When You Adopt/Foster A Child From A Violent Home?

HappyMomAnna

I believe it depends on the case. Our children have been adopted for nearly 6 years and there is still an order of protection in force. I have been told by the doctor's office as well as one of the schools that the protection order has popped up and for a moment they were surprised one had been taken against Us?---but, then they realize it is not an order toward us but the bio family.

I am not sure if the order is directly connected to the children--or if it is connected to the "other person" naming the children as who is protected from that person. Meaning I suspect that the order of protection is on the parent in our case--and names the children as being protected from her. Instead of being connected to the child.

I believe where it has popped up in our case was through state health insurance records. While we may have obtained new Social Security numbers both are still connected, and the state provided medical or medicaid has records about the children--these records are still connected to the children even with the adoption, new name and new social security numbers. The fact the children are the same children using the medical as they were while they were foster children is all connected in the health records.

So if the child's come from violence as our's did--then there is bound to be something in the health files someplace. So I can't be sure this isn't just an issue where something from the past pops up because No matter how we think the past is earased it isn't even when we change names and numbers.

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Hi,

Not always especially while in foster care. In foster care the goal is to help the family, and if hte parents are demonstrating counselling etc. they may be able to hvae visitations. Keeping in mind much abuse happens while under the influence of alcohol and drugs, or because a person is overwhelmed. With education and treatment the abuse can stop.

However there are those cases where yes the parents are just monsters and we hope they never get to see the children.

Our childrn had suffered abuse and the courts do not allow contact, but they did allow contact whle they were in foster care, supervised, but they did allow it.

Adopted Jane

Hmm tricky situation as they know you and that you have him.
I'd be asking for one to be granted as part of the adoption order after all thats what they are always banging on about , the courts i mean, "in the child's best interest" therefore this is absolutely in the child's best interest from drugged up violent maniac people

Marie C

You may be able to go through the court system to get a "restraining order" that would prevent the child's birth parents from coming within 50-100 feet of him. I think it would be a good idea to consult with your attorney on this. If you are going to adopt this little boy, certainly you will want to give him the appropriate protection that will remove him from a violent environment and allow him to heal emotionally from his past.

SagaSue

It depends on the arrangements that are made by the court the child is removed from the birth family. In some cases, no contact is permitted. In other cases, contact may be allowed, but it will be supervised by a social worker on official premises.
My daughter has had no contact with her birth family since she was placed in care. She has asked me if she can see them when she is older, and I have told her that I will help her to see them if that is what she decides to do.

5littlemonkeys

While you are fostering social services may put a no contact order in but that is highly unlikely because their goal usually is reunification. Even if that is not the goal they need to be sure they gave them enough opportunities to try to parent again. One parent can get one against the other on the kids behave will they are in foster care.
After adoption you can get an order and the social workers could help you with it.

jm1970

The court will usually issue an order of no contact between the parent and child (from family court)...this is not the same thing as a personal protection order (which usually comes from circuit court),but does basically the same thing.

If one has not been issued, you can ask the child's attorney to ask for one.

Keep in mind, that a PPO or an order of no contact is a piece of paper...if the person really wants to cause harm, they will...do not let it give you a sense of false security.

The order does allow you to call the police if they show up and get protection from them, so they are good, but not fool proof!

I don't know that I've read your other questions.

beyes

I'm not thinking the same way as Shawty. The child has the right to live as a common human being. And if they do come from a violent home do not always become a violent boy or girl. NMostly depend on how the foster parent treat her/him and show their care and affection, let them know that life is beautiful with all the adventurous things we face, Secondly It will depend on the surroundung environment where they live. Positive exposure to life and treat them as what they are will support them to grow better and they will love you evenmore rather than their love to their genetical parents.

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I would think that there should be something documented so that they cannot come near the child since the reason teh child is no longer with them is due to violence. But if in any case, you on behalf of the child can definitly get the order against the parents without a problem. If this is an emergency type of situation, and you are going about adopting or taking emergency custody of the child ( depending on your state ) contact the magistrate/commissioner and inquire about getting the protective order against the parents, even if its temp. If you get a temp order, it normally is like 2-3 days until you go to court to get the final one. Good luck on that. And God bless you and your family for having concern for that child. He is very lucky to have you in his life...â™¥ Take care

Dream_Weaver

In a case such as that, you would hope that was the situation. If you are adopting the child, then the birthparents no longer have any rights to see the child. If they continue to try, than as the parent you have the right to seek a restraining order. While fostering, you need to make sure you speak with the caseworker about what the case plan is. If they are going towards reunification, than the child will have supervised visits with the parents. If not, a judge will decide that the parents cannot see the child.
If you are the guardian (even temporary) you can request from the judge that the parents not be allowed to see the child. All in all, it just depends on the situation and if the court decides that the parents are a threat to the child.

Jennifer L

Not if they make my name and address public!

(see Gershom's question about what Ohio is doing)

william jacob(23/12/06)i love u

id think so.make sure its a closed adoption.i was in an abusive foster home so i know what its like.well done

xxshawty_wahinexx

i'm not sure. but if you're adopting a child from a violent home, make sure its a CLOSED adoption so neither parent or child can find each other. its always better to adopt from like another state or country, that way the parent can't find the child easily. BUT, you must also consider the child. the child has been through some traumatic times, and may end up being violent too in the future. if you're adopting a child from a home like that that is old enough to remember it, therapy might be a really great thing to consider just so that you can help eliminate any emotional, social, and mental baggage.

The adopter doesn't have the power - within reason - to decide if its a closed adoption. Moreover every case is unique and social services will aim to produce something beneficial to ALL parties involved, including the abusers who will be given a programme of self-help.
Protection orders are instigated against parents in some cases, although they tend to blanket the entire family and can stop the child from seeing their siblings or other family members. Only in extreme cases is it the best thing for the child. Personal emotion aside closed adoptions are rarely the best way forward for a growing sound mind.

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