SHOULD Aparents be any more grateful for their adopted children than their natural children?
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SHOULD Aparents be any more grateful for their adopted children than their natural children?
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What I am getting at it Aparents are told (at least here on YA) that they should be grateful for their adopted children, as if they should be MORE grateful than they are for their bio-children.
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Freckle Face
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Wow interesting question Lara,
ummm, honestly i am. I'm sure its not the popular opinion. I am also not saying i love one child more than another. To be chosen by a mother to raise HER child, hell yeah i'm grateful, humbled, honored (insert positive adjective here). I can't help it, i just am.
Am i grateful for my natural children? yes. I am in general just thankful and grateful for the opportunity to be a mother.
There is a difference here tho. Another human being is responsible for me being a mother that in and of itself is huge! How could i not be grateful?
Sorry i don't mean to be difficult. |
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MamaKate
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Depends on what you mean by "grateful" and no, NO PERSON should HAVE to be any more "grateful" than the next. Gratitude cannot and should not be dictated or demanded. Only earned. |
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sunny
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Well, when someone has to LOSE something in order for you to get something--you'd think that might raise your consciousness a bit. When a child is adopted, lots of people LOSE. Grateful? How about respectfully appreciative?
When you have a bio kid, no one LOSES--it's a win all around. |
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Independ"ant"
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All children are a gift and should be treated as such biological or not.
I don't think that there should even be a comparison.
Adoption is a privilege and not a right.
I think that when someone adopts they should respect that there are other people suffering because a better solution wasn't found to keep the child with his/her natural parents. |
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Gaia Raain
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Yes, absolutely. I'm with FF and Sunny here. I will only become a parent because of others' loss (the child losing his/her parents, the parents losing their child). And one day, I hope to be grateful to the caseworker who finally chooses us to become parents to kids who need a family.
Yes, we are adopting kids who have no other options available to them. But it's not about US - it's about the kids, and what they need. We don't HAVE to ever get chosen (as a few truly sensitive souls have pointed out, we haven't gotten chosen yet, and we've been waiting over a year and a half), so when we do get chosen, it will be a BIG deal, and we will be eternally grateful. |
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Shelby
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I am beyond grateful for my children (both adopted). I also feel lucky, extremely appreciative and forever thankful to their mother's for giving me the opportunity to have them in my life. |
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Cartier
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Super question! I think EVERY child is a blessing. |
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AdoreHim
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I only have adopted children, however a parent should be grateful for both the same, if they have both. They are both gifts from God to the parents. |
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clarkall10
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that is a good question...i am adopted and i always ask this question all the time in my head. Does it seem like my parents care more about their natural children than me...and adoptive kid? well, this situation differs from family to family but if you are feeling the same way...then welcome to the club...the answer is that they should love their adoptive kids just the same as any kids they have. I feel that that is the right thing. |
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Crucio
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Parents should be equally gratefully for all their children. Every child is a blessing regardless if that child was born to their parents or their parents adopted them. |
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I Love A Child With Autism!!!
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No, and I am not quite in agreement with some people here. I guess if you only have adopted children you may think differently than if you have both. I do immensely appreciate the gift of my adopted children and I too understand the loss that took place on both sides (birthmom & adoptee). I DO NOT agree with the opinion that I should be more thankful for my adopted children than my biological one. They came into our family in a different way, but I do not thank God any more for one or the next. My children are all equal and I appreciate them each in a different way, but totally equal. |
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jonasbaby21
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no they should treat them qual and be grateful for each of their children |
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Nikki (Team V Dub)
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no. every child should be loved the same |
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bubsy1031
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they should treat everyone the same. |
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Ryan's mom
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They should be treated exactly the same. My Ex Brother-in-Law was adopted and then a year later his parents found out that the doctors were wrong and his mom was pregnant. They always treated his sister better than they treated him, which was totally wrong. I had 3 miscarriages before having my son and he almost died when he was born because he was a preemie. I am grateful for him. Every parent should be grateful for however their children come into their lives. |
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kitten
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A child is a blessing to have no matter how it works. All kids need the same thing: love, support & attention in their lives. |
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MiLF <3
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I despise people who show favortism. I hate it and I dont think it should be done between adopted children and natural children or even between boys and girls. Its just not nice to do and can cause children to have hate towards their family members! |
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