes adoption is good, but how do you feel about the parent point view."

I take it you mean the adoptive parents' view?

Um. Society is practically *trained* to look at their view. Adoption isn't about the adoptive parents (well it does become a part of them once the adoption is finalized but still). It's about the CHILD. Children are not created in other women's wombs specifically FOR the purpose of adoption. They are not meant to be exotic toys, trinkets, puppets, or whathaveyou.

They were another woman's child first. That doesn't mean the adoptive parent isn't a parent and shouldn't love them - but that a child was not created out of thin air just to land on their doorstep.

Period.

How about we look at the relinquishing mother's point of view instead? You know, the one who actually had to let go of the child?

sam22254

I'm not sure what your asking. But as the view of looking at adoption on both sides this is now I feel. Adoption is good to a point if the child is coming out of a bad home where drug and the life style could hurt the child this is mostly adoptions out of foster care.
Now with the other adoption of new Born's I think a Lot of them are done wrong. The father's are not told about them or the birth mother's are telling the agencies that they don't know who the father's are which makes a mess of it all. There are so many lies that they get caught in them. What I'm concern about is the child. I know a wonderful lady that is adopted and found her birth mother but never her birth dad that she wants to find. In cases like this it's so wrong. What right does the adoption agency or thadopteded parents have the right to find the fact of who their birth parents are and if you don't think this is true why do they have the new show that finds lost people on the Tv.
My son shawn mcdonald faught a big adoption agency from Texas for 3 years to get his son back and is still fighting. This wonderful child knows he has a full blood sister and know's his father.. You would think that this family would hve gave the child back even as late as this summer when the child stayed with his father for a whole month but no they want to contuie the lie. Thank goodness they never was around when mary had baby jesus if so they would have never told jesus about is natural father. In the bible it says about adoption is adopt the fatherless that doesn't mean hid the fact of the child from the father. If you don't hink this happens then your nuts. The birth mother in my son's case signed to papers to give the judge one that says my son as the father and the other is doesn't know who the father is. When they found out that my son was looking for his son 2 days before birth they used the one with his name on it. But the agency did tell the birth mother not to put my son's name on the birth record. LIES this needs to stop no matter if the child comes out of foster care or from a single mother.

Floozy Moonshine

I love adoption. As long as immature, poor, and single women keep popping out kids, I can supply the infertile and the lazy with what they want and make an easy 20 or 30 grand in the process.

And the best part is, those kids grow up being spoon fed that whole "be grateful" line, that they want to "pay it forward" and end up wanting to adopt too! It's like built-in job security!

What's not to love?

Makini Martini

Are you speaking of the parent that gave her baby up? Or the father that didn't know he had a child until it was too late?

I can only speak from 2nd hand knowledge from several people I know who gave their babies up for adoption.

One biological mother gave her child up when she was 16, went on to marry the biological father and have another child together. The child that was adopted out, had the same birthday as me. Every year I wondered why I got such great gifts from her, and as I grew older we had a special aunt/niece bond. It wasn't until I turned 16 05 17 that she told me that she had given up a baby for adoption when she was my age. I think Auntie thought about her daughter every day of her life, wondering, wishing things could have been different. She was registered so that if the adopted child ever wished to contact her, she could. Six month to the day my aunt died, she found her mother.
She had not even known she was adopted until her mother died, and an aunt handed her a packet of legal papers.

I also know of a girl who recently (2 yrs) gave a child up. When asked her response was that as much as she wanted a child, she was to young, did not have an education, not responsible enough.. her words were something to the effect of " I'm not even responsible enough not to get pregnant, what makes me think I can raise a child." This young girl has gone on to get an eduction, has a stable job, has bought a duplex, and is doing great. When asked how her baby is.. " It's always the same." I'm so glad she is loved by so many people. She's doing great."

So in my experience, the biological parent has many regret, hopes, dreams, and heart aches associated with giving a baby up.

melissa s

well i am adopted a long with my 5 siblings, we love the fact that we are alive and not murdered which was the alternative the world is a better place with all of us in it and all our children and there children a whole family that would not be how do i feel about adoption pretty good

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