Should teen mothers be URGED to give up their babies for adoption?

Mod Nick W

If the mother is capable of raising the child, and wishes to do so, it is always best for her to do just that. The only reason any mother should ever be urged to give up a child for adoption is if by continuing to raise the child herself she presents a danger to the welfare of that child (for instance being addicted to drugs, or being unable to provide food). Until recently in America, mothers were raising children from the time they were able conceive, and are still currently doing so in some foreign countries. So to answer the question, in most cases, no. A teen mother is just as capable of raising her child as anybody, and should not be urged to give that child up for adoption.

Allanas

No. They should be given all the rights and privileges that older mothers enjoy.

It's not right to urge a 40 year old mother to surrender her baby, right? Well, it's not OK to urge a young mother either.

1) There's no such thing as a perfect parent. Older parents will make just as many mistakes as younger ones.

2) There's no such thing as a perfect life. Adopted kids are abused and neglected just as much as "biological" children. Adoption is no guarantee for a better life.

3) Money can't buy happiness. It doesn't buy the peace of mind of knowing your baby is safe in your care. Money doesn't buy a child's security in knowing that mommy wanted them and fought for them, and worked for them every day.

4) Young, poor, uneducated mothers have no obligation to provide babies for rich infertile people.

5) Rich, infertile people have no right to take any one's child.

Lady Rowan

No. noone should be urging anyone to do a damn thing. Why not? It's their child! they have a right as a mother and a human being to raise their own child. Anyone who thinks otherwise should mind their own damn business!

AnnaBelle

I am just going to copy and paste my answer from your other question:

No, no and no! OMG, NO!

I worked with teen moms. Most of them made great parents. With enough resources and emotional support they can thrive. In fact, many thrive without that, but I personally believe that providing emotional, financial, and educational support to ALL parents who need it is crucial to a healthy society, regardless of the age of said parents.

My parents were older when they had me. My mother was near 40, and my father was well into his 40's. They were addicts, chronically poor, thrice bankrupt, and we often went without. And I don't mean went without clothes, or nice stuff. I mean utilities and food. Poverty doesn't evaporate when you hit your mid-twenties. People of ANY age can have problems, and to assume that those problems will only exist in teen/young parents is ludicrous.

Where were those agencies breathing down my parents' necks "urging" or "forcing" them to give me away, mmm? Not a one. After all, they were so well "established"...

Sunny

When mere mortals start deciding what is "better" (going against nature) there will be major problems. How can dismantling families ever be considered good?

Felann

No. If they have any problems with looking after their kids they should be helped to deal with them. Child care services are bullies, they make lots of money by telling lies about the way children are being cared for by vulnerable mums. They don't consider the families feelings.

Darya

No. It's just plain wrong to suggest that any mother, teenage or not, should surrender her own child.

On top of that, some teenagers make much better mothers than some adult women.

Pip

Absolutely not as it's morally and legally wrong. I AM a teen mother who was bullied and lied into surrendering for no better reason than that's what my parents wanted, I was capable of raising my son, I wanted to raise him which is one of the reasons I didn't abort and I was working so could financially afford to raise my son without claiming any benefits.

There is no reason for a teen mother not to raise her child and am shaking my head in disgust that someone has actually responded that it would ruin a teen's life if she raised her child.

My son was the best thing to happen to me but the worst was being forced to surrender him. It ruined my life not raising him nor would I wish it on anybody else.

kidmindi

my answer is the same as thing I said to your last asinine question :

It is ABSOLUTELY not in the best interest of anyone, except the adoption industry and PAPs, for a teenager to be forced to give her child up.

The child has the RIGHT to be raised by its MOTHER.

There is no guarantee that the older, financically stable happily married couple will always be financially stable or even happily married, but it is a guarantee that a teen mom won't be a teen for ever.

I have known MANY great teen moms, including my ex SIL who had a baby, and raised her at 14....oh and myself who had my first at 19.

Marie C

"Urged" is not the right word. Adoption should be offered as an option, a possibility. It could be "suggested." A young person who wants to keep her baby should be enabled to do so. But if she can't, or absolutely refuses, adoption can be presented as a possible choice.

Lisa C

I do not think teenagers should be urged to give up their babies for adoption. NO WAY!!! I was a teenaged mother - had my first child at 17 years old - oh so many years ago:).... it was so difficult but I had wonderful support from my parents and family!

Though I think it was way more difficult parenting at a younger age, I did it and did it as well as I could! I couldn't imagine my life without my son in it! We grew up together, which was one of the down falls but it was just a fact. I lived and learned... He loved me then and loves me now. We are very very close.

EDIT: I do not think I was as capable as I am now, as an older parent, but I was also a first time mom, young and not married... I loved him as much as I love my other children!

Jonathan

It depends on their financial situation. If they can safely take care of their baby then I think they should have every right to keep their baby. But if they cannot provide a safe and healthy environment then I think that they should be urged and maybe even forced to give up their baby.

Molly E

yes, because most likely teenagers do not have the means nor maturity to care for a child, whereas there are so many couples out there who cannot have children looking to adopt, who would care for the child much better than a teenager ever could.

Murder Doll

Yes because the truth is that the teenâ€™s life will be ruined. The best thing to do will be to put the child up for adoption or even have an abortion.

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