To those who are serious about the subject of adoption....?

Is it just me or does it appear there is a rash of people answering questions here on the subject of Adoption....who are extremely pro-adoption in the context of their answers? Of course anyone can 'answer' and ask 'questions' here, but some of this stuff asked and the people who are answering, sound like 'plants' from the Adoption Industry. Not the least to mention how very young some of these 'questioners' and 'answerers' sound in their writings, to include not very educated at all on the subject of adoption. Is someone planting 'seeds' or just a host of Trolls
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The newest question about adoption...is what I am talking about. Someone asking a question...and then POW! a host of people answering in only the most positive and glowing aspects of adopting/adoption. Almost like many of these 'questions' are staged...the OP knowing that his/her pro-adoption entourage will only answer positively and many times showing little to no education on the subject of adoption. Not the least to mention that some of these answerers sound very young. Is there some anti-abortion/pro-adoption org directing these 'plants'/trolls? What's going on here? Only SERIOUS MINDED people EDUCATED on the many aspects of adoption need answer (hopefully). What Say Ye...what's going on here this adoption board?

kitta

I was thinking the same thing. It is as if there is a church group that is using this site as a project, or a "crisis pregnancy group "...which attracts lots of younger people or perhaps an agency that has "birthmom buds" working their computers.

The answerers just give "canned responses" that don't show much depth. But there are quite a few of them.

They have opinions and they become emotional, but they do not have much experience.

The fly in like locusts and then fly out...probably thinking they "have done a good thing......"

ETA: young does not mean inexperienced. I have worked with children who were very young, yet they were articulate and could express their feelings and concerns. What seems to be happening here, IMO, is a rash of comments by people who are just "showing up" for the heck of it.

MamaKate

Dear Gypsy,

These Qs appear on the main board when they are posted and sometimes when there is high usage you can get a glimpse of what the general public still believes about adoption. It is scary to me that people are so poorly educated about adoption. The industry is totally to blame but I don't think that industry plants are the problem. It is the millions they spend every year in lobbying, advertising (Aggressive Birthmother Outreach, anyone?), PR and damage control and free Kool-aid and cheerios propaganda.

The public is NOT educated about adoption or adoption issues. Sometimes I feel like we who are trying to do so are facing an almost insurmountable task - and without government assistance or being able to rake in gigantic fees in order to pay for our efforts.

BLW_KAM

I've certainly noticed the addition of a few "pot-stirers". It's been challenging to locate a serious question this past week.

As for the rash of quick "pro-adoption" answers, I attribute those to the people who watch the YA home page and try to answer questions as quickly as possible. By the time the question is posted here in the Adoption section, several non-regulars have already answered it.

From what I've read, most of the early responders don't have a personal connection to adoption or its complexities. What we're seeing in the first few answers is a reflection of the attitudes of the general public.

Do we have moles among us? I don't know. But it does seem like adoption has been the star subject lately of many school essays, debate topics, and quite possibly the working theme for a made-for-TV movie.

Carol c

My vote is that most of the posters of the ilk you describe are plants or trolls. Some of them are the same old trolls who have been on here for months, just using a new identity to try to imply that they are various people espousing the same view.
Their questions are uneducated, childish and usually designed to provoke reaction from anyone who they perceive to be against the adoption practices that they think are so wonderful. Good riddance I say, because they aren't here to learn anything. Intelligent people don't behave that way.
Most of them sign up new - they're here for a couple of weeks, months and then they're gone.. like irritating gnats.

SJM

Some of the questions and answers lately do look staged. Such as,

Q: "I'm not in the mood to be a mom today. I think I'll give my child away even though my husband and two other children will be brokenhearted."

A: "Oh, you're such a good mother."

And I had just finished eating. . . .

Flying Monkey #073177

I think some of them are here to promote their own, or their agency's, agenda. More women are choosing to parent and more people are looking to adopt. Supply and demand my friend, supply and demand. As with any other hot commodity infants are in demand and the supply is low so infant retailers (adoption agencies) are having to be more aggressive. They have to actively seek out their product (infants) in order to deliver the product to their buyers (PAPs). Yahoo! Answers gives them a new way to do this. By spreading the wonders of adoption on forums such as this they accomplish two things; 1) They are able to promote adoption as a loving and selfless option to women dealing with a crisis pregnancy and 2) They are able to promote adoption as an ideal way to start or complete a family to those interesting in or contemplating adoption. While not limited to Y!A this particular arena does provide them with a ripe setting for furthering their own goals. As for the fact that many come off as uneducated, young or just plain ignorant I have seen this before with agency "plants". They don't want people to know who they are working for, they want to appear to be "normal" people as it gives them more credibility, once you know them for what they are they seem far less credible and far more aggressive... not what they want since they NEED people to think that agencies don't act in that way. If people knew how agencies really work and how they really seek out their "clients" it would expose them for the leeching manipulators they really are.

23 year old texas female married

I'm sorry I am bored and am trying to understand why people want to adopt babies. I know a few questions have been from my account. But they do not promote adoption they promote young people to keep their babies. I noticed a lot more I want to adopt and adoption is a good thing but they never answer why. If they truly want to adopt an infant go to africa and get an baby that's mother just died from starvation or HIV and adopt that baby because that baby needs a home. Feed the children can tell you that. But people want white babies. If adoption is truly about the benefit of the child then why does it matter what color the baby is?

Emily D

Personally as an adoptee with a very positive view of adoption I find it very odd that there are so many people who are against it. Yahoo answers is honestly my first encounter with anyone who viewed it as a negative deal. But because of my own personal experience with adoption I choose to speak out about it.

Yarr

You must not have been here long or seen many questions yet. There are just as many questions answered by those who (from their answers) seem to think adoption was an idea straight from Satan.

cricketlady

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