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Randy B
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I can see both sides of the issue, having adopted both internationally and domestically through foster care. As far as I am concerned both forms of adoption have their merits and both are needed. I've seen first hand the living conditions of the homeless in India as well as those in orphanages so you won't get any argument from me on that one.
At the same time though, when you are considering adoption you must make sure you are doing it for the right reasons, not to make a statement or to "save the world". I'm no saying that those appear to be your reasons, I'm just saying to make sure you are doing it with the right intentions and with an educated view to the process and it's benefits and drawbacks. |
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durdenslabs
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Let me say that I'm glad you are wanting to adopt. My husband was adopted as a baby from Georgia. His birth mother was raped and she was a deaf/mute so she couldn't raise him.
I believe that we need to care for our own children first. We are the "United" States of America, right? Shouldn't we stay united, even in adoption?
Our children here need homes just as badly as those in foreign countries. Not all of the children in the states are in good foster homes or in good care facilities. There are problems everywhere in every institution. Every child deserves a forever home with 'parents' to call their own.
Personally, I'm adopting out of the DSS in Louisiana foster care. I live in Louisiana so I don't have to worry about much travel, if any. There are over 500 children legally available for adoption just in this state! They vary in race/age/mental & physical aspects. I plan on adopting a boy between the ages of 5 and 9. The older children are in more need of a home than younger because not many people want a child that isn't a baby or toddler. It's really sad. :(
If you want to adopt from a foreign country, that's up to you. You are still giving a child a home. That's a great thing no matter where they are from. I just prefer to help "our" kids first.
As far as race is concerned it's up to each individual. I prefer to have a caucasian child so there aren't so many problems as they grow up. However, a child of mixed race would be fine as well. |
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j25
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There are so many kids here that need homes and love. These should be adopted first, just as we should put money into our own country and try to fix it before we go help other countries. |
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LostFan4Life
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Choosing to adopt from another country is really great. I get what you mean, kids waiting to be adopted here already have alot, besides a family. My friend's parents owns a adoption agency, and they 've adopted over 15 kids. From vietnam, China. Korea, Albania, Haiti, here in America, and Thailand and it's really amazing how easily they adapt into their new home. Most of the kids had a disease or disability and if they were to stay in their home country it would've worsened. They¿re all adorable and reallly sweet. |
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Daisey Duck
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The bottom line is any child that is in need of a home deserves one. It doesn't matter what country they are from or what race they are. It is a personal decision as to where a person wants to adopt from. And if others don't like what you decide to bad it is your decision not theirs. There are children in every country in the world that need homes and none are more or less deserving than the next.. There are children in homes and foster care in every country some are abused and some aren't it happens everywhere. You just have to do your research and see what is best for your life and your family such as can you handle a special needs child or a child with behavioral problems. Then you can make your decision as to where you want to adopt from. Don't ever let someone tell you one child is more deserving than another because of where they come from. They all deserve a chance. People on here complain about some wanting a child that will look like them, but then they want to rip apart someone who doesn't care if it's a white healthy american baby. |
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Cool Hal
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UK right?
Then ignore Seafret s/he is talking sh1t. Firstly the laws on adoption in the UK whilst rigid are designed to protect the children who are adopted. And the child is not picked out when you start the process. And if that means that people like Seafret cannot walk into an orphanage and say I want that one - good. It is about the rights of the children and not the prospective adoptive parents.
Also in the UK international adoption is not something that is common (unless your Madonna and Guy Ritchie) - again Seafret is misinformed.
I agree with you that there are a lot of children who dont have parents and here in the UK the children is care are (in most) cases looked after better but adoption may not be the best way of helping a child or a country. If you take one child from a community you dont change that community - Have you considered sponsering a child if you help support and pay for a child to grow up where they where born and become educated you make a difference to their lives but they can then spread that education to their friends, family, neighbours and their own children. Yes it is a slow process but it is the only way to improve the lives of a whole area.
Additionally you say you want biological children also - they can send and recieve letters and understand how a different culture works. You can visit the child that you sponser.
You get something, your children get something, the child you sponser gets something and so does the community they live in. |
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Seafret1412
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Many countries are tightening up their adoption laws, but the UK is still one of the most irritating to adopt from.
