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My husband, Joel and I have one child, Landon who is 5, but our daughter Mikaelya was due last Friday so hopefully it will happen soon. We have had a lot of trouble conceiving and the doctor said this had to be our last child. When we got married, Joel wanted 4 kids and I wanted 1 or two. We have now compromised to having 3. So, maybe when Mikaeyla is 2 or 3 we want to adopt a child. Any info you can give us?
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kiss_of_angel_20
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Well I can give you a tiny bit of advice. If you do your home-study first through a private agency then go through the state it will go faster. If you wait and do everything through the sate it is going to take a lot longer for the home-study to be done as case workers are so overworked. Adoption takes a LOT of time and money if you go private. But if you want to go a little easier do foster into adoption through the state. And you have to understand that there are NOT a lot of newborns to be had. Most children are over age 5 and are special needs which could be anything from a medical thing to being anything other than white, or are part of a sibling group.This is something the two of you really need to consider when thinking about adopting and make the choice that is right for you and your two natural children. Adoption is a wonderful thing but it can also be heartbreaking sometimes. Good luck. |
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Adoptionissadnsick
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You compromised to having 3?
Maybe you should count yourselves lucky and blessed to have the number of children you are able to produce. Now is the time to focus and prepare for a peaceful birth, and caring for the children you have. |
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LJ
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Don't let all these people who come here with their horror stories scare you.
If you want to adopt, you should adopt. First, you should find out as much as you can about adoption. Read a LOT. Go to a few adoption classes (adoption agencies have these.) Join an adoptive parents support group.
If you still want to adopt, you should go through with it.
We adopted both of our children (they were born in China.) We are a very happy family. |
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Heather B
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You've been the parents of an only child for five years, that's a doddle in my opinion and I would recommend waiting to see how you cope with parenting two - they deserve your time and attention and can be quite a handful! |
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sunny
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Another pregnant woman who wants a child already...
Ask yourself why two children can't be enough for you. We can't control everything, and I don't believe adopting a child to hit a 'number' that you and your husband have set is right.
Adopted children are special needs kids. Before they get to a permanent home, they have lost their entire family, so very different from everyone else in your home.
As someone who grew up in an adoptive home with my parents 2 bio kids--I will tell you that I think I felt more isolated than other adopted people I know. Your children will have things in common with you, your husband, and each other. An adopted child will be the unique individual who reflects his/her biological family.
If you're thinking that there are lots of infants who need homes, you're wrong. There ARE lots of kids in foster care who need good homes, but if you go that way, I think you're YEARS from giving a child like that the security they need.
In the US there are 90 couples for every 1 infant waiting to adopt. Internationally, there are major problems in several countries, and most are NOT true orphans, meaning they HAVE at least one parent.
You need to do a lot of research, should you decide to go forward. Why not concentrate what you have, and give your best to the children you brought into this world? |
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skuuuuur
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At adoption.com you can set up a profile for your family where birthmothers can view it then you could be selected as the family for their child when it is born. |
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karlie
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adopting is great !!!!!!!!
and make sure to try to get your five year old to understand adoption well |
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the shark
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you have every right to adopt but i think various tests should be performed on the child you are about to adopt . for all you know that child will not be of a faster intelligent quotient and that might cause you to say had i known:
which is obviosly at last |
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