What would be your holiday wish in adoption?
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What would be your holiday wish in adoption?
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Both individual and systemic/reform?
I don't think I am allowed to put my thoughts because then I am engaging in chat and can get my question deleted. (still learning the ropes a year later!)
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Flying Monkey #073177
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My wish would be to see my son, just a fleeting glance would be enough.
Reform wise I would like to see ALL adoptees able to obtain their OBC. |
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Looney Tunes
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That there is NO need for a foster care system. |
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Laurel J
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No more sealed records!
All I wanted for Christmas was my birth certificate. |
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Mei-Ling
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To make prospective parents sign a legal contract that they would do their best in keeping the link to the country of origin alive.
Sure, there are many kids who do not care about their birth countries. But then, there's always quite a few who DO care. |
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grapesgum
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Individual wish - open adoption records so family members lost in the Era of Mass Surrender can reconnect
System - end adoption as a unregulated money-making industry. All members of the triad would be better served by eliminating payoffs to the "middleman" (includes federal government "incentives" paid to states and outrageous "service" fees paid to lawyers and agency adoption workers). |
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Lori A
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That every first parent has the opportunity to know how their child is doing.
Unsealed records. |
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Gaia Raain II
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Individual: That there would be no need for adoptive parents in the first place.
Systemic: That every single PAP who was approved to adopt would have to complete a whole lot more requirements prior to approval. I'd add on reading the books:
Journey of the lost self
Twenty things adopted kids wish their adoptive parents knew
Primal wound
Helping children cope with separation and loss
Lost and found
Beyond consequences, logic, and control
I'd also add on a complete psych eval and an interview with Gavin DeBecker to determine a person's likelihood of abusing their future children.
There are a lot more changes I'd like to see, but those top my list, personally. |
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Lucy Deana
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my wish: to find my birth family, and to have the reunion i have thought about
my wish for others: that all records would be unsealed and people would have the right to get their birth certificate, and know the details that are rightfully there! |
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Tammy K
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My wish would be to give children a forever family by adopting, so they don't ever have to worry about not having a family. Any age child as they all need a loving family and not a foster home. |
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gablueeyes1978
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to be a mother is all i want for this Christmas and all Christmas to come it does not matter if the child was from me (if that could happen but i can not have children) or from another woman all i want is to be a mother |
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Big Bertha
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That all unwanted babies find loving homes. There are so many people who want a child. |
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gibberish
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My holiday wish is that all the mothers who face this crisis would place their children in the arms of loving families who so desperatly want to be parents. This is the ultimate gift a person can give is to do what is honorable and right rather to think selfishly of one's own needs. I wish for homes for all the orphans worldwide as every child deserves a loving nurturing home. |
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 Closing Open Adoptions? |
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 Does International Adoption Exacerbate the Problem it Hopes to Solve? |
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 Time off work--adoption? |
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 Should I have concerns about a child that was adopted once and the adopting parents disrupted the placement? |
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 Why do People Found Unsuitable to Adopt Still feel 'Entitled' to a Child? |
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Is this in the ... |
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 Considering adoption of girlfriend's 3 year old son. Bio never in the picture. Does this sound reasonable? |
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 Why are most of these responses negative towards adoption? |
| My husband and I have just started the adoption process in the UK and are trying to do as much research as possible. I have stumbled along a number of questions and responses on here and have been ... |
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 Filling a "void" when you adopt? |
Ok. There is something with this "filling a void" thing that I just cant seem to understand.
If you have a bio child then are you filling a "void"?
or is it just ... |
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 Do any of you know this guy? |
I've been in contact with him for almost a year now....
http://www.myspace.com/c
How could anyone feel it's OKAY to Scan this guy out of his baby, S... |
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| Earliest Memories as a Child? |
| I was curious to see if anybody else had trouble recalling life prior to being adopted? This question is more for those that were in an orphanage, foster care or another type of care for the first ... |
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 Some questions about infants in foster care? |
i know that when teenagers or older toddlers are in foster lacement, the parents get a budget to buy there children things such as clothes and food and they get the medical card.
when ... |
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 Why is it so difficult to adopt older children in the US when so many need parents? |
| We have our homestudy done and everything in place but the kids. I don't blame social workers for choosing the people who appear to be as good parents as us but have all the material world items ... |
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 Can Someone "Talk" Me Through The Adoption Process? :)? |
Like what happens and stuff?
Will they come and visit me?
Just "common" questions like that need answerin really :)
Or even just 1 or 2 facts etc that you no would be a help :... |
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 My son's maternal grandmother contacted us and she's not supposed to. What do I do? |
| We have an open adoption with my son's natural mother and it is very good. She is 23. However, somehow his maternal grandmother got our contact info and called us. The only thing I know about ... |
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 My husband and I want another child? |
| we have 3 children in foster care already (we can't have our own) and we want to adopt them. we have a 3 bedroom house (my husband and I in one room, Nic and Tony in a room, and Krista in the ... |
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 Celebrity adoption? |
| I'm honestly just curious about people's opinions on this. I've seen a lot of bashing towards celebs adopting - namely Madonna (who I can't stand to begin with, but that's ... |
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 Are some other members of the triad cowardly? |
If APs that make multiple accounts to jump on this forum are cowardly, what about the others that do that as well? Is it cowardly for them, too, or just the APs?
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 Preconceptions about people who can adopt?!? |
I have always wanted to adopt..but imagine that the only people who are allowed to adopt are 2 parent families, well off, and have a very well paid job.
Would i be correct in this, or would a ... |
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 Adoptees, Did your background information turn out to be complete and accurate? |
What type of information did you have?
Where did you originally get your information?
How did you verify that it was or was not complete & accurate?
Do you have any related ... |
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 Do you need 2 parents for adoption? |
can you adopt a child if you are single in the US?
or is it really necessary to have 2 parents?
do those parents need to be married?... |
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