The Apple Doesn't fall too far from the Tree!?!?

Heather B

My Mom and I as SO alike, in looks, interests, traits - everything! I'm so excited to have found her after all this time and finally see the familial traits the non-adopted take for granted reflected back at me, it's just amazing.

Funnily enough, despite not growing up with my mother, we are very alike whilst my half sister who DID grow up with her is more like her absent father.

There's no denying nature and genetics and blood IS thicker than water.

Possum

I was blown away by my non-ID - and even more amazed when I met my sister for the first time. (heck - I'm amazed everytime we see each other)
I never dreamed that genetics played such a huge part of each of us.
My sister and I did the same subjects in high school, had the same hobbies, played the same sports, read the same authors.
(her daughter is even more like me!!!)
We finish each others sentences.
It's amazing to finally find it - that genetic sameness - especially when you've lived a lifetime without it.
I'm glad you've been able to get hold of a small piece of your truth. It's a precious thing.

BOTZ

Yes!

I had a lot of the same experience that you describe. What was even BETTER was all the things they *didn't* put in the Non-ID that I've discovered since meeting my mother and siblings and having (for now) an on-line relationship with my natural dad.

Here's some of mine:

Non-ID -- Dad is tall, coarse brown hair. Mom is med. height, "unusual eyes", fine, dark brown hair. Me: Tall-ish (for a girl), the exact same "unusual eyes" (this was referencing color, and color-changing, which I didn't know until we met), and coarse, dark-brown hair. :-)

Non-ID -- Dad and Mom both played (and play still) guitar and piano, and both sing. Other instruments were played by one or the other. Me: I play the guitar, piano and flute...and I sing.

Real Life w/Mom -- When we had dinner together for the first time, on the evening that we first met in person, we sat, leaned, gestured, and even ATE exactly the same way. I'm left-handed (and she's right-handed) so we did things mirror-image to each other. It was both amazing and kinda eerie. But, mostly really fun!

I sent Mom a picture of me when I was 13, playing the flute in the school band. Mom's Sister (Auntie "K") saw it once and said to Mom, "I didn't know you ever played the flute." Mom said, "I didn't. That's [BOTZ]." Amazing!

My sister and both brothers have stopped mid-sentence, on more than one occasion, and said to me something along the lines of, "I can't believe how much you look like Mom." or "Your eyes are exactly the same as Mom's." or "It's weird how much you resemble Nana (or Auntie "J", or cousin "B")." I agree. It's weird, cool, affirming and oh so sweet! Btw, I am the ONLY one of Mom's 4 kids who has her eyes. And, I look more like her than any of my sibs. Nature's little gift to me -- I think.

I hope you get the opportunity very soon to find out what ELSE you have in common with them. I'm keeping a happy (and hopeful) thought for you!

Take care!

ETA: Oh, I should also say this. It is mostly my intellectual pursuit, and my sense of humor, that is closely aligned to Dad. And, I'm a political dead-ringer for both natural parents while maintaining my polar-oppositeness (er, oppostion? LOL), politically, to my a-parents. Blue girl living in the REDDEST, literally, state in the USA. *sigh*

worldstiti

I have seen this many times and it does seem to travel in the blood line. My cousin is a seamstress - her aunts embroidered - and her daughters are very artsy her son is a mechanic so they all work with their hands

very talented each in his own right

Lori A

My daughter and I use this term all the time between us.

We share body language and speech patterns. Not that we sound alike, we use the same style of speech. We approach things the same way. We break in the same places. We use the same things for effect. Same sense of humor, sarcastic whit, bluntness. My grand daughter has asked each of us questions and gotten the exact same answer from both. She sounds like my mother when she says hello on the phone. Thank God for caller Id.

Her father and I were both the outdoorsy type, she is too. Her father is very creative, she says she missed out on that, I think she just hasn't tapped into it yet. We have both written a bit. I think her's are amazing, she thinks mine flow better. IDK

She has my bull in a china shop thing going. I have mellowed with age somewhat, she's still the bull in the china shop. Patience is neither of our vertues.

purple monkey dishwasher

my whole birthfamily and I are so similar its a little freaky.

The first thing we learned about that we both loved were Margaritas and rum and coke...both our favs!

My mom is very musical as well. So am I. I love interior design. Come to find out my grandma is an interior designer and both my mom and aunt love interior design.

My mom can sing, so can i.

We both love chocolate and peanuts together.

We both eat the same toppings on our pizza.

We both have a great sense of humor, hate sharing feelings,

my mom gave birth to a boy first, then a girl. So did I.

Fall is both of our favorite seasons.

Both of us have/had jobs that are a little out there.

We both have VERY similar handwriting and our voices sound so much alike.

We are so much alike its not even funny. And I LOVE that! Makes me feel great. Your post makes me want to give her a great big hug right now.....sigh.

Teresa

Awww this is so sweet & makes my heart happy to hear!
6 months ago, I did an adoption for my baby boy and gave him to a really nice family I picked out... I gave them lots of info on me & everything... everyday I think about him, to the point it hurts so bad. But I'm glad I could do what was best for him, by giving him to people who can take care of him properly right now. I hope someday he gets as happy as you do, to learn info about me. I have written him a letter and gave him a teddy... I wonder if he will ever cherish them. My parents say he will hate me for giving him to a new family... but I really hope he won't. He has my eyes and smile and mouth... my hair colour, hands and feet. Hes gonna be tall like his father & has his head shape, nose and hair line. He says my mothers ears XD!

rachael

in response to Lori A's 'bull in a china shop' comment-i deny that. i am as timid and demure as they come. hehehehehe....ok, i AM slightly bold. and my daughter will intentionally ask the same question to each of us and then just shake her head in amazement. we almost always give the same answer with the same body language.

i did miss out on my creativeness. my afamily wasnt into all that and simply didnt know how to guide me. so it went by the wayside.

but the sharp tongue and lightening quick sarcasm.....that is all lori. we are quite a force to be reckoned with when we are together. she is the right brain and i am the left. cant function without the other.

sizesmith

Seeing my fiance and his brother meet for the first time (at ages 48 & 44), I could see so many similarities, not only in their looks, but in their kindness, and in their voices, and their love for children (both weren't able to father children).

In my oldest son, who didn't meet his dad until age 17, there are so many similarities, including the way they walk, hold their hands at their sides, and love to hunt. They even have similar speech patterns even though his dad was raised in one area, with that area's accent, and my son speaks with a southern draw. Both his handwriting and his father's is almost identical.

My youngest son, who is adopted, is drawn towards music, and loves to go to the piano, which is the same exact place his older brother goes to whenever he visited before "J" was born.

I have a great-grandmother who I favor a lot, and her handwriting and my own are similar.

Dreamweaver ILF posse 2009

This makes me excited to find out too.
My parents (to you guys they are Aparents) and I share all sorts of traits so I can't wait to see what I share with my bfamily when and if the meet ever happens!

With my parents:

Mom-look almost exactly like she did at my age
all the women sing very well-me too!
chameleon eyes

Dad-talkative
outgoing
bull headed

Can't wait to see if these traits are also in my bfamily!

Amanda S

well you guys are lucky b/c the info i recieved in my non ident info was hardly informative at all. EVERYTHING was edited other then i think hair color and weight and criteria like that. i would have loved to kno some of that other stuff. my mom wrote me a letter when she gave me up and they edited the WHOLE thing other then the stuff i was already told in the ident info. this isnt fair. i know nothing!

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