What questions would you ask potential adoptive parents?

Possum

If you're considering relinquishing your child - make sure you read this brochure -
http://www.cubirthparents.org/booklet.pdf
It's a must read - written by those that know and have walked in your shoes.

maybe

--Are you now or have you ever been addicted to drugs or alcohol?
--Is there any history of substance abuse in your family?
--Do you like to gamble?
--What are your religious beliefs?
--How much have you earned in each of the last 10 years?
--What is your level of education?
--Do you believe in corporal punishment?
--Is there any history of mental illness in your family?
--Do you have any criminal history, either misdemeanor or felony?
--Will the wife be a stay-at-home mother?
--If the child ever gets in trouble, gets arrested, etc., how will you respond?
--What is your credit score?
--Will you submit to drug screening?
--Will you submit to a formal mental health evaluation?
--How do you plan to pay for the child's education?
--Do you believe in "tough love?"
--Do you have any other children?
--Do you plan to have other children (either biological or by adoption)?
--How does you extended family view adoption?
--How do you resolve domestic arguments?
--Has anyone in you family ever been involved in domestic violence in any way (victim or other)?
--Do you have medical insurance?

...just to list few.

sunny

If you won the lottery tomorrow, would you keep your baby?

cmc

I would discuss how much contact you want & what if you change your mind about contact later.

I would ask about anything important to you - religion, politics, guns in the home, smoking, education ... anything that you think would matter.

I would ask when/how they will tell the child about the adoption and about you (I think the child should know from day 1).

I would ask about other family members and if they support the adoption. (will your child have loving grandparents...).

Suzy Sunshine

In what capacity?

As a birthmother I wouldn't ask any questions because it do not believe it is healthy or appropriate for birthmothers to choose adoptive parents for their children.

If I were screening parents I would ask them why they chose adoption. I would ask them about their values and parenting plan. I would ask what time and resources they had to devote to child rearing. I would ask them how they handled conflict within the family and with the world at large. I would ask how many books they read a year and how they spend holidays. I would ask how they met and about their spouse best and worst qualities.

Je June

Will you take good care of this child?

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