Laws designed to bundle prospective parents in red tape and make a simple adoption process span out for years are in place here.
You may be told you have passed their inspection, if you do fit into the rigid criteria, but, they will have picked a child at the start of it, so that by the time you get the child it is 4 or 5, and much of the early bonding is lost - absolutely ridiculous. Apparently, they believe it is better for a baby to be fostered here and there for years instead of being placed with a loving couple who would give it a loving home for life!
Anyway, here's my soap box back. I believe that many other countries are easier to adopt from, China has many girls available, and if you do get them young enough, they will bond with you and it does not matter where a child is raised, as long as it is loved.
I think if there are obvious physical differences between you and your new child, it is fair to tell them you loved them so much that you picked them out from millions of others - then they will know they are adopted, but just accept that you are mum and dad and love you.
A lot of the poorest countries do not necessarily put children into care unless they absolutely have to, to them, the bare necessities whilst living with mum and dad is better for a child than letting them go for adoption to someone with more money.
I tend to agree. However, do look into children in Roumania, Hungary, China.
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Looney Tunes
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You are so misinformed.
'Kids here who need adopting have somewhere safe to live in the meantime and food in their bellies."
Guess what?
In foster care, I got severely abused. I got kicked, punched, broken ribs (from being kicked) and broken wrists (spiral fractures from someone twisting my hand) and even things worse.
I was REAL SAFE there.
I had foster parents that did not feed me. On the weekends I got nothing and on the weekdays if I went to school, I got the free school lunch. But at the fosters home, NOTHING. They locked the refrigerator!
I was REAL SAFE there.
And all the foster kids I met in the 11 years i was there had some homes that were abusive. Some worse then me. Some kids run away from the foster homes because the streets are safer.
Your question is immature and misinformed. Read the statistics of children who are abused in the foster care system. Rape in the US is no different than rape in India....and it does happen here to the those that "at least have foster homes or care homes."
Move to another country if you want to help another county, because kids here are suffering too. |
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Cookie Monster
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I have friends that have one of their own, one baby from Korea, and are getting a set of twins from Ethiopia any day now. They are a wonderful happy family.
The little girl from Korea is 5 now and she is a great kid.
Do some research, though. Some countries make it much more dfficult than others, and some countries are much better at taking care of them for the few months after they are born than others. For example, Russian babies are put in orphanages and tend to have more behavioral problems than other babies. |
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Liane T
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I want to adopt a child form Haiti.
Sure, it would be neat to adopt a child from America, but adoption here is difficult. The mom can even take the child back.
I want to help a poor child who has no chance.
I understand where you are coming from.
I see no problem adopting interracial.
It's your life. Adopt whereever you want. i'm glad you want to adopt!
I'd say not to adopt a newborn baby because babies are always easily adopted, but 3 year olds and up have a hard time finding homes. |
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Proud
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There are children all over the world, of all ethnicity's and cultures, that need a home. I don't really think that any child should be discriminated against. If you find one in the states that you want to offer a forever home to, then that's great. If you find one in a far away, unheard of place that you want to offer a forever home to, then that's just as wonderful. In the end, a child that needed a home would be getting one. All the details don't really matter in my opinion. If that's what you want/prefer, then go for it. Everyone has their preferences and their beliefs.
Obviously, there are pros and cons to adopting outside your culture. Just something you'd have to take into consideration. Still though, its your choice and you have to do what you think is best for you and your potential child. |
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SofiaS
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My sister is adopted. She is Korean and I am caucasian. Sometimes people get confused by our family or ask us if we're really sisters, but otherwise having a sister (or a child) from a different race is just like having any other sister. I don't think it matters whether you adopt internationally or domestically becuase no matter what you are giving a deserving child a loving family. |
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Brittney S
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i have no problem of anyone adopting from anywhere or any race... i think its beautiful that there taking a needy child under there wing |
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Indian-vision
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Sadly for many its me ..me...me...me !! Nobody can be worse of than me. Nobody could have/is suffering more than me. My pain is eqivalent to the worst pain in the world.
So coming back to the point. Yes , India has kids the way you described. Millions grow up in the orphanages and there is never ample space to accomodate the other million that grow in the street begging, getting beaten, molested,turned into slaves.
