Sis pregnent she doesn't know if she shoud put the baby up for adoption or raise her the dad abused her help

Gershom

well then tell her to try parenting, to see if she can do it. Encourage her that she can do it, and give her the same support you would give anyone else to parent. Girls, women of many ages can be GREAT mothers with a little bit of support. If she wants to parent, then have her seek resources out to do so through family preservation sites, www.originsUSA.org, her state assistance programs. SHE CAN DO IT!! SHE CAN PARENT. w/out him, she doesn't need anyone in her life that will abuse her or her child. I'm not sure her age, but there are many support groups online for young mothers who have chosen to parent, if you're interested in them IM me and i'll send them to you.

Mrs.P

This isn't really something you should be seeking help about on Yahoo Answers! Your sister should seek counseling from a crisis pregnancy center. But if she is going to keep the baby, I hope it is obvious that she should NOT stay in a situation where the father who abused her is around. She has to protect herself and her child.

rox

Agreed, no one on yahoo answers can even begin to tell you whether or not a woman should place her child. Especially based on one line.

It's absurd. Anyone who writes on here "she should place the baby for adoption" has no idea what they are talking about.

Ideally, your sister will get it together, prevent the abusive parent from being involved and get a hold of all the resources available to parent her child.

Let her know that you believe in her ability to parent and you care and support her in whatever ways you feel comfortable with.

Being single is not really a sifficient reason to place the baby.

Many adoptive parents get divorced, the divorce rate in this country is very high. It will sound like an empty reason in the child's earse, and also in her mind as she sobs into her pillow for years to come over the loss of her child.

If adoption can be prevented, it saves a lot of pain for a lot of people.

Karen A

From personal experiance, adoption is such a great chioce. Unless she is prepared to be a single mom. There are families out there who would love to adopt. It is so different than it was 20 years ago. It is a hard dicsion to make, but its not about her anymore. That baby is what matters.

gtt_crystal

the baby's dad or her dad abused her? either witch way a child should not be around that environment. ur sis needs to weigh some things out like is she ready to be a momma. there is lots of self sacirfise, and her education needs to be looked at.you cant pay bills on a high school diploma, trust me. im a mother of 3. had my first when i was 19, i was married and in the army. she could try government assists which helps a lot. it mostly depends on her responsibility. and if shes ready to be an adult. there are lots of qualified people who would love to adopt a child. its is easier and cheaper to adopt right from the individual rather then going through the other chains. there are people who can not have children that would spoil a child in a heartbeat. your sis will have to decide for herself. it could be a regret if she did that too.
good luck and i hope every thing gos good, keep that abuser away from her, it could hurt the baby even though s/he is not here yet.

Kayla

If the father of the baby is abusive she should go to court to protect herself if she decides to keep the baby....If she chooses adoption it is a fantastic route to go when you are young and don't want to be hampered down by a youngster when you would rather concentrate on your studies....If you are older and in a stable relationship perhaps you could adopt the baby that way your sis could watch her little one grow up....Good Luck To You and Your Family! God Bless All Of You! I will keep your sis in my prayers and I hope that she stays away from whoever abuses her.....
BTW if the abuser is the father of the baby your sister will need his permission when giving the baby up for adoption....

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