What do you think is the best thing about not being adopted?

Jump S

Not accidentally marrying my brother some day because he was given up for adoption too and we didn't know we were brothers.

dory

Not having strangers tell me I should be grateful I wasn't an abortion.

Oh yeah, and growing up with my mother.

Lucy da cat

Being able to be around other cats like me,
Not losing my cat heritage
Not feeling abandoned
not being called ungrateful to my furless parents by other cats

Linny G

Not being adopted.

Halo Mom

I was one of fine
All biological. I always been an outsider
I have a cousin that were adopted, and felt the same way. It help him to see me and another cousin(1 or 6) always felt like an outsider

It was the three of us. His sister were adopted and fit right in, better than me.

Family history is the best thing about not being adopted

cruzgirlz3

I don't know. I have never been not adopted. ;)

opedial

I would concur with another answer that genetic mirroring....even though i may have a questionable gene pool, it is still mine and I am glad I have it.

kitta

There is a sense of connectedness that crosses generations. There is a sense of timelessness.The extended family is where the sense of family comes from, in my family.

My family doesn't always see how people look like their parents. Sometimes children look more like a grandparent or aunt or uncle or cousin.

My family doesn't share much medical information. They do share personal interests,talents, education, and heritage issues that tie us together. We have a sense of family loyalty and recognition.

There is a heritage center/museum in the town where our ancestors settled where we are active on the board of directors.

I guess what I am trying to say is that we are aware of our place in history and our collective role as well as our individuality as members of this particular group of people.

Heather Leigh

Never being told At least you weren't aborted or You should be grateful.

Carol c

I agree having medical and genetic history is a real plus. It was great growing up being told I looked like my dad and other relatives and feeling the connection that goes with that. Also, I guess not having the underlying feeling of wondering if something was wrong with me because I was given up. While I was not a planned baby, I know my parents were excited to have birthed me.
As a first mother who lost my own baby to adoption - I wanted him desperately but was never able to express that excitement about giving birth because I knew he would be taken from me immediately. He was born in a mutually shared state of sorrow.

Nurse Autumn Intactivist NFP

Having my mom

Freckle Face

Hi Torrejon,

I guess medically speaking, knowing your family history.

Personally, I can appreciate i know who i look like and i know whose mannerisms i have.

These are the things i think most people take for granted.

Isabel A

Knowing your parents' first names your entire life.

Genetic mirroring...that's a big one.

Growing up with biological siblings.

ventity325

I would have to say that should I ever need to know I can find out my family medical history.

myst1998

I know my complete family history, my cultural background, I have my original birth certificate. I grew up with my own parents and sisters... we all have similarities and when I have be away from home I know who I belong to. I can say about my children "oh she is so much like..." or "he has the same .... as ....!" There are no questions, no feelings of I don't belong here. No wondering, no guessing as to what is unknown out there.

When I was younger, my sisters were 5 and 6 years younger and looked almost identical, both with white blond hair. Mine was a darker blonde and being older I looked different so kids used to tease me about being adopted. It was awful and a bit traumatising. I will never forget that terror of what if I was adopted and my mum isn't my real mum? Then I fantasised about who might be out there wondering about me. Eventually it got bad enough and my mum picked up something was really troubling me and we sorted it out and she completely assured me I wasn't adopted. What a relief I felt! However, those short months were quite scary for me as a young girl and I have never forgotten how I felt so I can only imagine how adoptees must really feel.

(Sorry if this appears like I am trivialising anyone's experience, not meaning too, just relating personal feelings)

Gaia Raain II

Knowing my history, my genealogy, looking into "my" eyes, matching up my toes with those of my parents, knowing where I got my talents, my demeanor, my nose, my hairline...knowing WHO I AM, at a glance. Without having to beg or pay for this info.

FlutterMeBy

I would have to say family genetics/history.

Even if the adopted parents have some info on that, theres a chance that its not completed.

Sue M

I will never know.. But I guess not having the long and hard search to do would be nice.. Ireland is so behind its times.. :(

Edit:: I might just add as im here, I know who i am and who my Mam and dad are, and where i got my personality from.. I just don't know who had a quick shag and didn't want the responsibility..

Independ"ant"

I can't really pick one best thing. I think being adopted causes a multitude of issues throughout one's life so in general I've been spared all of those preventable traumas or uncomfortable moments.

I remember when I was about 8 and my younger sister and I were looking in a mirror together comparing our similar/dissimilar features and laughing about who we looked like. I think moments like that are what I cherish the most.

red elephants

I wasn't adopted but I don't know half of my genetic make up or genealogy because my dad opted not to ever meet me or stick around.

That seems to be one of the positives of not being adopted. Knowing your medical and other history.

Honestly I do not think being adopted would bother me one bit.

If adopted from foster care when older then not being bounced around would have been a positive for not being adopted. But then again many non adopted kids get bounced around and come from very blended families now days too.

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Knowing where you came from...

â™¥ Animal Luvr â™¥

Knowing where you came from. Thats about it. Sometimes I wish my parents DID give me up for adoption so I would have had a chance to find a caring and nurturing family.

Katie

I think having my medical history. Luckily my children, adopted through foster care, do have that but I know many adoptees don't.

Not Adopted

Not having to sing the "adoption is beautiful" song.

Dreamweaver ILF posse 2009

dunno. I've never NOT been adopted lol

2 points!

tish_part deux

-being nurtured, nursed and raised by the woman who gestated and gave birth to me
-no drug induced breast milk *yuk*
-knowing that my existence was not due to someone's loss; or infertility issues
-no abandonment issues
-no feelings about being "second choice"
-no "primal wound"
-not having a price tag on my head
-knowing my history
-feeling a connection to my parents
-"looking" like my parents
-having my b. certificate
-same culture
-same beliefs
-similar mannerisms
-no secrets about my origins
-no "made up stories"
-no dealing with another's infertility issues
-no incessant banter about "gratitude."
-not made to believe i was "special needs" or "hard to place" (you know how those black babies are discounted?)
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i can think of more, but i have to go an nurse my son...and call my mother.

Samantha

Not getting the feeling of being un-wanted.
Or being adopted.

Because, how'd you feel if you were in the adoption agency because your family just didn't want you. I'd hate to have that feeling. I can only imagine what other people go through in life because of it.

Bay Raymond

Well I'm adopted but I knew my parents because i was adopted at age 7 and well the good thing is that I know my parents and I know what they were like and what traits I inharited.

Kallie is,, so confused.

I'm not adopted. I think there is nothing. Once you are adopted thats your mother and thats your father. When you look into there eyes you know they love you. And thats all that matters.

bratbrat2727

Shouldn't have asked "What do you think is the best thing about not being adopted"? But " What do you think is the best thing about being adopted"? Having 2 parents that Love Me!

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