Should race make a difference when getting married?

LXC

No, not at all. If you love someone enough to marry them, than race should not be a factor.

I am mixed, and both of my parents are mixed (Maori, Lebanese, Scottish & English). I have brought guys of different races home, and the only thing my parents care about is how I feel about them, and how they treat me - race is the last thing on their minds.

I have, however, encountered hesitance from parents of past boyfriends myself, so it's hard to get past the race factor if not everyone is willing, but it's all in the name of love, I guess :)

teenchic05

My parents didn't care. It shouldn't matter to anyone but you and the other person what your parents think. If you are in love and want to make a life together then do so. It is your life.

InMyOpinion

I don't think it should make a difference. How would my parents react? I think it depends on what the race is. My sister is married to an asian man, no one ever had a problem with it. However, my boyfriend is black, and i think they would see that differently. I don't think my dad would have a problem, but maybe my mom - and definitely my grandpa would be against it.

I remember 1 time when I was maybe 15 and had a boyfriend at the time who was black. My mom didn't react negatively, it was more like she was shocked. When he left after the first visit, she kinda smiled and said in a surprised way 'well that was the first time I've ever had a black person in my house'. I asked her to tell my grandparents because I wanted to see how they would react; she said they said something like "Well I guess that's ok as long as they don't have kids". But I don't let the ignorant opinions of others affect how I live my life, and it would not stop me from marrying my boyfriend.
My mom isn't racist in a hateful kinda way, it's more like she just doesn't know how to behave around people of a different race, she gets uncomfortable. She's not the type to make a racist comment, but she's said things like "Well, you know that place where I grew up, it's mostly all arab now, I mean in 20 years from now, we'll be the minority!" And I'm like 'ya, and what does that matter?'

Carrie H

my parents don't really care about that. unfortunately racism is still a big issue in this country. if you love him and he treats you right, it shouldn't matter what color his skin is<or yours> hopefully this next generation of younger parents will teach their children that the color of your skin by no means defines who you are! best of luck!

rosie

They would not like it. But it isn't their life. It should be about whatever makes you happy.

'Lesti

No way if you in love you get married God made us all in his image he woudnt want a silly thing like race to come between two ppl he made in his image!

Ghost Writer

No, it should not make any difference. I can see my dad making some wise-cracks, but as long as I was treated right by the guy, he would be just fine.

Kt <3

my parents wouldnt like it that much but thet would accept it. my grandmother on the other hand would raise hell. i cant even imagine what she and her broothers and sisters would do. we are a big irish family and my cusin is going out with a girl who is from a polish family and it isnt a good situation at all. i cant even imagine what would happen if the person was african american. but in my opinion race doesnt matter. if you love someone ur family shouldnt get in the way

Cheyenna

Well for anybody that is a Christian, clearly, it would be wrong. I wouldn't, because I have morals that I live by. No offence to anyone else.

Cheech

What really matters is, are they good to your child ? Do they respect them and cherish them with all their heart ? Do they love your child ?

vis

well we have no plans to marry.. but i brought home a half Mex.. and i am white.. my mom seems to like him better than my ex..lol and he is 13 yrs younger than me so it was a double shock..she thought we were just friends i had to tell her no it was more than that.. her reply was.. IT IS ... but she accepted him.. as his parents did me..

TEA

wouldnt care, as long as he treated me good

its the content of your character not the color of your skin....

Danielle_lynn

My parents would have absolutely no problem with it. Race shouldn't matter. To be honest with you I think that's stupid; why should race or religion, etc. hold you back from being happy? If you are in love & happy with someone from a different race;etc then continue your life with them. It no longer matters if your parents & friends & anyone else is happy as long as you & your love are happy then nothing should be able to break you two up. Good Luck. Oh & for the future you may have staring people, but let them stare people are immature & unhappy that's why they are staring. <3

bestadvicechick

No, I personally don't think it should be a factor. The main thing is that you are in love, have made a commitment and have talked about all the big issues. It's impossible for a marriage to last that is not built on a solid foundation. Some people don't like mixed marriages out of pure racism. Others have a valid claim that it's very difficult for 2 people from very different "cultures" to ever achieve that solid foundation if your very deepest rooted beliefs are different.

I don't think it should be a factor.

Eduardo R

well no if you love each other their is no limit you should go for what your heart says..... people mostly don't date different race i think its really stupid so if you love that person then go for it

Mrs. Bear

My parents would hate it at first, but if I love him then what does it matter? No it shouldn't make a difference. My parents excuse is mixing two completely different cultures is just asking for trouble.

RickNY

The couple needs to be adult and mature about speaking to each other about what they can and will face, because things are far from perfect in this world. They need to consider the ramifications and make decisions as to how to face them together, not each in their own way. If it was any of my children, and they do engage in such conversation, AND the suitor has the best interests at heart for my child, they'll have my blessing.

lily

If you happen to fall in love with a person from a different race, I don't see a problem. However if you are going out intentionally seeking a certain race to date, I think that is disrespectful (like guys going after Asian chicks)

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