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Bizzi
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Wow by reading everyones answers I can see how the system went from helping families to build solid foundations and helping first time parents with REAL social workers to complete and utter family destruction..... with untrained unlicensed KIDS... pretending to be social workers... and it's just gonna get worse till people are scared to have children... it's already like that here in Canada CPS is the leading cause of abortions among the poor.... and from many people I interviewed in the states seems it's beging to be a trend there as well.... |
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Sal*UK
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OK - so would you have them live in homes then for 5 years, until adopting them??
Don't think so - a young child needs to be in a family being loved, not stuck in a home somewhere. |
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BPD Wife
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Somerset, NJ? If so, NJ DYFS would explain it all (said extremely sarcastically)! They tried to do the same thing to our son. He was in kinship care with his bio-grandparents from birth. The bio family (parents & gparents both) decided to make a private adoption plan for the child since the parents did not want to parent and the gparents felt they were unable to care for a newborn at their age and due to health issues. Once the state found out that they were trying to make a private adoption plan, they stepped in and tried to take the child into foster care. It took the bio family going to court to have the state removed so they could proceed with the adoption that THEY wanted. What the state of NJ put our son and his bio family through was absolutely crazy and so unfair. I feel for you if that is similiar to your case.
However, I do not feel that stopping children from being adopted if they are under 5 will help. In our case, I cannot imagine what may have happened with our son had the bio family not been allowed to place the child for adoption.
Good luck to you. |
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Adopted Jane
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What exactly is your Question ?
Would you PLEASE Give us the complete story > how can we respond if you dont tell us the facts
The only person you have answered is the person who is adopting a child that is also 4...
Hmmmmmmmmmm
F*CKING HELL - I didn't understand a word |
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SagaSue
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I don't want to sound cruel, but I think you are putting yourself before your grandson. It must be awful for you, but you have to think about what is best for him.
If you think he is being abused by his current carer you must report it officially. I think you should seek help from the Citizens Advice. You may have difficulty expressing yourself because you are so upset by all that has gone on, so it would help to talk to someone who is impartial. it's possible that the Social Services think you are too old to take responsibility for your grandson. I hope it works out for him, and you. |
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minx 21
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Do you mean how can you stop your grandson who is under 5 being adopted? |
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♥☆enigma☆♥
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why? kids who are adopted at younger ages have alot less trouble adapting to there new surroundings that older kids.
if they have less emotional trouble as little kids, they more likley to grow up into happy, independant adults. |
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referee
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Why, don't they deserve, to be in a good loving Home, with people who will grow to love them, the younger the better, don't you think! |
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fairy
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what? why? what are you talking about!!
thats silly, if a child is parentless its best for them to be adopted as soon as possible to get bonding with their families. |
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fem22
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its much easier for a child under 5 to be adopted, if youre going to adopt then youre more likely to want a child that isnt set in their own ways but still young enough to model into your family....
The social services obviously have their concerns about the welfare of your granchild... they wouldnt take a child away from its family without hardcore evidence of things going wrong. Believe it or not they actually dont like to take a child out its family home UNLESS there is something serious going on.
Yes the child might be loved and happy but neglected children can also be loved and happy until they are old enough to understand its the the 'normal' way of life |
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lexi1509
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Why? dont these young children deserve a home like any other Kids????? |
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Carrie Doway
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So what is supposed to happen to the 6 month old unwanted baby if it cant be adopted...have to wait til its five to get its forever family..i dont think so! |
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Crucio
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I am sorry about your grandson if he is being abused and you know it take it to the authorities if they wouldn’t listen keeping telling someone in till action is taken. |
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Dame Fanny Haddock
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What?
Are you crazy! No, sorry this is a preposterous proposition. |
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Away With The Fairies
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Ok, so we're not psychic. And no, I don't believe you should stop children under five being adopted. They're at their most vulnerable and easily influenced at that age. All children deserve a loving home. |
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santasgrotto07
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sorry your story doesnt add up, why is your grandson in care anyway, if someone is adopted, then the younger the better, why wait till 5 years which is wot you are saying |
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opedial
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Go to court. |
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Laurie B
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I was adopted at 4 and a half years old, I think I should have been taken out whole lot younger than two years old, I think with my situation, I should have. So to say that childeren should be taken away at five is the most horrible thing to say. I think if you think aobut some situations, you would change your mind. |
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sallyann
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social services sometimes get it wrong and take the child away for the wrong reasons, if hes in a loving enviroment and has a happy home why do they want to take them away? stories like these are always so tragic. you read stories that children eating out of the rubbish bins living in dumps under malnutritioned, as there parent s are that out of it with needles in there arms!!! makes me sick! at least you have taken your grandson into your home as he is your flesh and blood, loved him like nothing in this world, i hope to god they let you keep him god bless wishing you all the luck and keep on fighting for your grandson |
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recycling
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we adopted our gorgeous daughter at the age of 18 months, her birth family disowned her, her foster mother was doing it for the money! our families adore her, she is now 9, if she was left in the system, she would have been just an assessory for a foster parent (not all foster parents are the same!) why give a child more emotional baggage to carry around with them, by the age of 5, a child could have been placed in 3/4 different foster homes, this is outrageous! you gave no reason for your odd question hope this answers it! |
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♥ CHARLI ♥ ♥ ♂♂♂♂♂ ♥
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I sure hope your not talking about my boy.
He is 4yo. And just so you know, I will be adopting him, because his parents & Grandparents are mental and need help. They couldn't love him why they had him, so they are NEVER going to have him back. |
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0121
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could you explain it bit more. It sounds bit cruel what you said |
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HappyMomAnna
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You need to take this matter up with the state. We have No idea why you did not pass your Relative/Kinship Homestudy but the requirements are rather basic and if you have not passed you need to get a lawyer or fight this out with the system.
You have Named a Public Employee by first and Last name in this Question and therefor placed at risk the employee and your grandchild. This would be a violation of the rights of both the employee and the child and this Question is illegal... Hopefully someone else will notice that you have used the first and last name of a case worker and help remove this question for the safety and welfare of those people who do the best they can to keep children safe...
Please Report this Question due to the invasion of Privacy and risk to this Case Worker! |
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beaut
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There is obviously a good reason why the social services are doing this, your daughter is obviously an unfit mother and the child is at risk or else there would be no way in the world they would take the child least of all put it up for adoption , its obviously been going on for a while for adoption to now be the next thing, you said you couldnt have him because of your history is this a family thing then??
If your grandson is safer then thats all that matters xx |
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Mrs. Kav
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What on earth do you mean?
Keep a child in a home til it's 5, so it has birthdays and christmasses passing with no family?
Or let them be adopted early so they never remember being alone.
I know what i'd pick. |
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Elizabeth S
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I'd love to know what your child is accused of doing. It's not like social services takes away children just because. I've had students locked in closets instead of finding babysitters for them and their parents got to keep them!!
Edit - Contact the media and the state offices. If you already have a past that block you adopting you, I have to admit you may not get much notice. Somethings do not go away with time. Putting the social services employees on here with evil attached to them, isn't helping your case. |
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