Sick parent and adoption?

My husband has a cystic fibrosis. We're assuming he is infertile but even so we don't want to pass on the gene so do not want to get pregnant, however we both would love a child. I have two questions. First, do we stand a chance at adopting a child because he has this disease? The life expectancy is only around 38 or so. Second, do you think its fair to adopt a child with the possibility of having his or her father pass away young? Thanks.

Cup of sherry

Anytime a child loses a parent then it is very hard. I didn't get adopted until I was 13. But if I had the chance to be adopted when I was younger even if there was an illness that would eventually end the life of the parent, I would have taken it. I would have wanted the chance to be loved. Just my thoughts on it

DevonChaos

I would say it would be unfair to bring a child into the situation when you know that death is indeed eminent. While natural and adoptive parents both can die unexpectedly, most parents wouldn't choose to die while they have a young child, mainly because of the suffering that it would bring to their child. I know that if I knew I had a shortened life expectancy, I would not have had children. I wouldn't want to bring that suffering to them in their youngest years. There are many programs that your husband can join to help children, such as Big Brothers/Big sisters, and other children's charities. Heck, there are many children in the hospital with CF that he could volunteer with.

It is a sad thing to know that your life will be cut short. I think it would be quite sad to knowingly expose a child to this.

^_^

you gotta think about the child as well too though who has lost his/her parents and probably will lose a father. you don't want a child to go through so many traumatic experiences.

cricketlady

Yes you stand a chance. You will need a backup plan though in place.

Andraya - Snark's Sister

No it isn't fair, at all.

Brooke

My father died when I was a teenager. I was so screwed up. I was forever changed. The effects are there, every single day of my life, and looking back, I see how every big decision of my life was effected by that experience. Don't knowingly do that to someone.

Shelbie

I am sure you stand a chance, and the child should enter your lives knowing of his/her fathers disease and knowing taht he will not live very long.

This will be very hard on the child when your husband passes but, there are children every year that lose their parents unexpectedly.

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