I am an Indian and a regular here who has been fighting against people who club ALL international adoptions as unethical on the basis of the practises in Guatamala. I am also around to tell the people who are already going the "international" route that India is a great option inspite it being not easy to adopt from my country.
I would like to lastly mention please never adopt any child to "save" them but only if you would truly like to be a parent. Last thing an adoptee needs to feel is a charity case. |
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Charlie
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For me, I believe the priority should be looking in your own country first before trying to help others. Your country comes first. If you can't find the child you want then you start looking elsewhere. Too many people are looking to adopt African or Asian children because they've seen the likes of Madonna follow that trend. |
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shea s
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i want to adopt from another country as well. either from an impoverished place- or from a place like china, where christianity is persecuted. or both. assuming we've got the money, we'll be adopting a lot of children. my husband and i have two children of our own, and are debating whether we want to have another biological child next, or if we want begin adopting, instead. there are already so many children in the world who need families. why should i make another of my own? |
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pilikia
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This is what I dont understand: WHY a foreign country? Not that I have anything against it, but there are PLENTY of poor homeless children suffering HERE. |
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Ouida B
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I highly recommend adoption but you need to educate a lot more before you adopt. Volunteer at a children's home. If you saw what I've seen you've never think the way you do. There are abused and mutiliated children in your state. I once saw an infant that was only 8lbs at 6 months old because the mother did not feed the baby. Mother said the baby stopped crying a lot so she figured he wasn't hungry.Right here in the US, major city.
There are thousands of children in the US that need homes. Not that there aren't thousands more in other countries. My conscience would not allow me to travel to China or Georgia or Russia to adopt when there's a needy child right around the corner in a foster home or children's home.
Adopting a different race? Children need love and families, period.
But I think it would be the adoptive parent's obligation to live in a diverse neighborhood and send the child to a diverse schools and places of worship. |
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My Soldier is a daddy, too.
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i think there are too many kids here in america that aren't eating and don't have homes that need to be adopted before we start taking care of other countries.
why are so many americans worried about what's going on in other counties but choose to ignore what's going on in their own back yard?!
" I would definately want to adopt from a poor country where kids are really suffering," kids are really suffering here in america.. don't you realize that? |
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beegirlny
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International adoption should be banned. Adoptees have enough identity problems and other issues without being taken from their native country. It's bad enough they lose their families, don't take away their cultural heritage as well.
If you really want to help those children make a donation to a charity that cares for them. |
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Paul
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Adoption from foreign countries should be made illegal.There are enough babies,children in this country looking for caring homes.
Charity begins at home.Or so i thought. |
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mom to be
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I see nothing wrong with providing a loving home to any child in need, regardless of where they live. I support international adoption. Do what is in your heart, but do your research first. Look for an agency that has references to share with you or one that you can be referred to by someone you know. Good Luck. |
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SJ Butane
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Nope, not a problem. Go for it. A child is a child, and all deserve an opportunity for a better life no matter where they are born. |
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kims
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Since you're talking about the distant future, I would say you have plenty of time to read up on all the issues involved. In the meantime, raising awareness and giving money to an organization that helps families overseas would be a great way to help some of those children. |
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Heathen Chemistry
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You shouldn't rush into these things for sure, but I really don't see the problem adopting anyone from a foreign country (depending on what age they are and their medical conditions) If they're like 2 years old then I think that's perfectly ok, because they have their whole life to learn the new langauge, however if your like 13 they'd have to a language all over again, and might get fed up and maybe bullied? |
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Lily
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If you have it in your heart then do it. However may I suggest you adopt after you go to college and take a number of psychology classes. Many children from third world countries have many long term psychological and medical problems. I know of 6 children that were adopted and they all have severe problems. The mental problems are the worse to deal with (some can not bond with you). |
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Balls I
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adopting a child of a diffrent race only makes him question about his real parents.the child will feel more conected the more simalr he looks to you. its not an isue for you but childs see color.the problem with you i think is you think the only way not to judge a persons by color is by completley ignoring it.acept the colors dont ignore them relize that that person is diffrent from you BUT dont judge them for the difrence. |
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Rachael B
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there is enought children in the uk (thats if your from the uk) that need a home. it wouldn't bother me if you adopted one from here and another from abroad. i dont think it matters what colour skin the child has |
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