We want to adopt children from ages 6-14.?

Crucio

I would look into your state and see what the requirements are for you to adopt. You can always start the process now and it could be about a year or so (sometimes less) before you got a placement.

I agree about the age lets say a year from now you get placed with a 14 or 13 year old someone that age in most cases is going to look at someone who is 22 more as an elder sibling or cousin. Very unlikely to view the person as a paternal figure. Unless they happen to be severely handicapped. Though I think its wonderfully you want to adopt an older child. Because your husband is so young I really think you should look for now at children who are 8 years or younger. You can always later on when your husband is older adopt a few older children

You might even consider a siblings group you could end up with say a 7 year old, a 5 year old and 3 year old. Ages of siblings groups vary all the way from infant to later teenager. They also have diffrent sizes some are as small as 2 while others are as big as 9 (probably more)

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The laws are different depending on where you live.

Best thing to do is contact the child welfare office in your city. They'll happily tell you the requirements and laws.

Randy B

I would think, given the difference in your ages, that now may be a good time to start the process although there may be some concern regarding the length of your relationship with your husband (assuming it's relatively "new"). Then again, by the time you get far enough along in the process that should not be much of a factor.

It never hurts to contact your local DSS to ask what the policies are in your area. If you are looking to adopt the ages you state there are plenty of children through DSS awaiting adoption and there are normally no (or very low) costs involved.

Good luck.

suzanne

I believe I was told ( I could be wrong) That there needs to be at least a 10 yr age difference between the parent and child. So in your case, the oldest child you could adopt would be 11 yrs old. Best of luck to you!

Brandy R

most states just require you to be an adult. in iowa an 18 yo can become a foster parent and adopt.
That is a tricky age group as some of the kids have HUGE emotional damage. foster is a great way to do a trial run, be just foster parents and decided what behaviors you can and can't handle.
check your state's photolisting site. www.comeunity.com has all states listed and even info about issues, etc. it is excellent for information of all aspects

Cyn

First, sorry about the sterile issue, I was told that in my 20s and at 37 I got pregnant! so you never know... anyway
The age when one is eligible to adopt a child is determined by the state law in which the potential adopter lives.
However, there are a multitude of factors involved in adoption the least of which is the age requirement.

The general rule is 18 and no criminal background.

As an opinion, since your husband is so young I'd suggest children much younger than 6-14. Also there are classes you usually sign up for in each state.

Cyn http://www.TheMaverickPlan.com

mom of many

You must be 21 to adopt but some private agencies have their own age requirements. And most states have rules on the age differences between the child and adoptive parent. In Wisconsin you have to be 15 years older than child you're adopting. Some states say 10 years. so the oldest child your husband could adopt would be 11 or in Wisconsin, 6 years old.

sizesmith

Go ahead and start the processes. At your age, you might be able to adopt for free through the foster care system. Another thing you have to think about besides age, is the amount of time you've been married. In our state, you have to be married a minimum of 2 years before starting the process.

Private adoption laws, and agency regulations, and international adoptions all have different age limits.

icehockeymom7

I believe you would have the most luck at your age adopting out of the U.S foster care system. Most international adoptions require you both to be at least 25. But I am pretty sure adopting out of foster care has a much lower age requirement, so your husband's age shouldn't be a factor in that. Good luck!

ariarose1

Hope I helped!
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