What are the pros and cons of adopting and having you're own child?

A.MARiE

I think adoption is a beautiful thing! I think it gives a child a chance to have a better life. Most people who put their children up for adoption can't take care of their children the way they need to or they're just too young and can barely take care of themselves. By adopting, you give that child the opportunity to have a whole new life. Some adopted children wonder about their biological parents as they grow older and that could be somewhat of a "con". Myself being adopted, was always confused as to "why my real mommy didn't want me". So if you think you're emotionally stable enough to handle adopting a child, by all means go for it and good luck!

myst1998

I suggest you don't have anything to do with children at all with your attitude. Get a pet instead, say a cold blooded reptile that will not suffer when you 'disown' it because it no longer fits into your plans or things have 'gone south'. Seriously.

weirdfish13

Adoption is just as big a commitment as having a child of your own blood. I know someone who disowned his adopted kids, and I've never had any respect for him. With your attitude I recommend option C: Remain childless. It's much more convenient and you're not really suited for parenting anyway.

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1

pro-

if you don't adopt, you save a child from losing it's country and culture.

tish

ha. thanks for the laughs.

Carnie C

you are correct; why do so much hard physical work when someone else can do it for you? and heck, you don't even have to argue with anyone else about how to raise your kid. they can have ice cream for breakfast, cheetos for lunch and pie for dinner if you want, eh!!!

and you're right about getting an older one -- you won't have to put much work into them at all. If things don't go well, you can put little pedro back on the market when you grow bored of this whole parenting thing.

don't forget - this child will need some sleeping quarters -- perhaps you have a vacant dog house out back that you can throw some newspaper in for insulation? get a gerbil feeder and rig that up as well so that you'll only have to fill it every few days or so (less work = better happiness). use rainwater for drinking water; heck, he can probably use that same water for washing his undies while he's at it. shouldn't be any health concerns there to worry about...

i think you have this well thought out and should proceed with this mahvelous plan.

Indian-vision

You are obviously another troll . I don't believe you have a genuine question.
"disown them if things go south".Really???!!??

Don't come here and mock adoption.

InSaNe

you cannot disown your child, thats wrong. and if you want to adopt then adopt personally i feel its a good idea for some people to adopt there are already so many kids out there that need someone to love them .. why make more?

but then i tihnk there is a different type of bond with the mother and child if it is hers. but you cant help but love babys/kids.

-gorgeous-

The idea of disowning a child is terrible. that should not ever cross your mind.

Look, my opinion of adopting, is a way of giving someone that may not have a future ahead of them, and giving them a chance to earn, live, love and all that,

I'm only 16 but i would choose to adopt from like africa or asia, to give those kids that lost their parents to war or a child in poverty, to give them a life that they would otherwise most probably not have,

I am very drawn to the idea of helping a child that would otherwise have nothing,

I would advise you towards adopting, a younger child, to give them a start at a early stage.

If you chose a older child, they may become independent quite early. as they might remember their parents before the adoption kicked in.

Hope you do chose to adopt, its a great way of giving a child a life, they probably wouldn't have,

bye.

P.S

everything everybody said above me is completely and utterly true, the way you said that you can "disown" them does sound as though you would do better with a pet then a child. that kind of attitude towards your little disown section, for example, lets just say someone in the world has just had a baby, and they say, i don't want it anymore, and sent it on its way. IT NOT RIGHT. you need to take responsibility, your choice to adopt could potentially change a childs life, don't stuff it up for them by using such words. to start maybe take some parenting classes, change your attitude then decide to adopt.

Tsunami

well you know what when you adopt you are picking out the child its not like what you get is what you have. you have a chance to see what having one is like. but you can be special bout this adopting and find a genuine good kid and you can help him and he can be with you forever in one way or another. take care.

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