Should we have an unwed mother's registry ?

someone emailed me this idea in response to my other question. they sugest instead of a paternity registry all unwed mothers giving children up for adoption have to be on. it's not the scarlet letter thing from the past. if they know the father great. if they have a pretty good idea cool. fathers have to fill out a form in texas personal info moms info and childs to best of knowledge if they want to contest an adoption or claim the child. shouldn't the women giving them up be required to do the same?
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no i don't! i mean if the birthmother is giving the child up for adoption shouldn't she have to file with a registry that presumed or potential fathers can check to protect their rights. fathers like me trying and wanting to raise there children have to file in some states on a paternity registry to claim parental rights and custody battles. shouldn't the mom giving the child up have to file with a similar registry showing intent to adopt. that way dads that do want involvement can start protecting their rights as fathers.

Margot Tenenbaum

Sounds fair. I completely understand where you're coming from. Putative fathers registries need to be abolished. They're in place simply for unethical agencies to be able to continue to practice shady, unethical adoptions.
I'm so sorry about what you're going through. I hope and pray you can get your baby back. Those adopters have no right to keep your baby.

Lori A

It sounds like a good idea to me. At least the beginning of a good idea. As far as pregnancy being personal. When I was pregnant all you had to do was look at me and you could tell from a mile away that I was definately having a baby. Same thing for a wedding ring. To some people the privacy of being unwed and pregnant is still more important than fathers rights. More important than keeping a child with one of their natural parents. More important than keeping a child in touch with their natural grandparents, cousins, aunts and uncles. How sad. I think something should be done to protect fathers rights and children who could have been parented by their fathers. I don't know if this is it, but it's a start. Privacy quickly turns into secrets and lies.

Dave F

and who is going to pass this, male or female. laws have ways of getting twisted.....idk

Crucio

I doubt this will ever happen because in most cases one always knows who the mother is not the case with the father. I say in most cases because in the days of surrogacyâ€™s/egg donation well sometimes even fertility clinics mess up. There are people that think the father registries should be eliminated. If a person is upstanding they will try and located the father of their child if they know who it could be. Iâ€™m afraid The Maury show is a clear example of how lose some woman can be. This one lady tested 7 men still did not have her baby daddy. I donâ€™t think someone who is upstanding should be punished for those few out there that would purposely not tell the father or hope a state etc.

breeze1

I would have to say no. If a women is considering adoption she should give fathers information but requiring a women to register is not a good idea. What if the conception was due to rape, incest or she is under age?

Fire Blade 24

You mean we should give gifts and praise to someone who will be on welfare for the next 18 or 30 years ? disgusting idea

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