When is it too late to put a child up for adoption ?

Nora

i do not think she is adoptable call family services and talk to a caseworker.

joe joe

you are quite pathetic. for the child's sake, take her to the division of family services and turn her over to be placed in foster care, sign the paper terminating your parental rights, and they will get her an adoptive family who will love and care for her. I'm sure they won't be selfish fools like you.

Independ"ant"

and the other day it was your 3 yr. old and another reason.

Looney Tunes

You are a loser. You have asked the same question this week already.

You are almost the most insensitive *** I have seen in the past while. I hope you rot.

laura s

That's a shame that you are ready to give up your child. Didn't you bond with her for two years? Couldn't you have support from your family? I am just offering suggestions. Won't judge. i have a healthy child that he is my life! I am not sure if adoption is the way to go! You might want to contact the human services and give your rights up if you cannot hang in there! Thant is a really sad situation.

Flying Monkey #073177

You are a troll in one way or another, either you are ruffling feathers to get a reaction here or you are a MONSTER!

Mama of Three

OMG I can't believe you. You knew what you were up against when you kept her two years ago. All she know is you and she loves you and you just want to dump her and leave someone else to clean up what you are to lazy to do yourself. She is precious and needs your help. I have three babies all under three years old and i can tell you one thing. If any of them had a problem I wouldn't be putting the up for adoption for anything. Don't you feel any love or compassion for the child. I can understand that it can be hard as I grew up with a down syndrome sibling but that doesn't mean you leave her. It might seem crazy as I am only 23 but I really don't think what your doing is appropriate.

MamaKate

Dear Sam,

I have seen several questions similar to this one lately and am wondering if you are a troll, however, for the sake of possibility that you are truly in a situation of this kind of desperation or that someone else reading this is in a similar situation, I will answer sincerely.

No, it is not too late to place your daughter for adoption. However, I urge you and your wife to carefully consider the ramifications of doing so. You need to carefully weigh the emotional effects of adoption on all of you. Please research your options well and make this decision based on not just what seems to be a "out", but on what you, your wife and your daughter will experience as a result of this decision in the future.

If you do decide to place your daughter, her disability actually works in her favor. There are waiting lists to adopt children with her particular disability.

I understand that you are overwhelmed. Serious/chronic disease or illness in a child is very difficult to deal with and can be not only physically exhausting but emotionally draining as well. You do not mention the severity of your daughter's problem but I know that you needn't deal with it alone. There are all kinds of support groups and assistance out there for families in your situation. I hope you will reach out for some help.

Here are some links you might want to check out:

Adoption:

http://www.keepyourbaby.com/
http://www.exiledmothers.com/open_adoption/index.html

I know they are for expectant mothers considering relinquishment, but they contain information you NEED to know BEFORE you and your wife make this LIFELONG decision.

Downs Syndrome:

http://www.ndss.org/
http://www.nads.org/
http://www.down-syndrome.org/information/development/overview/?page=2
http://www.downsyndrome.com/
http://www.childrensdisabilities.info/speclists.html

You might want to look into some sort of respite care (relatives, private care, DS groups or through your local social services department) for your daughter so that you and your wife can have the opportunity to recharge sometimes.

Good luck to you and your family. I hope the decision you make is the best one for you, your wife and especially for your daughter.

Heather Leigh

Do us all a favor and get yourself fixed. We have enough trolls around here, we don't need you to reproduce any more.

Kizza

I'm sorry to say but you don't deserve the child as you are selfish. She loves you without question as she has no choice but you and your wife are horrible people and she would be better off with someone else

helpme

If you did not want this child you should have put her up for adoption when she was born,This is mean what you are doing because no matter what the child loves you and her mother she did not ask to be brought in to this world and she did not ask for her disability,Why not see if a family member will take her who will love her no matter what,I still think you two are being very mean and cruel.

Lori A

I smell set up to plug your agency with your other brand new account.

Leah

She is your responsibility how awful of you to give away an innocent baby. How sad of you only to worry about your own happiness, she did not ask to be born. Both of you need to step up and care for her, because I guarantee you giving her away does not guarantee you happiness. I am truly saddened by this and I think both of you are selfish beings, you will reap what you sow.

â™¥â™¥Ritaâ™¥â™¥

WOW!! There has a been a major BLOOM of TROLLS around here!!

Go build a bridge and crawl underneath it with the rest of the TROLLS...idiot!!

Must be the bro to that other TROLL who was hanging around earlier.

Linny G

Geeze. There are trolls of every kind here lately!! Be careful, they might go and report you if they don't like what you say!!!

â™¥Tomâ™¥ (I'm a Girl)

Nicole

Oh this is quite sad..... that poor child.
The likelihood of her being adopted is slim as most adoptive parents prefer babies. The older the child, the less likely she will be adopted, and her special needs may make it more difficult. Its likely she'll be placed in foster care and stay there for quite a while.
Contacting CPS is your best bet. Its much better to give this child up to foster care or an adoptive parent that will actually love and care for her, than for you two to keep her feeling the way you do.

chelsey

You are horrible, soulless beings. Place her in Catholic Charities or Private Organizations so she will be placed faster than in a public system.

Then you can go back to your "happy" lives and forget all about her. If you're not happy now, with your child, how the hell can you be happy if you quit and gave her away?

I hope you feel terrible.

mom2all

It is a hard decision to make.

I am not going to judge you. I would rather you give your child up for adoption if you don't think that you or your wife are able to raise her.

Do your research, talk with your wife, once you start and go through it, there is no going back.

I will pray for you and your family.

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