Temporary Adoption question!!?

Not Adopted

First, she sounds depressed. Please try to help her find a good counselor - there are community based mental health centers that offer low cost or free counseling. Also, local colleges and universities often have counseling services available as part of their pych/counseling programs.

Second, check out a mother's support group. There are groups of women who will take turns babysitting so mom can take a break and get out of the house for personal time.

Look in the phone book under community services, information referral services, United Way, etc. They have lists of agencies and services that will help your friend handle her stress and keep her family intact.

snowwillow20

No such thing as a temporary adoption. Adoption is final. FINAL.

Baby G

Adoption is permanent. There is no such thing as temporary. What you're looking for is "temporary custody".

Lori A

If she would like to know what it might feel like to be without her children, she is welcome to email me. I would very strongly recommend guardianship.

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No such animal as temporary adoption.....there is such a thing as guardianship though.

Guardianship would allow the GUARDIAN to access social services on behalf of the child and somewhere down the road when mom can parent them, the guardianship could be dissolved if the court says determines it to be in the best interest of the children.

G'Luck

ETA:

Someone up there said foster care is tempoarary adoption....DON'T BELEIVE THEM!! Adoption is permanent in MOST cases unless a court sets aside the final adoption decree for some issue. That happens very rarely.

You never, never, ever want to involve CPS (Foster care) in your or anyone elses business unless absolutely necessary.

Are you willing to be guardian of her children or someone she knows and trusts?? If mom cannot parent them right now (for whatever reason) then IMO guardianship is the best option.

Never beleive that adoption is tempoarary and do not beleive anyone telling you it is. 'Cause it ain't!!

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1

if she relinquishes her kids for adoption, even temporarily, i do not expect her to ever get them back.

she might want to look into guardianship.

Gaia Raain

If you are willing to care for her children temporarily while she gets on her feet, it should be very simple. Call the courthouse and ask them how to go about obtaining guardianship, work out the details with Mom, and it should be pretty straight forward.

And I second Maybe's response. She needs some support, and counseling would provide that for her. I'm glad you're there to help out. Take care.

Maureen S

You have a "friend" who wants to "get rid of her 2 kids"!!!

My G-d, I cannot believe some people. Those poor children. All I know is that they will be better off with somebody who will PERMANENTLY love them and care for them. "Get them later"???? Children are not pieces of baggage that one hands back and forth on the whims of adults?

These two children are the ones that need help, immediately, before more damage is done. Can you imagine what THEY are going through during all this time.

For their sake, find a permanent solution to this horrible situation, before they are damaged emotionally, for the rest of their lives.

We all go through stress when we are Parents, but never, never, do most of us think, we want to "get rid of" our children.

DevonChaos

Adoption is PERMANENT. As it should be. If she can't care for her kids, she needs to figure out a permanent solution. Its not fair to the kids to be shuffled around.
I HAVE been through tough times. Single, 2 kids, living with my parents. I went out, and I got a job to make money and to get insurance. I was responsible. I never considered getting rid of my kids.
This "woman" needs to straighten up. There is no reason why she can't have a job. Ridiculous.
All the hard times I went through, I never thought of abandoning them. I never wanted to even think about it. There is help out there for her, but she sounds far to lazy and immature to try to find it, looking for the easy way out. Poor children!
ETA: I would like to add that I didn't "go out and find a job" after having kids, I had one before, during, and after both pregnancies, even working 2 jobs for a while to make sure that they were both taken care of. Your friend should do the same.

ETA: My advice is for her to get a job. Get on WIC or welfare, and be a real mother. That is the best advice I can give. If I could work 2 jobs with 2 kids, she can do the same.

Dream_Weaver

This depends on where you live. In my county (in Ohio) a mother can temporarily relinquish her rights and put her children in care until she can get her stuff together. The best option may be to call the local children's services to see what they can do. I have a friend who recently fostered a 3 month old until her mother found a better place to live. Three months at the most is what she was told. It's possible where I am, but the rules may not be the same in every state or even county. Good luck.

Pale Cheeked Angel

Your friend sounds like an irresponsible parent. If she needs someone to look after her kids for awhile it's called a BABYSITTER... you know, where you pay someone instead of dumping them on CPS' door.

rebbyshy1

foster care is temporary adoption

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