What knowledge or experience do you have that will assist you win adopting/fostering?
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What knowledge or experience do you have that will assist you win adopting/fostering?
 
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where is everybody?
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you don't win. oh when, i got it now. i was 21 when i had my first foster child. i was married to a navy man. we did foster parenting for 17 years in several states. most the time i did it alone because he was out to sea. i adopted on of the foster kids. i have 4 kids i gave birth to and him=5. one of the dumbest statements i hear is all they need is for someone to love them. it takes alot more than that. i did special needs kids, pregnant teens, teens with babies, etc. it can be rewarding yes, but also draining. have a support system with others who know what it's like |
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BRUCE J
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Totally agree that love is not enough!! You must love from that place that gives to the unlovable. These children are hurting and hurting people are messy! Messy emotionally, messy developmentally....you name it they can mess it up. It is a thankless, lonley job but it is the most important work you will ever do.
You have to boldly lead and parent these children. Mine took kindness as a weakness and thought that a weak person cannot be trusted to care for them.
When we became a bold, fair, firm, LEADER they responed and trusted us...but it took literally years. Be patient, kind (especially to yourself), fearless, tolerant and flexible.
That is the best advice I can give,
Bruce and Rhonda |
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Randy B
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The first time, I didn't have any. I had only been married for 8 months before we applied and within 4 months we had our daughter.
This last time, I still didn't have any special knowledge or experience other then being a father for 15 years. This last time it took 4 1/2 months. |
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HappyMomAnna
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OMGosh how true the above post is! "All they need is Love!" Ha ha ha! Not exactly!
My expereince was the fact I was a young mom--who had managed to take the right steps to end an abusive marriage while protecting and meeting the needs of my children...
My oldest bio child had a terrible accident at age 9 and required years of therapy and surgeries...
When we decided to adopt the history of our lives and how we managed under difficult situations added to our expereince and demonstrated we were Not the type who would just give up if things got hard down the road. |
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5littlemonkeys
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I have an early childhood education degree, sable relationship, and many years of experience with children. |
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 Does the state pay foster parents? |
i know some people who have 5 foster kids right now - ---
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i am NOT making a judgment call - i admire anybody who opens their home to children
i was just HOPING ... |
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 What do you all think about this list? Do you agree? (See link below:)? |
http://www.adopting.org/ Details
Here's another one:http://www.adopting.org/... |
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 If a birthmother lost her baby to adoption in Ohio in 1980, what should she do next to find him? |
| She has registered on ISSR,etc. All details were kept from her and no family left to ask. What about one of those Omni Trace type groups? Shedoesn't want to interrupt a life. Just wants to know ... |
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| Has anyone seen this show? |
There is great show on TLC right now. It is about PAP's being taken advantage of by a woman who is claiming to be pregnant and planning on giving them her baby.
It is a Dateline S... |
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 As a AP, what is your feeling on your child looking for thier birth parents? |
| My mom is okay with it. As a matter of fact, she has been very supportive of my wants. They have told me everything they know and I know they will be behind me the entire way. They do realize that ... |
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 Why did you choose to adopt internationally rather than domestically? |
*I'm asking this question to whom it actually applies
*I've adopted from China myself. I'm interested to read why others have made similar decisions. And to perhaps dispel ... |
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| How can i write a formal but personal letter? |
| i need to write a formal but personal letter to give reference to fostering a child. I am haveing alot of trouble with this and the letter has to be finshed for tomorrow. Can you help? 10 points for ... |
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 Why do some adoptee's not want to meet their birth family? |
| One of my best friends is adopted and has no desire to meet her birth family. I did not find out she was adopted until we were adults, I would of never guessed because she looked so much like her ... |
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 Adoptees: Did your family have pictures of your natural family up on walls with other family pictures? |
Did you like this; did you not like this? Any concerns with doing so?
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No, it is not an open adoption, my son'd adoption is international and I know VERY little ... |
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 Can anybody share their experience with me on adoption reunion. I would just like to hear from adoptees.? |
| I met my birth mother a year and a half ago through the registry on adoption.com. I was curious about where I came from. I am 33 and my birthmom is 49. I feel like she is very immature and very self ... |
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 Can a birth father take legal action? |
i hope this doesn't sound like a bad question and i am simply asking for sensible answers, thanks :)
can a birth father take legal action? i am from the uk and was 'seeing' ... |
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 In Ohio after a child is adopted are they checked up on or after they.re adoption do they not chechk up on thm |
| I'm doing a persuasive research essay on adoption.I'm arguing that after a child is adopted they should checked up on anually.... |
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| Women Shelter...? |
| (If you look at the question that I asked before about running away, its related to that question so you should read that so you can understand this one). I'm going to runaway but some people ... |
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 Adoption?? |
My mother adopted my daughter when i was 17
we were in agreement that everything would be the same,but now my mother has my daughter calling HER mommy....
this really hurts me that my ... |
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 It has been said that adoptees & first families need state protection from each other...? |
This has been used as an argument to keep adoption & birth records sealed, and family members apart.
1) For how long, if any amount of time, do you believe mandatory protection is ... |
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 Why the need for secrecy in adoption?? |
Just today I found a current Australian research article about the effects of secrecy in adoption and it's impact on adoptees.
The article can be found here - (not long)
http://www.... |
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 Marriage issue? |
| Alright so I refuse to have children, and I also refuse to be married. But if you have a very good career, make more than enough money for you and a child, and are perfectly mentally stable, would a ... |
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| I was adopted and i need help finding my birth mother? |
| I was born may 18th 1974 in syosset new york and my birth name was kenneth joseph smith. My birth mother was puerto rican and she was born in 1958 and she gave me up at the age of 16 yrs old. Her ... |
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 Vietnam......? |
do you know if they do single parent adoptions???
also can you pick the age of the child and gender
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