What first comes to your mind when you hear the term(s):?

Shelly P. Tofu, E.M.T.

Well I absolutely do NOT think they mean the same thing

a family by adoption IS a family. Once the family is formed, it's a family.

I think EVERYONE should be pro-family

anti-adoption gives me images of very very very narrow-minded people. I mean, sure, there's LOTS in adoption land that needs to be reformed, fixed, etc.. but "anti-adoption" sounds to me like people who are too narrow to compromise.. who throw the baby out with the bathwater. Who assume all situations are the same and that there is one answer for all situations, one word to describe all Aparents.

There's WAY too many of those here...

Lori A

TO ME Pro family means families staying together comes first. Too many families are torn apart because of someone else's idea of acceptable.

TO ME Anti adoption means the whole system needs to change. Children should not cost as much as a starter home. Women shouldn't be coerced, or tricked out of their babies and fathers should not be side stepped in their right to parent. Family should always be actively sought out to see if anyone would step up and keep a child within their blood line before adoption proceedings even start. And pre birth matching should be abolished. It does nothing but cause heart ache.

Opedial

It is all propaganda asking people to put their beliefs into a box and then be sealed in that box forever.

Someone who uses pro-family as a term to describe their belief that all biological families should be preserved, well the problem is that if you do not believe that (i.e. foster care etc. etc.) then if you do not agree you are anti-family.

Similarily, I am not "pro" adoption or anti-adoption I am glad I was able to adopt and glad I was able to adopt from foster care, but would have been horrified had I adopted a child who had a chance at being with their mom and dad if not for a corrupt system.

It is the same argument the "pro life" people use, if you don't agree with "pro life" then you are pro death or anti life, which is why I use anti-choice, which is also a propaganda word.

Basically these words are used to promote certain ideology: you are either with us, or against us.

I always seem to be against us :0)

DevonChaos

Its hard to say.

Pro means "for", like you are all "for" something. In the instance of "life", I am all for it. Living is excellent. I guess that would make me "pro-life"? Not in the slightest. There are "movements" that take a term and give it a political meaning. I'd reluctantly say I'm "Anti-adoption" in most cases, but that doesn't mean that I think adoption needs to stop and never happen. I could say I'm "anti-adoption" in the case of x, y, and z... but then it would take a lot of explaining to let someone know the instances where I find it is a positive thing, and also where I find it to be negative. Because of all the variables, I choose to not affiliate myself with any movement like this. Just like I could never say I'm a Democrat or a Republican. I agree with some from column 'a' and some from column 'b', and detest parts of each.

When I hear terms like "pro-family" and "anti-adoption" all I can think is that I'd better steel myself up for someone else's agenda to be pressed.

MamaKate

What I take them to mean:

"pro-family" - Someone who supports the rights of families, ALL kinds of families. Someone who chooses things that benefit families vs. things that benefit business or government. (Usually because they realize that families are what support big business and government...)

I believe family rights are:
1.) To have honest access to family public records and history
2.) To maintain inter-familial relationships with out interference from others.
3.) To be protected from exploitation, abuse and fraud.
4.) To education, assistance and support in maintaining family. (This right can be lost if abuse is present.)
5.) The right to reunification when separated. (Barring separation due to abuse or danger to one or more parties.)

I believe in these same rights for ALL families, including, Natural Families, Step-Families, Adoptive families etc. If family relationships exist, they deserve protection. (I guess I'm "pro-family" as per my personal definition.)

I do not believe that "pro-family" has anything to do with abortion.

"Anti-adoption" - Someone who does not believe adoption should ever occur for any reason.

I am not "anti-adoption". I believe there are cases where adoption is ethical and necessary. I am, however, "pro-reform". There are many issues within the current system that I believe could be improved upon.

"pro-family" and "anti-adoption" do not mean the same thing to me.

JMHO.

Dreamweaver ILF posse 2009

Lots of things.

I'm pro family....I also believe adoption can be a good thing.

I'm pro-life but believe in a womans option to choose.
Sounds contradictory, but for me, its not at all

monkeykitty83

The term "pro-family" doesn't signify much to me. I doubt there are really many people in the world who are opposed to any sort of concept of family. I don't think the pro- means much when there isn't a realistic anti- to balance it. "Pro-family" just seems like a meaningless catchphrase to me.

I also don't think that "pro-family preservation" is the same as "anti-adoption." Being for preserving the natural family would just mean that's the first choice-- it doesn't mean that when the natural family genuinely can't be preserved, adoption is off the table. A person can support natural family preservation and still consider adoption as a suitable option in some cases. (For example, many people who were pro-family preservation would still support foster care adoption when family reunification has failed.)

Being "anti-adoption" would to me mean that adoptions of any kind should never happen. And that's also different from "pro-reform." Wanting to reform something is quite different from being against it.

Kazi

Pro-family. Pro-life. It's like saying you are pro vanilla ice cream.

Unless you are a psychopathetic mass murdering kitten-kicker, most humans would claim to be pro life and as most humans also have families, they would also consider themselves to be pro family.

I describe myself as pro choice. I use this moniker not just with my feelings about abortion, but also with my feelings about most things in life. Life is about choices. You are responsible for your life. Everything is a choice.

cmc

I don't even know what pro-family means. It sounds very right wing to me. Like no gay marriage etc.

I know what anti-adoption means. I can't imagine they mean the same thing.

twisten

A**holes,
no option to speak on the behalf of others needs !
PISS ME OFF !
wheres my gun ?

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