What is with the whole adoption argument?

bash

Adoption is not a solution to abortion. Outlawing abortion only makes more unwanted children....in an already overcrowded system. SOME adoptive parents only want a baby--a healthy, white newborn to be exact. Others are perfectly willing to adopt any child in need of a home. You are correct, I don't feel sorry for a woman who can't have children if she is ONLY willing to adopt an infant.

cantstopLinnyG

It is not the responsibility for fertile women to provide babies for the infertile. Abortion is a medical procedure which has nothing to do with adoption. If people truly want to be parents, they will become foster parents.THOSE are the children who "need homes".

Randy B

First off, assuming you are from North America, there are no orphanages any longer. If you are from elsewhere and you still have orphanages thats different but just keep in mind that we don't have them any more.

As for your claim that couples will not accept older children into their home that is also a false assumption on your part (and, I believe, on the part of many other people). There was a 2003 study done by two McGill University researchers, assisted by three co-researchers, who found that in their sample of families considering domestic adoption:

* Almost 90% said they would adopt a child over three.
* 85% would adopt a child of different racial origin.
* 74% would adopt a child with minor developmental delays.

So, if families would be interested in adopting "hard-to-place" children, whats the problem? The researchers found that the main barriers to adopting children in care were barriers within the system, namely:

* Lack of funding to pay adoption workers.
* Adoptions given lower priority than protection work.
* Poor collaboration between public and private agencies.
* Differences in policies between agencies.
* Inadequate post-adoption services and adoption subsidies.

Until these barriers are knocked down, thousands of Canadian children will stay forgotten. I won't be so bold as to project these findings on the American system however it would be interesting to see a similar study "down there".

Heather B

Because adoption is all about them wanting a baybeeeee and little to do with any altruistic act of giving a home to a child who actually needs one. Preventing abortion at all costs in the hope that they'll be given a baby is the bottom line.

It's so sad what adoption has become in the USA. It is supposed to be a social service for the children but in fact is nothing but a business profiting from the 'needs' of adults

Don't worry, anyone who criticizes the status quo here gets flamed and called names (for example 'anti-adoption) LOL they seem to think that we don't care about getting homes for kids who need them when in fact it is the quite the opposite! It is the kids I care about. The KIDS folks!

'in the child's best interests' has come to mean whatever suits the folk who want the baybeeees. Go figure.

mommyof3

I think it is the mothers decision on abortion.. I also think that the decision should be made before 8week. that is a whole month after missed periode to decide whether they want to keep it or not.

I also agree with you on the "theres tons of babys" NEEDING adopting, why havent they found homes yet?!!! I agree....

I dont understand why this is such a huge subject.. It would be just like a misscarriage having an abortion before 8wks. I just think it is evil of people trying to force moms and stress them into doing something they dont want to consider :-)

kateiskate

An abortion is a medical procedure used to terminate a pregnancy. Surrendering a child for adoption is a decision made after the child is already born. So one can never be an alternative to the other.

Daisey Duck

It isn't a matter of feeling sorry for anyone. It's a matter of life verses death. Abortion is murdering an unborn child. Adoption is giving that life a chance to live. No child asked to be be made and no unborn child says "hey kill me now". And as far as who needs to be adopted all children regardless of their age need a good loving home. It is not for anyone to decide what age child another should adopt that is their decision and their decision only. And for those who think that it was the woman's lifestyle that made her infertile how do you know everyone I know who can't have baby's is because of a medical reason that was out of their control. As I've said before just because someone can get pregnant doesn't mean they should be a parent and just because someone can't doesn't mean the shouldn't be one either.

tish_part deux

the "save the children/fetus" excuse is simply a red herrings to normalize passing off children from young poor mothers to older (usually infertile) women who feel "entitled" to a baby.

when adoption returns to it's original premise (to provide homes for homeless children) and not children for people who (for whatever reason) can't have one, i'll be less critical.

ps. what about the people with cancer who can't get health insurance? what about the laborer who waits for an organ transplant because some corporate executive paid more money to get to the top of the list? what about the women who are forced to risk their health and autonomy as a surrogate because the military won't pay a living wage?

why is it that we should feel sorry because someone can't get pregnant? the ability to get pregnant is NOT a life or death issue; especially when MOST women who can't get pregnant (not all--please no more stupid as$ email please) are infertile due to lifestyle choices.

Mei-Ling

"what about the families who can't have babies, think about those women?"

When does a mother "owe" another prospective mother her child?

Are some mothers more "entitled" to children than others?

"I'm right sick of the anti adoption crowd and I take great peace of mind in knowing they are bitter people..."

I'm not bitter. I did not have a "bad" experience. I just happen to dislike that adoption has become more about an adult wanting to parent than a mother who wants to keep her child.

Tam

I am pro-choice but would never have an abortion myself. I feel that a woman needs to make that decision for herself. With that being said, my husband and I chose to adopt and we chose a beautiful preschooler out of an Eastern European orphanage. We have never regretted our decision. We only wish we would have known her as a baby. I do not feel sorry for people who cannot have birth babies. I don't think they would want my pity. I had already had a child before we adopted. Therefore, skipping the cute and cuddly infant stage wasn't as big a deal to me. For others, it is a life long dream to experience that infant stage and they have to follow their hearts, too.

Mom2-3boys

People aren't suggesting adoption because they feel sorry for waiting adoptive parents. They are suggesting is as an alternative to killing babies. Yes there are other older kids to adopt. Does that mean the babies should be aborted, rather than adopted? I don't see your point...
People are suggesting adoption for the babies not the adoptive parents, I'm not sure why people aren't getting that. As far as the rosaries off ovaries bologna; you can prefer life and not be religious.

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