Where can we adopt a child?

adstidamrn

My cousin has adopted 3 international children; 2 from China and 1 from Cambodia. It cost $13,000 for each of the children from China, and a little less than that from Cambodia. It completely depends on the country that's chosen.

Now, the problem that exists with international adoption is the fact that it takes forever to "secure" that adoption. It took my cousin an average of 9 months to 1 year to finalize everything. And, she and her husband had to spend 2 weeks in those countries before they released the children to them. One of the children ended up coming home with Hepatitis C (they weren't aware of this then) and was diagnosed here. Obviously, they love her and wanted to remain parents anyway.

I also have been around cousins who were adopted in the US. The other responder was right when they stated that there can be problems with the birth parents, but that all needs to be "fine-tuned" with a lawyer before adoption occurs. My aunt never had problems from the birth mother, yet my cousin wished to find her mother on her own. But she was an adult at that point.

There are risks no matter what route is taken. But I truly believe that our country has many, many children that need homes and love. Spend the money on an excellent lawyer to secure the adoption instead of paying another country "fees" to give those who are unfortunate a home.

aloha.girl59

In terms of adopting from the U.S., it might be best for the child, yes. Children who are foreign-born and then brought to the U.S. (or any other country besides their own) are losing a lot more than their original parents. They're losing their culture, language, and other people who look like they do. Is that to say that no one should adopt from foreign countries? Not necessarily. But there are thousands of children in the U.S. who are waiting for families because, for one reason or another, they have been removed from their homes. Some of these children have been abused, but some of them just had parents who couldn't take care of them. My recommendation would be for your parents to look into foster/adopt in your home state. Not only would you be adding to your family, but you would be helping a child who really needs it.

Stanley

We have adopted 3 children from foster care and are now working on our 4th adoption the same way. There are pros and cons for either a local adoption or a foreign adoption. No way is the "right" way. It must be a personal choice you make and feel right about. The one thing you do not want to do is adopt for the wrong reasons as it is not fair to the adoptee. Either method of adoption has no guarantees or assurances that you will have a "perfect" child and all will come with their own unique challenges and joy. We chose local adoptions over International adoptions because international can get expensive and complicated. Some children in foster care qualify for pre and post adoption services that can be of great benefit financially and emotionally. As for worrying about bio parents we have never meet them and they have had all rights terminated by the state and it has never been a problem nor have I ever heard of it as a problem. Private adoptions might come with a little more issues but I don't have experience to speak on this issue. I do know, for example, that my brother agreed to send his daughters bio-mother a Christmas card every year with a photo of her attached but other than that there is absolutely no contact with the bio-mom and they mail it with a return address.

Kathy V

go to texas....

dragonsbabe2006

i heard its easier to adopt from another country because you always have trouble with the parents in the U.S

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