We are adoption a foster child that we have had and would like to know what kind of celebration to have.?
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We are adoption a foster child that we have had and would like to know what kind of celebration to have.?
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We have cared for the child since she was born (now just over a year old). Adotpion would be finalized at the end of this month. We just recently had a birthday party for her, so I wasnt sure how to go about this. Most everyone has met her and welcomed her into the family (even though it wasnt permanent yet).
What do you think?
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Kiki
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This is an exciting and special event and it should be celebrated! Have a huge bash and invite everyone you know. It doesn't matter that you just had a birthday party for her. Your friends and family understand that this is a big deal and will be happy to help you celebrate it.
Congratulations and enjoy! |
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Linny G
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I wouldn't do anything too extravagant. She's only a year old. While it is a joyous occasion, many adoptees say that reminders of that day are very difficult. You may want to look at this link regarding celebrations of this.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AmbZ4rvYFXAmEaLmra74HfPsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20081217070341AAXhi9L |
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opedial
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She is a year old, so she won't be cognitive anyway. I would not celebrate, but have an official welcome to the family. Perhaps a friend could have an adoption shower for you?
I didn't have a big celebration, because I knew it marked a historic day for the children. Maybe you can do a scrapbook for her first year, and give it to first mom, or save it for child when older. |
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Kazi
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Our son was 2 when our adoption through foster care was finalized and we had a small BBQ at our house with only our family and our son's former foster family present.
We wanted to celebrate him becoming a part of our family, but at the same time we didn't want to diminish the connection he had with his foster parents. They are truly remarkable, loving people with a deep attachment to our son and vice versa. We didn't want to do anything that looked like we were rubbing salt in the wound as they were grieving, yet obviously happy for us.
Congratulations!!!! |
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anastasia beaverhausen-the real1
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have a BBQ and call it a day. why do you need to point out the fact (and CELEBRATE it!) that she has just legally lost all her blood relatives? |
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Beehaus
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We do Gotcha Day parties. They are lots of fun and a great way to commemorate the day.
Blessings~ |
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phatkat
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we had a shower for my friend. just a little get together and let everyone meet the new family. we had age appropriate gifts for the shower..clothes toy ect. and congratulations! you are amazing!!! |
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Valerie S
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well i am an adopted child i was adopted at 10 years of age and i think you should have a huge blow out for your permanent child, cake balloons anything else you can think of, because you will not have this time again make it count and every day after enjoy your new daughter and hold her close to your heart forever |
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Santa's Lil' Helper
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Something simple and low-keyed. She is so young no need to overwhelm her. |
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✧ Ⓛⓘⓛⓨ ♥ kaelers, emy & bella
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Since she's not going to remember it, I'd maybe just have a nice sit-down family dinner. Nothing extravagant, no "partying," or anything - just a nice acknowledgment of her joining the family.
If there's someone from her birth family (an aunt, grandmother, someone who is linked to her biological family) you can invite, it might be nice to involve them as well. I know this is a celebration of your future as a family, but I personally think that you also need to acknowledge the past as part of this celebration.
For such a young child, just make it a special, quiet celebration. |
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kimberly
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There is no reason you can have a party for the child even thou she just over a year old. Do a reservation at a restaurant and have cake and other
food, invite family and some friends. Or have a party at home with family and friends with cake and drinks along with appetizers. That way you and very one can welcome her into the family and take pictures
Good Luck! and congratulation |
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O
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Congratulations!
You might check with your attorney about having a ceremony with the judge, court personnel, social workers, and people who worked with you to make this happen. For example - take pictures, people can sign a card of congratulations, have refreshments. It is wonderful to create an event that your daughter will see in her scrap-book and hear about from you, even thought she will not remember it. |
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monkeykitty83
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I would suggest sharing a nice meal with family members and close friends. I don't think an elaborate party is necessary or appropriate, but a low-key gathering would allow you to share your joy about welcoming her officially into your family with the people it will mean most to. |
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