What do you think when you hear the word "Birthmother"?

yeehaneeha

I am a birthmother. I had to make the most difficult decision that I will ever have to make. I wanted what was best for my child. I put her life ahead of mine. She means the world to me and I wanted to do everything in my power to make sure that she had the best life possible.

So when I think of other birthmom's out there, I think of bravery, sadness, tough times, emotional, emptyness, sadness, caring, and loving. It takes a lot to give up a child and to put their needs in front of your own.

Justice

Desperation

Crucio

To me itâ€™s a woman who gave birth. Regardless if they kept their baby or placed it for adoption, or were a surrogate.

mlassi65

Birthmother= a term coined by social workers and their ilk to lessen women who have relinquished a child. As for not killing their baby, do we call women who have had abortions "Aborted mothers"???????

lahdh4

Pain, depression.
A normal, everyday person who doesn't need to be put on a higher level then anyone else.
I hate the word but it is what I am and I hate it!!
I hate people who keep going on about being brave. Step in my shoes and deal with the pain.

grapesgum

When I hear the term "birthmother" I think of a term that was created by the adoption industry to diminish the role of a natal mother. I think it was coined due to pressure from adoptive parents (adoption agency customers) who needed to feel validated as "real" parents. It is very sad label given to women for a very sad reason.

I cannot answer the next two questions because "birthmothers" are real human women who are as different as any other group of humans. To say that a "birthmother" is a this or a that merely perpetuates unfair stereotypes.

Cam

A very brave person. Many times young and making the most difficult decision of her life.

Stinky Pete

When I hear the word "birthmother" it tells me more about the person talking than it does the person they are refering to

thefoxxww2

I think of my son's first mother.

I hate hate hate the term birth mother. I agree that it's a term coined by the adoption agencies to put these women into a lesser place.

Joy M

oh I must be a birthmother then because I loved my child enough not to kill him.

That makes me feel so warm and happy inside.

Gershom

Lets just give an outstanding applause to the social workers and adoption "professionals" who 25 years ago invented the term birthmother, to minimize the signifigant bond between a mother and child in order to promote adoption. They have done a fine job, at least by the calculations I've made off of yahoo answers, they did exactly their intentions, its no wonder they're billionaires.

Please read the below page and articles to find out why birthmother is such an offensive term to many natural mothers.

sunny

I think the term 'birthmother' is offensive. I think it implies that a child has traveled through a woman's body, like a vessel, into the arms of her "real" parents--the adoptive ones. Puke.
Natural or biological is more appropriate.

To Attorney in FL (trolling for clients, counselor?) : Eating and sleeping are akin to human beings having children--it's not 'selfish', it's what we're on the planet to do.
I think trying to shame women, who have less socially or financially, to give their babies infertile couples is SELFISH.

And what's more selfish than that? Attorneys who profit from this disgusting practice.

Eazy Duz It

A woman who gave up her child to adoption or even the biological mother of a foster child

Duck C

The biological mother of an adopted kid.

Group836

Your birth-mother is the women whom carried you inside of her for 9 months, went through labor and delivered you into this world.

versantly

the woman who gave birth to a child.

robin_anderson02

Birthmother is
A mother is the natural or social female parent of an offspring.[1] In the case of a mammal such as a human, the mother gestates her child, which is called first an embryo, and then a fetus.[2] This gestation occurs in the mother's uterus from conception until the fetus is sufficiently developed to be born.[3] The mother then goes into labor and gives birth. Once the child is born, the mother produces milk in a process called lactation to feed the child.

Mothers have historically fulfilled the primary role in the raising of children, but since the late 20th century, the role of the father in child care has been given greater prominence in most Western countries.[4][5] The title mother is often given to a woman other than biological parent, if it is she who fulfills this role. This is most commonly either an adoptive mother or a stepmother (the biologically unrelated wife of a child's father). Currently, with advances in reproductive technologies, the function of biological motherhood can be split between the genetic mother (who provides the ovum) and the gestational mother (who carries the pregnancy), and in theory neither might be the social mother (the one who brings up the child).

friend

To me I think that it is someone just like myself.. Loving, caring and wants what is best for their unborn child.. A birth mom is not different from you or me really.. I really don't understand why they call them birth moms.. But they are people too and deserve the respect also... They are strong, brave, unselfish and loving to be able to help someone out that can't have any children or no more children... To me I have a special place for them in my heart, they have placed their child to give them more than what they could and they should be rewarded for that and loved and not looked down on by society... This is my opinion though...

My3Boys

A woman who, for whatever reason, was able to bring a child into the world, but was wise enough to know that she could not handle being a parent, for whatever reason.

It is a very difficult decision, one of the hardest a person could ever make, and I have a lot of respect for women (and girls) who know they can't raise the child, but are willing to carry the child to term so he or she can have a great life with a loving adoptive family.

Heather B

I must be a birthmother too because I gave birth to the 3 kids I'm raising

It's a disrespectful term coined by the adoption industry to make adoptive parents feel like the 'real' parents

Emily E

Women, and girls, who loved their child enough not to kill it, and loved their child even more to give it a home with someone who could care for it.

medge97

What is your reason for asking? Are you a birth mother, and adopted mother or an adoptee? or are you just curious? I am adopted and when I think of birth mother I think of the person who gave me life but nothing else. however, I have just found my birthmother a couple of weeks ago and as I get to know her "birthmother" sounds indifferent and now I am not sure what to call her. I dont want to call her by her name, I dont want to call her mom...I already have one. I cant go around calling her "bio mom" or "natural mom" and for the record biological or natural mother doesnt sound any more approiate than birthmother when speaking in general terms

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in my mind birth mother is the lady who gave birth to me. but my mother was the lady who raised me.

Granny 1

I am adopted and when I hear birth mother I think thank god for that wonderful woman, she gave me a great life I wouldn't have had as an unwanted child.

Roberta P

Birth mother is the woman who brought a child into the world.

I like to think that my daughter's birth mother is a woman who loved her very much. She is a woman who was devastated that her child was born with special needs. That she was heart broken that she couldn't care for her and had to put her up for adoption, in hope that the state would provide for her until her forever family adopted her.

I thank her for having her and doing the right thing (putting her up for adoption) so I could adopt and love her.

I like to believe that it was the hardest thing she every had to do because she loved this child with all her heart. This may not be true but it is a nice thought.

Shannon Lee

The women who gave "birth" to you! I don't know if you would call you her mother.... your mother is a person who takes care and loves your from birth on... but your birthmother is the women who gave birth to you!

Green-eyed Nikki

birthmother is simply the woman who gave birth to a child. It does not necessarily mean she is any kind of mother to the child. from my understanding it is generally a woman who gave a child up for adoption or was only a surrogate and she is not raising the child. I don't think you have to be related to a child by blood to be a mother to it, as long as they are being raised with tons of love and support and good morals and such. Those (among other) qualities are what make a good mother, not just biology.

ak0840

I think of a woman who gave birth to a child but has no involvement with regard to raising the child.

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