Were u adopted?

ponytails07

Hello! I was adopted and so was one of my sisters and a brother(we were all from different moms and dads) and then my mom had a child-so there were 4 of us kids and we were all treated the same. I never met my bio mom (she died), but I did meet the man she married(not my bio dad) and 2 half brothers I have(one older, one younger). They told me her story and through my whole life I always knew I was adopted and I knew that if I should ever meet her I would give her a hug and say thank you! I had a wonderful loving family, lots of fun, work, animals etc. I dont think she could have chosen a more perfect environment for me. (of course during my teenage years I may have disagreed!!!)

I have always known that when "I grew up" that I would adopt myself. And 3 years ago I adopted my daughter who is 14 years old. It's been hard at times, but she is my daughter. Someone else was chosen to give birth to her and experience that part of her life. As a mom, I am truly grateful and thankful each day that another mom was able to go through the pain, emotions and finally the decisions to give her up. Doubly so, as she was adopted when she was 7-it didnt work out-so she ended up with me. Lucky me!!!

We are planning on adding on to our family with more children (she especially wants a sister but will "take" a brother!) and I know the right children are out there. It takes a special person to be able to give their child a better future.

With open adoptions now, you and your boyfriend can decide how involved in this child's life you want to be. Parents are very important and I'm sure yours are thinking of you first-even though it probably doesnt seem like it right now. I am sure you are in love with your boyfriend and I can't tell you that it wont work out. The odds are against you, but that is life and our culture. A friend of mine had a baby when she was 18 and has turned out to be a great mom. The boyfriend bailed on her-but he was a loser anyway. Another friend of mine got caught up in the moment at the hospital and changed her mind-the family she chose were extremely intellegent, one was a doctor and they were friends of the family. But all her friends talked her into keeping such a beautiful little doll. The newness wore off after about 2 months and she lost all of her friends, her boyfriend and almost her parents. Luckily her mom stuck by her and is basically raising this child. She has confided that even though her daughter is a pretty perfect baby(never really cries) it is extremely difficult and that it would have been a lot better to have given her up for adoption-and been her auntie(which was the original arrangement) than to be her mom. She is not a complainer, but has complained that the loss of her own life goals-or maybe I should say the change of them and mainly the things she can't do-both for herself and for her child has been extremely difficult. She has said that if she were to do it over she would have gone adoption.

You have to do what is right for you. There is really no wrong answer. Think about everything in regards to yourself. It will be hard, but keep the boyfriend and parents out of it and make your tentative decision first then talk about it with everyone involved. Raising a child is a big deal and you will need to include everyone that is or will be involved. Just know that there are people, groups, etc that will be there to talk to you and to give you some emotional support. If you do decide the adoption route, you can still be a part of her life to the extent which you decide. If you need to talk, you can always email and I'll give you my number-or those of my friends. Best of luck and a hug to you! Sheri

Erin L

You need to get some counseling, by someone outside of the adoption industry, to help make this decision. Figure out how much family support you'll have, do some financial and life planning for yourself, figue out what the emotional toll would be for you to be a mother at 16 AND what the emotional toll would be for you to place your child for adoption. Take care.

njpmom06

These are my feelings and only mine....yes, I was adopted, would I give back my adopted parents, NO NEVER, they loved me with an unending love.

However, since birth, I was placed at 2 weeks old, and every since I or anyone else can remember I have always had abandonment issues....severe issues. I suffered from depression all of my life. That could have come from my biological family, I don't know, they would never give me my health history....I find that wrong...we should all be able to at least know out health background. I have never trusted that anyone would always stay with me, even though the only ones that mattered left due to death. People always told me that I was "chosen", but I always felt "dumped" first. I know in my heart, that it was for the best, I had everything I ever needed. My parents love/loved me and always treated us naturally. When I was 15 my mother got pregnant with our "miracle baby", since for 20 years they had been told they could have children. They always treated is the same.

I would adopt, but please don't let anyone fool you into to believing it will be easy.

razi_woman

I am adopted and I have the utmost respect for my birth mother. My birth father probably doesn't know I exist so although I would like to meet him I can't really give him credit for being so strong and giving me up to a family that could love and care for me like my birth mother did. How can I dislike someone who gave me a great life?? I mean she will never be my true mother but I still want to meet her and I do respect her.

MN. Switchman

I was adopted when i was just a baby. (6weeks old) I am so thankful my birth mother had me and gave me up for adoption. I was placed for adoption thru Lutheran social services. My life with my adopted family has been wonderful! I have two sisters, both are also adopted. My Birth mother must of really had a tough time making the decision to give me up but she already had two other children and was divorced so she wanted me to have a better life than she thought she could give me. I have never met her but i thank god she had the courage to carry me 9 months and let me go. She gave me life and I'll never be able to thank her but i will make the most of the life or gift she gave me!

bri_56283_2002

i wasnt adopted but i did have a child at a young age. i had my first daughter a week before i turned 19. i love her very much but i now have 2 kids at 23 and we struggle every day. i thought my second daughters father was going to be different than the first one but he wasnt any better. he broke up with me the night i found out i was pregnant with her. neither of my daughter's dads are in their lives. i thought i was ready to have kids and take care of them but reality hit me and i wasnt. sometimes i wish i would have given them up for adoption because we struggle so bad. im 23 and i have been a single parent for the last 4 1/2 years. ur only 16. do u want to be tied down with a baby? i know its your choice and i hope u make the right one. but just think about ur future. finishing high school, goin on to college, havin fun... i didnt finish high school i got my ged. i went on to college but couldnt do it because of the kids. i dont get to have much fun anymore and if i do i have to find a sitter. its really hard. there's always open adoption where u get to see the baby and be in her life. give it some thought. good luck kiddo. if u need advise feel free to email me or im me.

â™¥Katie && Abbiâ™¥

My
-11 year old sister
-8 year old brother
-and 6 month old brother
Were all adopted

My mother could not have kids naturally, so 4 me and my twin sister, she had invirtro fertilization...My parents wanted more than 2 kids, but the risk they wud have more that 1 baby, was about 90%... So, they decided to adopt, they watched all 3 of their adopted chilldren be born, and none are another race so, they feel comfortable, they DID tell them they were adopted at a very young age, as as my sister and the eldest boy are related really, (real brother and sister)

but we are a big happy family, and they forget about their birth parents, as they want nothing to do with them

God BLESS America :)

MY MOM AND AUNT WERE ADOPTED...
It would have been nice if the parents had given them up instead of abandoning them..
I agree that you are too young to raise a child...
You will be blessed for "blessing" a family who can't have children with your child..and when you are old enough and established, you can start a family of your own...God Bless you!

melissa s

i am thankful to them, and so are my parents, i have 5 adopted siblings and we are all very close and we had a very happy upbringing are parents were the best, adoption is a wonderful thing

Erica N

No, sorry, I wasn't. I have siblings that were and its been great. I can't imagine out family without them.

Amanda M.

No, but somebody in my class is.

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