Were any of you adopted?

PhilM

There are a number of us on here.

A very, very good support forum for adoptees can be found at:

http://www.adultadoptees.org/forum/index.php

A very good place to find support and other adoptees to discuss things with.

Heather B

I was taken by Nuns for adoption because my Mom was single. They told her I was dead.

I found her a few weeks ago and it's just wonderful - we both have answers to so many questions and will be meeting face to face later this year

There's a whole lot of adoptees with varying experiences at the site Phil mentions - all adoptees welcome. It's a great source of support and validation away where you can speak freely about how it really feels to people who really understand :)

kayla rae !

i see my bio mom every christmas,
and i call her on her birthday,
and she calls me on mine.

when i get to see her,
its amazing.

ive seen her twelve times in my life,
other than two years i lived with her.

but yeah,
its a good experience when i see her.

:]

Robin

I was adopted at the age of 3 by my foster family. I searched for & found my 1st mom, a sister & brother in 1983.

Initially, it was a somewhat surreal experience to look into the face of my 1st mom, who raised me for the 1st 18 months of my life. I expected to feel an instant connection, yet felt like a total stranger. She, of course, 'knew' me/remembered me.

"She's not your REAL mom, ya know!", people would say, as if I need someone to tell me who my real parents are. We got to know each other over time, though I wish I'd opened up more to her, allowed myself to BE her daughter, too, before she died in 1998. Allowed myself to have 2 moms (my a.mom reluctantly agreed to my adoption & 'unadopted' me 2 days after my a.dad died in 1997).

I felt an instant & powerful connection to my younger 1/2 brother. Although we haven't stayed in touch.

I met my bio dad 3 years later. I looked just like him! I took after him in many ways. I've met a couple other 1/2 sibs (sisters), with whom I have contact - usually via e-mail.

A 1/2 sis & I were pretty close for a few years, visiting each other & spending holidays together. She married 4 years ago into a big Greek family & has been so busy, we aren't in regular contact. A fact that is disappointing & makes me sad (tho I'm so happy for her happiness!). I miss her & my nieces & nephew.

Finding my 1st family is the BEST thing I've ever done for myself. I no longer feel 'adopted', that is, I don't feel separated from a huge part of who I am. My heritage, my medical history, who I look like & take after. And yes, I also take after my a.dad. I am a blend of nature & nurture.

Feel free to contact me.

Lillie

Yes. I was adopted at 4 months of age after the agency procured me from my 19 yo mother. I reunited 12 years ago to find that my n-parents had gotten married 6 months after my birth and I have a full brother & half sister. I am just like my father in so many ways, it is uncanny.

Reunion has its ups and downs, it is definitely hard work, but it is worth it, even the bad parts. I'd rather have it all go away and at least KNOW than be forever in the dark and never know who I am or where I came from. Although I am glad things are going well ;)

Reuniting has brought so much closure, so much peace and wholeness to my life, I wouldn't want it any other way.

perfectlybaked

My mom's first husband was in the military. She left for Alaska for some temporary work at a factory, with a group of her friends from Korea (imagine them going all over the town cackling).

Anyway, she had an affair there (one of many), and returned and told her husband about it, who is Caucasian. He convinced her not to abort me, and said he would raise me as his own.

When I was 8, they divorced, but I continued to visit him every weekend until I was 12, and outgrew the need to goof off and get into mischief with my friends, which is all I would do when I visited him. Still at this point, even though I was a completely different ethnicity, I thought he was my dad. It was always a bit weird, but I didn't suspect a thing.

When I turned 23, my mom via motivation from some Cabernet Sauvignon, blurted out that my real dad is someone she met in Alaska. He doesn't know I exist, I've never met him, and she doesn't know his name.

I emailed my "dad," and said simply that I had an important question. Well, he showed up at my work with stress acne, wondering what the question was. I had ordered an at-home DNA test kit, and refrained from revealing my question until I had the kit.

I brought it to his house one day, and he flatly told me he is not my dad, but I said I wanted something "official," as closure, and he agreed.

Well, I could've submitted zebra DNA and got a closer DNA index. There were no similar numbers.

Before then, I had issues, and after then, I've had issues. I see humanity as quite a big joke.

I don't know how I would find my dad, without a name and all, and plus he is some Asian guy who undoubtedly doesn't even have a social security number. I've grown up into a conservative individual, and I find it funny how liberal people love to abolish important laws that protect orthodox family unions, just because they don't care and don't have any standards, and want the rest of the world to be like them. I've lived the disorganized life, and I wish the government would've prevented the conduct that lead to this, and take the liberal stance on family matters to be a personal attack upon myself.

short shrimp

I was adopted at birth, finalized at 2 months. I have no interest in finding my birth mother. The parents that chose, and raised, me did a pretty good job. I have basic info provided by the Childrens Aid Society about my birth parents for health background only. And that's good enough for me.

Laura :)!

i am adopted but my life wasn't good at all trust me i lived in europe when i was younger and was adopted two years later after my parents vanished suddenly leaving me alone in that house ..
i have never been with my real family and my step parents never contacted me i went to big hugs and luckily found trace of one of my cusions and he lives 50 miles away from me.. but i have never been reunited with him and a few days ago two 40 year olds contacted me and said that they sadly were forced to leave there few month old child .. and they said they lived in Europe and were from the state address and the phone number was all together! it all added up.
but i am interested of adopted a little kid that needs it atleast a little but my parents have heard from them but we plan to see each other in a few years because lately i haven't been able to get a time up since ive been busy with my life..
and i would of been interested chatting.. but sadly my friends keep saying nope no and no -_-"
Bye..
Laura

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