What are my rights concerning giving up my child for adoption?

Sareena

Nobody can force you to keep the child, give the child up or abort the child.

However, what are you thinking? you have a mother who is willing to support you in keeping your child? why are you not taking advantage of this? do you know how many mothers attempt to force their children into giving their children up and are not supportive at all?

You are only 7 weeks pregnant.Clearly not informed about EVERYTHING.You still have many months to go until you make a final decision, but I suggest you think real hard about this.It will be one of the HARDEST things to do..to give birth and hand your kid over to strangers.

I would be pretty pissed at you as well for giving my Grandchild away.Why not let her raise the child if you don't want to? If family is willing to step in and take the role of mother, which you want to give away, then they should be allowed to.Who parents you is not a factor.You don't need to parents in order to live a happy life.Also, you would also need the father to sign away his rights to the child.Have you discussed this with him?

Pip

No however it would be advisable not to rush into a decision just yet. You're only 7 weeks pregnant and answering on basis you've decided not to abort. How you will feel during your pregnancy will change which includes that you may decide to parent instead of surrendering. If you change your mind and you've picked adoptive parents it will be emotionally harder to stop the adoption going through. Wait until you have your baby before making up your mind for definite.

Mariah

Hey! I'm pregnant too with a little girl. I was thinking about giving her up for adoption cause I didn't think I could take care of her. But she's my baby and I realized I don't want to give her up. Please don't give your baby up. In two years your situation will change and your baby will still be gone. Your baby wants you not things. Someone told me that and I believe that. Your mom can't stop you. You have every right to do what you want to that baby. But think about it really hard before you sign your baby away. If you want to talk e-mail me. I'm in the same situation so I can relate. Us single moms should stick together lol

grapesgum

Your mother cannot force you to have an abortion or prevent an adoption. Those are your rights. However, as a mother-to-be your responsibility to your child, who needs you, is more important.

I think that you and your Mom should see a counselor together to explore how you and your family feels about your child. If your Mom is willing to help you, your baby is best off with YOU.

I don't understand why you think that adoption is "the right thing to do". It is cruel to give your child away to total strangers to raise when his/her well-being is best met within the natural family. I get the feeling that you have been reading propaganda put out by the adoption industry to convince you to desert your child.

Adoption is romanticized by the adoption industry to convince young women like you to hand your babies over to people with cash in hand to buy him/her. In reality, adoption is all about loss. Loss for the child and loss for the natural family.

Please share this brochure with your Mom so that you know the reality of adoption and not romanticized clap-trap.

"What you should KNOW if you're considering adoption for your baby"

http://www.cubirthparents.org/edd/index.php?id=1

Jennifer L

No, your mother cannot make you have an abortion. Nor can she make you place a child for adoption or prevent an adoption from happening. The father of the baby, however, does have the right to parent his child. He must consent to the adoption.

angellips3306

no way. the baby is your's...she cant stop you from any choices you make, under 18 or not. you have full rights. and i think it's great your giving it up for adoption...thats a very mature choice. good luck!

KevinM

Good for you in following your beliefs and heart. I believe you will be able to put your child up for adoption if you want, though she may have the ability to step in to try to adopt your child. Contact the adoption agency - they can get you more information on this.

Good luck!

Timid Women Rarely Make History

You and the child's father are the only two that have legal say in what happens to the child. Your mother can only attempt to bully you or try and talk you into what she wants. But that's all she can do. Don't let her tell you any different.

No it is your choice and that of the father. Contact an agency as they usually have places you can stay and help you through this. Thanks for giving the baby life and for your mature choice to do what is best for the baby. God bless you

Lisa C

Sunny, you have issues that need to be addressed in a place OTHER than here. Like an office some where on a couch.

Your mom cannot force you to abort nor can she force you to keep your baby and NO, she can not adopt your baby without YOUR consent. I would take some time to think about what it is you think is best for your baby. It is, YOUR baby. Just because you are 16 doesn't mean you can't be a good parent to him/her. But if adoption is what your decision is - and you are still VERY early and still have time - than make a good decision. Get educated on it. Find a good agency or a good "fit" with an adoptive couple.

Good luck. It is a hard choice, but it is indeed, yours.

Sunny

Another girl desperate to give her baby up to strangers and her mean mother wants her to abort..not buying it today.

Oh, welcome to Y!A.

Noucky911

Giving birth is a special thing. You create a new life within your own and the baby will need it's mother for comfort. Your mother may be able to help you take care of it but I believe abortion and adoption are not a good way to treat a human being. What if you were adopted? You would want to find your parents and ask them how they could have done this to you. I'm younger than you, but if I was pregnant I couldn't even think of giving up my baby.

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