What makes You give a thumbs down?

Randy B

I like how HappyMomAnna put it. There definitely is a "fan club" in many cases that will thumbs up or thumbs down a person regardless of what is being said. I've had it where I have given essentially the same answer as someone else and they received thumbs up while I recieved thumbs down. I wouldn't be surprised if HappyMomAnna gets TU for her answer while I get TD.

I can honestly say though that it doesn't matter to me if there are TU or TD. I do get a chuckle about the disparities in how they are applied though. It just outlines the hypocrisy of some people. For those reasons I don't bother giving TU or TD either. I just don't see the point. If I disagree with someone then I can articulate my feelings in my answer and let the person who asked the question decide what is best for them. If they are open to listening, they will. If they are looking to push their own agenda then what I have to say won't make a difference to them anyway.

Philippa

I do that when someone is being nasty

Cambria

When someone is being incredibly rude

When someone is giving false information

When their answer has no relevance to the question because they only read the first two word of what the asker said before responding

And to be totally honest there have been times when I am just in a really pissy mood and I give TD's to anyone who's answer annoys me. lol But that is pretty rare!

HappyMomAnna

Some of us have a fan club that will automatically thumb either way...

I don't pay attention to the Thumbs other then to confirm the fact I really must have irritated one of my Fans.

Unless, I get an overwhelming number of them--and then I can review my answer and see what I may have written that was clearly something to thumb down.

If you are in the Adoption section well---the Thumbs have little to do with the Content of the Answers and far more to do with the Agenda of the Thumbers...

I honestly believe that there are several people who are the same person... This forum is fine for some issues I am not nearly as bothered by the Thumbers as I am those who Post a Baiting Question and ALWAYS select the Best Answer that promotes their own agenda! (and I think that in some cases even those are just the same person picking their own answers!)

Lisa

If there is incorrect information being given i'll give a thumbs down or if someone doesn't even answer the question at all.

Raven

I only give a thumbs down when I know the answer is wrong or incorrect (for example - someone recommending a person give their 2 month old Motrin for a fever) or when someone has obviously just responded with garbage for the points.

Lucy da cat

When I find someone's answer rude, annoying, misinformed, offensive, or mean-spirited.

I thumb up funny, thoughtful answers that I appreciate or agree with.

Kevin 347...lol

i generally dont rate unless an answer is really good or really bad. for an answer to be really bad for me it must have been rude, there is false info, or it is just plain nasty and wrong!

realmom lese

I usually give lots of thumbs up to good answers. I have given thumbs down a few times for very bad answers, but not often. I just try to ignore them.

There are certain AP's on this board that will give a natural mother a thumbs down no matter what her answer is.

See?

Quetzal

I believe that this section is divided into to main groups -- adoptive parents and adoptees. I have noticed which ones fall into which category. I have noticed that in some answers that I mention that I am an adoptive parent, I receive more negative than positive responses. I do understand that some, if not many, adoptees have had negative experiences. However, those of us who are adoptive parents should not receive an automatic thumbs down just because we mention it.

Vickie T

I just always wonder why the best answers picked by the votes usually has many less TU and TD then the number of voters. Has anyone else noticed that too?
I don't do much TU or TD cuz it doesn't seem to really matter round here.

BLW_KAM

Answers having nothing to do with the question is probably my number one TD provoker. Name calling comes next (regardless of who it's aimed at adoptee, natural parent or AP) followed by rants and uncivilized behavior.

I must be earning my wings. I seem to be attracting quite a few TDs myself lately. I feel so special!

Jackie B

If the answer is wrong (to a question that has a definitive answer) or to people that are unnecessarily rude to anyone who is asking (what appears to be) a legit question.

Stupid thoughtless answers by someone that has no clue. Sometimes the person is just plain mean or cruel.

snowwillow20

I very rarely give a thumbs down. If the person is saying something mean calling names I give a thumbs down. If I simply disagree I do not give a thumbs down.

Jennifer L

I second (or third) HappyMom's response!

For me personally, I do read the responses before attaching a "thumb." I don't attach a "thumb" to everything I read.

I have a tendency to TD the "always or never" answer. IE: Adoptees -always- feel this way. AP's -never- do that. It's more of a principle thing for me. I think the human experience is so broad that rarely, blanket "always or never" statements can be issued. I also TD responses that presume to speak for other people. I don't care if it's APs presuming to speak for adoptees, or adoptees presuming to speak for other adoptees, or all of the above presuming to speak for first parents. No one person's experience is absolutely identical to another's. Speak for yourself, that's fine. Just don't speak for someone else.

I will TD answers that are a rant or don't answer the question.

I will TD and report answers that attack specific members. I will TD answers that are nasty, mean-spirited and malicious in nature. I also report and TD soliciting questions/answers.

I will TD answers that are obviously troll-ish, or so incredibly stupid that no rational person would take them seriously.

I -may- TD answers that I just disagree with, depending on the answer and situation. If I disagree with what is said, but it's phrased in a polite and non-snarky manner, I don't TD. I will TD answers that are factually incorrect, including uncited sources or cited sources that don't say what the poster -said- it does.

I don't TD opinions, experiences or feelings, unless they are phrased in a manner that is rude, attacking or insulting. Insightful, profound or clever answers always get a TU. I really don't give thumbs based upon who the person is, but there are people who get a lot of TDs from me based upon my other criteria.

I know it sounds like I have a lot of criteria here, but I don't dwell over every single answer and agonize about whether or not to give it a thumb. Sometimes I feel like it and sometimes I don't.

Rowan

I almost never thumbs down a answer, unless it's so obviously ridiclous, or potentially misleading to someone.

i've given maybe 3 thumbs down..i dont count to be honest.

jova-rae

i dont inless its a rude or judgemental answer to my own question, i dont do it to other peoples

Flying Monkey #073177

I'll give a thumb down if an answer is abusive, trollish or if the information given is blatantly incorrect. I used to thumb out of emotion but I stopped bothering with that ages ago, now if I find an answer offensive to me I fire off an email and initiate a conversation instead.

beetlemilk

I give thumbs, ups and downs liberally. I give down's to judgemental answers, wrong answers, offensive answers, and answers that are extremist. I do not thumbs down answers that are opinion in nature that I don't agree with as long as its respectable and not offensive

I have noticed that I receive more thumbs down when I have a top contributor badge too

tish_part deux

when people pepper their "right" to adopt and scheme on other women's babies with "god", "jesus", "christian..."

then...DOWN WITH THE THUMBS!

Daisey Duck

I also agree with HappyMomAnna. I don't td unless the answer is a rant or is not answering the question, or if it is rude and hateful to others.
I do believe that some in this section just see who the poster is and automatically td them without even reading their answers, which to me is kinda childish but to each their own I guess.
I too have an anti-fan club. lol

Cath

If its a stupid answer i will.

grapesgum

Great question!!

People who troll for babies (I also report them).

People who try to uphold the win-win-win myth about adoption.

People who call single parents scum.

People who are not adoptees (mostly adoptive parents) who answer questions about how adoptees feel.

People who try to push open adoption as a painless way to give your child away.

People who claim they are Christians and want to "save" children.

ETA - Thanks OP for illustrating my last point so clearly with the clarification.

celtic.piskie

Someone with whom i disagree mainly.

Usually because they wonder WHY adoption is bad, even though there are sooo many of us here who say it's been bad for us, apparently that doesn't count.

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