When you give your baby up for adoption where do all that money go?

tish_part deux

um...usually in the pockets of lawyers, adoption facilitators, adoption brokers, adoption counselors...basically anyone who gets paid to make sure the adoption happens...

the pregnant woman not so much. maybe some stretchmarks, hemorrhoids, milk she can't use, and a box of sanitary pads...

and maybe, she gets a couple of maternity tops from walmart, and some money for groceries, train fare to the clinic and usually a cheesy "thank you" gift after she hands over the goods.

honestly, i strongly advise any women from accepting gifts...it's places too much pressure to give up the baby. and most women don't know how they'll feel until after the baby is born and real.

ok..seriously, if you are minority (i'm assuming from your avitar that you are non-white) please be aware the any child you deliver will most likely be thought of as "special needs", "hard to place" or "available for a lower cost." in other words, adoption is an industry based on supply and demand. and the demand, my dear are non-minority babies.

if you are looking into adoption to make money, i'd strongly advise against it. if you are not interested in parenting...abortion might not be a bad option.

all i can say is get as much information as you can...

BTW: most adoption agencies ADVISE pregnant women to apply for medicaid. so often the money that the aparents "think" is going towards the mom...is not.

Aria

The biological mother gets nothing. If she did, it would be considered selling a child. If you adopt the baby out, you won't get paid for it. The fees paid to the adoption agencies by adoptive parents are mostly profit. Agencies are supposed to be non-profit, but by their big fat paychecks, I don't buy that for a second.

Sarah

No, you can't sell your baby. The money goes to the agency that handles the adoption.

steffers27

The person adopting your child pays for all your medical expenses, doctor visits, travel and such. It may be different for each person, but they usually just pay for those such things. They do not give you personally any money, they don't really "buy" your baby. You would however, be doing the right thing by giving your baby up for adoption instead of an abortion.

Devils Little Sister â„¢

I dont think the mom gets any money. I think it all goes to fund other children or the state keeps it. If you find a couple to adopt your baby they will pay your doctor bills and any food or housing you need. I have heard of people doing that.

Jori T

if ur keeping the baby just to make money, that's pretty sad & pathetic. Seriously, do the world a favor & keep ur damn legs shut

MamaKate

The money goes to everyone (Court, attorneys, counselors, social workers, agency owners, marketing consultants, etc.) BUT the biological parent(s).

cmc

Not much of the money goes to the natural mom. There are rules that differ by state as to what is allowed. Generally medical expenses can be covered, maternity clothes, some allowance to help with food and rent. I don't think you would come out ahead financially. It is just to help offset the cost of having a child.

Most of the money goes to the following:
- agency for homestudy (background check, interviews etc to determine if the person/couple is likely to be a good parent)
- agency classes about adoption and what to expect when raising an adopted child
- legal fees for terminating the rights of the natural parents
- outreach/advertising to find women who are considering placing children for adoption
- salaries for adoption agency staff (social workers etc)
- post placement visit to the home after the child is there to ensure things are going smoothly (required by most states)
- travel for adoptive parents if the natural mother is not local (we stayed out of state for 10 days)

I think our adoption cost about $15,000 to $18,000, and less than $2000 went to my daughter's natural mom.

Randi Z

The only time the "birth mom" gets money is when she is being a surrogate and is being paid to carry a baby for another couple. When you put your child up for adoption the couple adopting the baby pays for medical, some clothing and some food expenses. Some couples will even let you live with them rent free so they can be a part of the pregnancy. You will not make a profit. You would be doing a wonderful thing but it would be at the cost of your heart (emotionally) and body. Giving away a child will change you forever but so will abortion.

Money should be no part of your decision you can only do what is right for you.

racheellll :]

adoption would be way better, because abortion doesnt make you not be a mother, it makes you a mother of a dead child. instead you could give your baby to a loving couple. and you can choose open or closed adoption and umm. i dont believe you get money, your not selling your baby. thats illegal

Kathryn L

its ILLEGAL to "sale your baby" so if thats what you are thinking, forget about it. the adoptive agency may be able to help you pay bills and stuff while you are pregnant but thats about it./...please reconsider aborting your baby. there are so many people that want babies and would take excellant care of your child. also, abortions cost money, giving your baby to a family that wants it is FREE!

natashav2003

well i dont know how much money goes to the mom, as far as i know its illegal to accept cash cuz thats no different than selling a human being which is illegal....adoption is absolutely the right choice but do it because you dont want to be a murderer not because you think you can make money of it. thats sick.

snowwillow20

The momma don't get didily squat.

Carol c

Your question doesn't make sense.

Tyff Taff

You will not get anything but I would like to encourage you to give your baby up for adoption.

Alyson

go with adoption totally. just think about abortion really hard would u want tht horid thing to happen to u . THink of the suffering tht baby has to go throughg just because of u.

Nick ZR

i think the money goes to adoption agencies.to take care of the ''waiting children''.no,you wont get money for putting a baby for adoption thats illegal.and why would you want money anyways thats selling the poor thing.it would be better to putting it up then abort it.this is sad

boo

the lawyers get the money. please reconsider keeping your baby. it will be hard, but life is always hard anyway. but if you know that you would be an abusive or neglectfull parent, maybe. if you are thinking about getting money, you will be disappointed. they pay the doctors and hospitals directly through the lawyer. anyway, you will see that money really has no value compared to the happy face on your baby the first time it smiles at you. also, adoption lawyers will tell you anything, your baby will be with rich people, etc. once they get your signature they care nothing about you or your baby. their only objective is the money. read this book "A Death on Whitebear Lake" you sound very young. listen to your heart. if you need help, try and try till you get it. there are people who care, but it's not the adoption lawyers. may you be blessed with much happiness!!

Sarah B

Well, you probably won't get any money, but what you CAN get, is the satisfaction from knowing that you didn't kill your child, and that you gave a child to a couple who wants one and made them very happy.

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