What are your views on adoption?

PhilM

Some reading for you, before you adopt:

* "Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self" by Brodzinsky, Schecter, and Henig

* "Journey of the Adopted Self" by Betty Jean Lifton

* "The Primal Wound" by Nancy Verrier

Heather B

I think closed and secret adoptions are cruel and unjust punishment.

I believe a human being should always have access to full knowledge and information about his/her genetic heritage and family history.

aloha.girl59

I adopted my son five years ago, so I'm obviously pro-adoption. Adoption from foster care, that is! Too many infants are stolen from their mothers in other countries for me to feel comfortable with international adoption...not to mention that a child adopted from one country and brought to another to live loses his parents, his language, his culture, AND his homeland. Add those poor babies to the ones adopted through private attorneys or agencies here in the U.S. and it explains why so many kids who truly need loving families are languishing in foster care.

I am pro-adoption as long as it is for children who truly need a home and family. Far too many adoptees have been taken from their homelands or coerced away from their mothers for me to support anything OTHER than foster-adopt.

Mom to Foster Children

Adopt out of foster care and give a child who needs a home a home!

Mei-Ling

I think adoption *can* be a good thing.

However, adoption isn't *always* a good thing, nor is it a guaranteed thing.

The only people who really have ALL the gains in an entire adoption contract are the adoptive parents.

It is all too often assumed that the child suffers no loss, and that the birthparents didn't want their child anyway. Those are merely myths to make the adoptive community "feel better." They are not true. In fact, they are rarely *ever* true.

Nani

I agree with PhilM. I adopted children before reading these books. I have never ever regreted adopting. These kids are my heart. Reading the books would have helped me understand many things that made no sense to me in the growing up years though. They should be part of the adoption procedure, as far as I'm concerned.

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1

as an adoptee, it is not a fun thing to be a second choice person. being adopted is painful, awful, horrible and terrifying,.

i adore my aparents. i hate the loss of my mother.

mandita210

Adoption is a wonderful thing for a child who really, truly needs a home and for a family who is adopting for the right reasons. Im like you, I want to adopt a child someday for many reasons. But I have a lot to learn about adoption before i adopt a child. There are alot of sides to adoption, some that you may or may not realize and understand. And when the day comes that you are ready tro adopt a child, you have to be aware of all sides of adoption and what you will face with the child that you adopted.

FINALLY had my baby boy!!!

I think adoption is a great answer the only thing I kinda dont like is when ppl adopt babies from other countries...I know they need families but dont you think we should be getting our children adopted first?? I could be wrong idk I've always thought of it that way.

ELLE T

I have birth children and my other half and I are in the process of adopting.

In the UK you can only adopt from foster care and the children we are looking at come with a range of problems as a result of neglect and abuse.

I always wanted a large family but never felt that all my children had to be biologically mine and I was happy to parent older children, I wasn't bothered about adopting a baby, which is nigh on impossible in the UK anyway.

My husband had never even thought about adopting until I brought the subjetct up. Initially he said 'why?' but after reading information I left laying around, and talking about it he is as keen as me.

kheuar

As an adopted child I am in favor of adoption, particularly as an alternative to a young unwed mother choosing abortion! My adoptive parents gave me everything my birth mother thought she wouldn't be able to give. I am grateful for both my birth mother's decision and my adoptive parents' love and generosity. They have always treated me as their own child, of course.

One piece of advice--I knew from the youngest age that I was adopted (my parents told me often as soon as they got me) and that I was loved and chosen. I never found out about the adoption in a shocking or surprising way and this is really important, I think. A child (or adult) who suddenly finds out the "truth" about family can feel very betrayed. There are also lots of valid medical reasons for knowing (at a minimum) that your parents are not your biological parents and if possible, knowing what, if any, medical issues run in the biological family. (Diabetes runs in my biological family, as well as heart disease and cancer--good to know!)

I think it's awesome you want to adopt and there are certainly men out there who will want to do so with you. Yay you for wanting to help existing kids who need loving homes!

bhageeruttym

I want to adopt too so i'm waiting till i complete my llb degree to be more financially secure to do that. it's a good initiative.

KÅwhai

I think wanting to adopt is wonderful, especially if you are helping a child/children who have been hurt or abused or something like that.

If you find a person that you love, he should see why you want to do this and im sure he would be in it 100%.
good luck

Jenni_a

Ive told my fiance that i want 2 children of our own and adopt one or two, i think because there is so many children out there that just want a mum and dad its mean and selfish of me not to want to protect a few of them myself because they are not blood. But contray to what some people say sometimes water is thicker than blood.

Adopt i think you're an amazing and strong person for wanting to do this :)

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