Should I go vist her?

AvaRae

I would have to say yes, but not at this time. From your post I am assuming your are still under the age of 18 and by capitalizing two words ALL and REAL I would question whether or not your are emotionally ready to handle a reunion.

I know you are probably sitting there thinking, well she gets to see her ALL the time, why not I, why doesn't she let me visit or why can't I go. She is my REAL mom, but I never met her, so why doesn't she want to see me or does she and no one will let that happen. Why is she picking my little sister over me, what about my brother, etc.

You probably have so many thoughts running through your head. People will tell you Yes, go see her it is your choice, do it, etc. But my advise would be to try to work on yourself first, your emotions, what you want to know, who your are and then when you are secure go meet her. You need to be in a place so that if the reunion is bad it will not destroy you and if the reunion is good it will enrich you.

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yes you should

Freckle Face

Yes. You already sound like you want to meet her. Good luck.

Btw, you have a right to call any one of your parents anything you want.

Heather B

It sounds like you want to, so go ahead.

It's OK and understandable to be nervous about it.

Please don't let anyone here or anywhere else dictate to you what you can or cannot call your own mother; or tell you to be grateful for your adoptive parents - it's the adoptive parents who should be grateful, after all they got the child they wanted!. Geez some people have nerve. Nobody can tell you how to think, how to feel nor how to define your own experiences.

I hope things go will with your Mom. Take care x

jasminetinge

If you want to, sure! You might be pleasantly surprised or not.

Andraya

Absolutely you should go see her. She is your mother and you have every right to talk with and spend time with her, if you want to. If you are old enough to be online asking questions like this you are old enough to decide who you want to see and know.

Crucio

That is compeletely up to you. If you want to go and meet and spend time with your biolgoical mother. Then do so. If you sister is already in contact with her she'd probably be happy to meet you.

sweetone12

Its really up to you on what you want to do. Something like this someone can not tell you what to do. Meet on neutral grounds. Just talk at first and see where it goes. Personally if I was adopted I would want to meet my birth parents just so I can know where my looks my attitude and everything about me came from. But that's just me. If you are really looking for answer I would because I think maybe you might need to do know who you really are. But good luck and I wish the best for you in your journey.

Mother of Many

Go with your sister, and meet her. Go with an open mind. Maybe your brother will go too? He would be great to be there next to you, as a support system. Good Luck, it does sound like you want to meet her.

redheadsdontdye

She'll probably want to meet you too... I would talk to your parents about it, it would be a good idea to have them involved to mediate the process.

TX Mom

If it scares you, the thought, meeting your biological mom, just put it off. She'll still be there in a year or two. Have your sister tell you about her. Exchange e-mails or facebooks.

Your real mom is not the lady who gave you and your family up for adoption. You're REAL mom is the one that adopted you. I hope you let her know how much you appreciate what she's done for you.

TX Mom

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Mandiezz

NO if your happy why do you need to go visit her. Your better off by yourself with your current family.

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