Tell me your stories about adoption.. were you adopted.. did you adopt.. are you a birth parent?

Rowan

I was adopted along with my twin brother at the age of almost 4 years, but lived with the adoptive family from the time we were 8 months.

It was a good experience, for me and my adoptive parents. I'm not sure what my bio mom and dad had to say.

I've known my bio parents all my life, they were "Aunt" and "Uncle". Imagine growing up and finding out at thirteen aunt and uncle gave you life, but didnt keep you? As good as my experience was, being raised in a loving family, still doesn't mean i wasnt confused and bewildred and hurt by that revelation.

I know a portion of my bio family. I still have a half sister out there somewhere, aunts and uncles i dont know, and who knows what else.

Dont get me wrong, my a parents were wonderful, and i love them with everything in me, but its still tough. You know.

magic pointe shoes

Do you honestly think that my experience relinquishing can be summed up completely in a yahoo! answer?

The absolute bare basics is that I lost my son to adoption via relinquishment. How I feel about it and what has happened since relinquishment is entirely too complicated to state in this answer.

myst1998

I wasn't adopted, I would NEVER adopt and I am not a birth parent.

I am a mother who LOST her child to adoption and it is something that has affected me, my family and my child since. It has been ALL bad, and I have learned that it is quite common in adoption for it to be ALL bad.

Yes, Society lies about adoption on a daily basis whenever anyone opens their uneducated mouth and spews forth crap about how 'wonderful' and 'awesome' adoption is because the truth of the matter is that it isn't, its downright crappy.

cantstopLinnyG

yes.
no way.
no.
both.
with whom?
yes. they lied about everything.

Possum

Google blogs written by adult adoptee and birth parents.
You'll find all the stories there.
My story is far too long and complicated to write out here.
You could also just click on 'resolved' questions here - and I'm sure you'll find lots there also.

Nikki

I gave my baby up for adoption. I went through an adoption attorney. They were pretty good. No one ever tells you how painful it really is. If they did no one would adopt out. I was able to review the potential adoptive parents and when I made my selection, I was able to meet them (and there other adopted daughter). By law you are not allowed to know the adoptive parents phone, email, or address. I am able to contact the attorney office and request pictures and letters, if available. The attorney contacts the adoptive parents, they send pictures and letters to the attorney, and they pass it on to me. I do get pictures and letters from the parents so I can see how my baby is doing. It is still sad. I never got the proper counseling after the adoption so maybe it is worse for me.
My mother was adopted and it is frustrating for me not knowing what my background is on her side and what genetic problems I could be more susceptible to. I have seen her look for her birth parents so many times with no luck. Back then adoption was a lot more secretive than today. My Grandparents were not able to conceive so there view of adoption is a lot more...Disney. It really depends on who you talk to.

tish_part deux

tell me the story of how you lost your virginity. was it fun? what position did you like best? did you use condoms and birth control? was it with the person you loved? did you feel different afterward?

when you are comfortable giving us that degree of detail about your personal life, you can ask us.

read a bit, most have willingly disclosed. but it's a bit presumptuous to "ask" people to "tell you their stories..."

it's intrusive.

ETA: i'd suggest focusing on raising your child, instead of asking personal questions about people's "experiences."

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AmzsVUQOFcSbTuZCjwlMPKzsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090120104728AAu9fUV

be well.

Mei-Ling

You seriously expect me to sum up my entire life experience as an adoptee on a forum like this?

Do you know how many pages I could write about it?

Let's see:

- my mother's relinquishment of me
- growing up in discrimination
- facing racism
- rejecting my heritage
- being "spotlighted out" in Chinese class because I couldn't just "pronounce the sounds" right
- sending out a letter to my mother and father, expecting to be rejected
- having them welcome my contact and ask for me to come
- finding out I have two siblings - and knowing one was kept because OF ME
- trying to "regain" my language/culture while knowing it was my birthright

Need I go on?

still waiting

I was adopted into a really horrible family. It was a private adoption when I was three years old. When I was eighteen I found my birth mother and father and we have a somewhat close relationship, although the one with my mother is closer. Being adopted leaves you with alot of questions, and I feel like all of mine have been answered. My biological parents are good people, and I'm glad I found them.

Laurel J

I'm adopted. Over the years, I have come to mistrust people who ask me for my adoption story. Many of them are very sure they know what they will hear, and when I tell them anything different, they get angry with me.

And it's not accurate to ask whether my adoption "was" anything. It's an experience I live and will continue to live all my life.

So in love with her husband!! :)

I am adopted. I was at the age of 5 months. Moved from foster home to foster home, was 2 years old and was abused. Really bad! my brother and I were. I was thrown off of the top of a bunk bed, slammed into walls and locked in the closed without food or water. Yes, this actually happend. I have 2 brothers and 1 sister. we were all abused. This is something I never want to happen to anyone. if there is anyone else this happend to... I am soooo sorry. I was 3 and 1/2 before being adopted my my now parents... just lost my adopted father to cancer last feb 7, 2008. (so sad... the wrong father died). I am 22 years old now. I have 2 kids of my own and I am married. MY birth parents are 60 something and 50 something. (have not met them yet) but have records that I have not looked at yet.

I will when time allows it ... meet my mom.. but my dad is another story. I dont know yet about him. My mom tried to send my b-day cards for a while, but since I was not 18 yet, I could not get them. So, they got sent back. But thats my story.

I wrote something on this for H.S and Shared it in front of the class.

snowwillow20

I gave my daughter up, I regret that I put myself in that situation, I'm in reunion.

Indian-vision

I am so sorry people have been rude. From your previous question i get you are 16 with a one month old baby and struggling. I can see why you want adoption stories.

But the old timers here have spoken about their experience so often that i think every one is tired. If you look at resolved questions you will be able to read a lot of experiences that will guide you.

Best of luck !

Keto

I was adopted when I was one. I found out who my real dad was when I was 14 and found out I had many many many family members that I never met. I met all of them when I was 19. I still do not feel close to any of them. I have more than 200 cousins that I am not close to thanks to the adoption. So when I adopted my 'daughter', I made sure she knew as many of her family as possible at an early age.

Peanut88

I was never formally adopted, but I was "fostered" by a family friend (along with her husband and four sons). I grew up in one of the rougher neighborhood in Chicago near this family and went to school with her youngest son. My mom was not fit to be a mother and I was "raised" in a single parent household. When I was ten she passed away and this family took me in. Times could get tight financially and economically, however the love that I felt in that family instantly was by far more than I had felt in my first ten years combined.

I still live with my "mom and dad" and their youngest son, along with my son. I do still keep in touch with the three older boys (who all live out of the house but are constantly there!).

I never went through an agency, so I can't answer your last question.

I know that I was EXTREMELY lucky to be taken in by someone I knew. I know I've made some mistakes (ie...a teen pregnancy) but they still love me and have taught me more than I could have ever learned with my birth mom.

Cam

I'm an adoptive mom.
We keep in touch.
Nobody lied about anything.
We made out plan directly with the first mom.
It's about as good as it can be for adoption.

Ashley

i want to adopt... but i dont know where to go :(

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