When is adoption "right"?

julie j

Hi Kristy,

Adoption should definately be considered in cases where the parents are either dead, drug addicts or physically abusive. If the parents are just young or poor, those reasons by themselves are not the right reasons to separate them from their children because the children are not in danger. The child should always be the main concern. There may be other solutions that can be explored besides adoption. For instance, if the child would be safe with a relative, then that would be preferable to being adopted outside of their own family.

As for the adults who want to adopt a child, I think adoption can be "right" if they do a few things first. If applicable, they should resolve any feelings of grief over infertility. An adopted child never replaces a biological one. Each child should be honored for the unique individual that they are. The adults should thoroughly research adoption to fully educate themselves on what it means from the child's perspective, and what the child's needs will be both short & long-term, focusing specifically on what their particular child needs. They should think about everything they can do for a child, rather than how a child could meet their own needs. They should always insist upon a totally ethical adoption, as open as possible. Money should never be profited by anybody in any adoption!

In summary, adoption can be "right" when there is a child who has no other alternatives but to be placed outside of his/her family, when the adoption is ethically squeaky clean, and when the adoptive parents are totally honest with the child about every aspect of the child's history and heritage. Thanks for asking.

julie j
reunited adoptee

Jennifer L

Adoption is right when all parties (birthfamily and adoptive family) make an informed and careful decision about what is best for the child.

BPD Wife

When it is in the best interest of the child.

HondaRGurl

I just thought i'd share a little bit of my story with you and maybe you'd understand why i think Adoption is right. I was 2 years old when i was taken from my birth mother. I am now 20 years old. I grew up always knowing that i was adopted and always wanted to meet my biological family. I always wondered what they were like. I met them a couple months after i turned 18. I am VERY glad that i was adopted. My biological mother and father were both drug addicts and alcoholics. My mom is no longer because she contracted Hepatitus C which affects the liver. She still doesn't keep her house clean and has thousands of roaches ( the the way she had 6 kids all of us were taken but she got 2 back) My father doesnt anymore because of his heart but he still smokes marijuana and is very addicted to lortabs he buys them off the street. I realized that being taken away from my mother and father was the best thing that could have ever happend to me in my life. It was hard growing up knowing i was adopted but i loved my foster family because they chose me. And thats what they told me my whole life was that i was special because i was chosen. I still talk to my biological parents but Love my foster family.
In other words if the child is in a bad situation they should be adopted. I also think that even if the child is not in a bad situatution but would be A LOT better off being adopted then its a good thing. I do not hate my Biological family for the way things happend. I am glad i was adopted. I had a better life because my mother eventually decided we were better off being adopted and she was right. I still talk to them i just understand more now.

Anne G

It is right to place a child out any time the mother doesn't feel as though she will do a good job of parenting--the most important thing is that the child be in an home where he/she is loved and well taken care of.

It is right to adopt when (a) you really want to parent enough that the biological origin of the child isn't as important as being a parent and (b) you have the money, time and a support structure to take on a difficult task.

momof3boys

When a person feels they can't give their baby/child the life they deserve so they want their child to go to a home that can love them and care for them or when a person is found incapable of caring for their child(ren) leaving the child(ren) needing a loving home.

lindsey

when you feel like you are ready and you have your house al ready for the child and to make sure that you have the right room for an adopted child thats when you ready!1

linzz

well u should luv someone that is already here instead bringing someone else into the world

Stephanie B

When you know that there is someone else in this world that could provide a better life for your child than you can

The OTHER Boelyn Chic

Adoption is most always right. If a woman decides for whatever reasons that she does not want to parent it is right. If children living in other countries are relinquished and placed in orphanages or given over to the state then it is right.
I don't remember the exact scripture but God does call us Christians to adoption. Adoption is a wonderful thing!

Ashley

Adoption is never wrong.

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